dating again...?

[MistressSpankME]

After a long, serious relationship. Is it like riding a bike? Because I'm scared shitless and I dont even want to get on!


Ok maybe I want to get on, or more appropriately, off ;). But I'll probably freak and ditch it before I can fall off and get hurt. It sure doesn't help either that things are kind of complicated....

I dont even know if I ever learnt how to properly "date", or if I have the communication skills to tell someone from the start that I dont want to be "with" anyone. And I think I've trusted like 2 boyfriends in my whole life so how on earth am I supposed to trust anyone else? Not to mention that most boys suck compared to my "boy" or whatever he is now :P

I'm not even the kind to have meaningless random sex. What the hell am I supposed to do!?! ack :/


p.s. This is a semi plea for help from my friends.. especially the single ones. I need to get out and meet cool boys (and maybe some girls while I'm at it) at least so I can convince myself they exist.

[miss.myra]

in my experience it was like 'oh my god, I'm suddenly an awkward 15 year old again'

I really had no clue. But don't worry, some boys find awkwardness charming :P

[MistressSpankME]

^ oh gawd, thats what I feel like already. Or that I've been released into the wild, I'm scared shitless and I'll I want to do is run back into the arms of my captor.

and the fact that some boys might find it charming should be reassuring, but part of me doesn't really care if other boys to find me charming :( (at least for now, I'm sure I'll get back on the wagon but I'm just so scared and a little confused right now).

[rawb]

just dive into it, go for more the conversation and the experience.

it really is not so bad when you realize no one has any idea what the fuck they're doing anyways. you will inevitably screw up but it's a chance to learn to laugh at yourself.

[baby-phat]

^^ so true..

[ty_guy]

Originally Posted by rawb

just dive into it, go for more the conversation and the experience.

it really is not so bad when you realize no one has any idea what the fuck they're doing anyways. you will inevitably screw up but it's a chance to learn to laugh at yourself.

good words and i totally agree

go about it like you want to make a new friend and if something evolves from that then good on that, if not, you just got yourself a new friend:)

[Gusto]

i wouldn't go looking for a boy. just go out, be seen, talk to people, and let things happen on their own. things seem to fall into your lap that way and it takes a whole lot less work, heh. besides you are a girl, it's easier for you (ha, okay, maybe thats debatable, how would i know?).

[rawb]

RULE #1
DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH GUSTO

IT'S HARD BUT TRY

[Gusto]

thanks dude, forgot about that.

[mapleleaf4ever]

Originally Posted by rawb

just dive into it, go for more the conversation and the experience.

it really is not so bad when you realize no one has any idea what the fuck they're doing anyways. you will inevitably screw up but it's a chance to learn to laugh at yourself.

Dr. Rawb, you're so wise!

[MistressSpankME]

So true, I guess no one really does know what they are doing. I still feel like such a gibble right now. Especially since I dont even have the desire to date anyone else at the moment.. But I'm sure if I get out there that might change.

And trust me I wont be searching for anyone. What happens happens, I'm not going to lose sleep over it thats for sure.


and I'll try not to fall in love with you, really I will.

[MistressSpankME]

Originally Posted by gusto

besides you are a girl, it's easier for you (ha, okay, maybe thats debatable, how would i know?).

It may be easier for me to attract guys, but that just means there's more assholes to weed out.

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by MistressSpankME

desire sleep over

^ all i heard

[LeeBrat]

Originally Posted by rawb

just dive into it, go for more the conversation and the experience.

it really is not so bad when you realize no one has any idea what the fuck they're doing anyways. you will inevitably screw up but it's a chance to learn to laugh at yourself.

so