would u relocate for another?

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Erin

I just don't see how you can know someone by spending time with them every few months and talking on the phone. You just don't see everything about that person like that.

That's absolutely not true.
It's just as easy to get to know someone very well in an LDR as it is in a geographically close relationship. You're only going to know as much about a person as they want you to know, so no matter where you are in terms of distance, be it a foot or 5000 miles, they have to want to let you in for you to really know them (and vice versa).

[RochesterSS]

If this is about you relocating to Richmond that was a joke. I was just trying to get you in the sac.

[Courtney]

^ur such a loser...

but yeah erin,if you had never met them and spent time with them before they moved then yeah that would be weird but i think if you have already known them then u can maintain it through phone calls and shit...for awhile at least..

[RochesterSS]

Originally Posted by Courtney

^ur such a loser...

That's not what you told me in your msgs

[kiMMie]

Originally Posted by Courtney

pretty explanatory...
would you?....not taking into consideration time of togetherness

Unfortunately, I think the length of "togetherness" bares a considerable factor in the answer of this question. A week with someone differs from being with someone for 6 months or even a year. I think relocation is a major lifestyle change. One must be in a place where they can drop everything and venture out with the chance of risk involved. If one just wants to be spontaneous, then go for it! It really depends where they are in their lives.

Personally... my answer is yes. Whereever, whenever.

[t-skywalker]

if it were for love......id do it in a heartbeat!

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by galaxie

You're only going to know as much about a person as they want you to know,

I beg to differ on this point.

When you get involved with someone on a very personal level, you learn a lot more about them than they wanted you to find out. You get to see the ins and outs, and sometimes you'll even end up knowing them better than they know themselves.

One of my main problems with LDRs is that you don't get to divine anything from their body language.

"What are you playing at?
"Words! Words! They're all we have to go on."
- Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead

[Grapes]

Originally Posted by RochesterSS

That's not what you told me in your msgs

We've all learned a lot about you since then.

[Erin]

Originally Posted by robyn

man i can't wait to have sex with the exact same person for fucking eternity

Me either. I hope I get to sleep with Jeff for the rest of my life. :)

[Erin]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

I beg to differ on this point.

When you get involved with someone on a very personal level, you learn a lot more about them than they wanted you to find out. You get to see the ins and outs, and sometimes you'll even end up knowing them better than they know themselves.

One of my main problems with LDRs is that you don't get to divine anything from their body language.

This is what I'm saying. You learn more by being around someone all the time as opposed to 3 or 4 times a year on vacation.

[robyn]

woah it just got really smug in here

[Bitchin]

Originally Posted by Erin

You guys are cute. But please don't go far away. :( I would have to move with you guys... That means I'd have to bring Jeff with me... It would be way to much work! :)

If i had a fricken penny for every time some one calls Jay and I cute.. I'd be the riches person. Seriously. Starting to dislike the word :P

But I dont think you have to worry bout the relocating thing for awhile... I gotta get him to the city first. Baby steps!
But discussion of moving to far far far away land may happen... And even if your not with moi.. in far far far away land. U'll have a home away from home!
And it may not be for forever, right? I've just found someone thats as crazy as I am.. on just goin and doin things.. its effing awseome! like the whole jumping on a plane to far far far away land! w00t randomness

[impure]

i have, i moved myself and my horse to phoenix for a man but also for the weather and my clients.

i think all 3 were equally considered.


probably wouldn't do it again.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

I beg to differ on this point.

When you get involved with someone on a very personal level, you learn a lot more about them than they wanted you to find out. You get to see the ins and outs, and sometimes you'll even end up knowing them better than they know themselves.

One of my main problems with LDRs is that you don't get to divine anything from their body language.

"What are you playing at?
"Words! Words! They're all we have to go on."
- Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead

It's not like you NEVER see your SO in an LDR. I see my boyfriend 7-10 days per month in a row. In a geographically close relationship I'd usually hang out with my bf 2-3 days per week, which equals 8-12 days per month. So really, the only difference is that it's all at once rather than spread out over the entire month.

People have to want to let you in for you to really know them. If someone isn't interested in opening up, the most you'll ever see of them is what they choose to show you. If they're all for letting you see their true colours, you'll see them in many different ways, not just in person.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Erin

This is what I'm saying. You learn more by being around someone all the time as opposed to 3 or 4 times a year on vacation.

Why do you assume that people in LDRs only see each other 3-4 times per year, and on vacation at that? That's not a fair assumption since the majority of LDRs in North America exist within a 5-hour drive therefore most LDR couples make the commute every second weekend.

[impure]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

I beg to differ on this point.

When you get involved with someone on a very personal level, you learn a lot more about them than they wanted you to find out. You get to see the ins and outs, and sometimes you'll even end up knowing them better than they know themselves.

One of my main problems with LDRs is that you don't get to divine anything from their body language.

"What are you playing at?
"Words! Words! They're all we have to go on."
- Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead

i had that problem, but then patterns develop.
after a while you can figure them out just by when and why the hesitate or the tone they take.

[ebbomega]

Just thought this'd be an appropriate thread for this...


DISCLAIMER: Not saying anything about anybody here, but this is fucking hilarious.

[PwInCeSs]

Originally Posted by galaxie

It's not like you NEVER see your SO in an LDR. I see my boyfriend 7-10 days per month in a row. In a geographically close relationship I'd usually hang out with my bf 2-3 days per week, which equals 8-12 days per month. So really, the only difference is that it's all at once rather than spread out over the entire month.

People have to want to let you in for you to really know them. If someone isn't interested in opening up, the most you'll ever see of them is what they choose to show you. If they're all for letting you see their true colours, you'll see them in many different ways, not just in person.

Exactly, it sounds like you are doing it the right way.

Some dont work out, and alot of people dont see eachother as much as it appears you two do.

I know someone who had only met the person she married 6 times (5-10 days each) befor they married, and he was here a week or 2 befor the wedding. Little to say there was ALOT she didnt know about him from over the phone (clearly you only know as much as the person lets you as you said)

There is obviously no guarantee with moving for a LDR but theres no guarantee if you are already in the same city, so its worth it to give love the same chance.

[mapleleaf4ever]

Originally Posted by galaxie

Why do you assume that people in LDRs only see each other 3-4 times per year, and on vacation at that? That's not a fair assumption since the majority of LDRs in North America exist within a 5-hour drive therefore most LDR couples make the commute every second weekend.

Then there's ones that are going to be like mine.

Two flight transfers... either Calgary or Ottawa... then Canadian North or First Air to Iqaluit.

I just checked the price, and it's cheaper for her to visit my Sister in Australia. lol

So it looks like I'll be seeing my woman whenever my company rotates me back to civilization. Which should be every 4 months or so.

[Erin]

Originally Posted by Bitchin

If i had a fricken penny for every time some one calls Jay and I cute.. I'd be the riches person. Seriously. Starting to dislike the word :P

But I dont think you have to worry bout the relocating thing for awhile... I gotta get him to the city first. Baby steps!
But discussion of moving to far far far away land may happen... And even if your not with moi.. in far far far away land. U'll have a home away from home!
And it may not be for forever, right? I've just found someone thats as crazy as I am.. on just goin and doin things.. its effing awseome! like the whole jumping on a plane to far far far away land! w00t randomness

You know I'll be there every so often. :)

[Erin]

Originally Posted by galaxie

Why do you assume that people in LDRs only see each other 3-4 times per year, and on vacation at that? That's not a fair assumption since the majority of LDRs in North America exist within a 5-hour drive therefore most LDR couples make the commute every second weekend.

Most people can't afford to see each other that often in an LDR. You are very lucky to get to see your boyfriend more then that. I agree that people only let you see what they want you to see. But I personally think that you can know someone a lot more when you live in the same area as them.

[TrixX]

oh man this thread is filled with disgustingly cute couples *barf* ;)

wheres my man that wants to relocate for me??????? shit

[rawb]

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[SEAN!]

unlikely I love vancouver and id only relocate for work, but thats because Im a soulless bastard.

if shortie looked like this id reconsider.

[SEAN!]

Originally Posted by TrixX

oh man this thread is filled with disgustingly cute couples *barf* ;)

wheres my man that wants to relocate for me??????? shit

you fly and a sweetheart, you'll get one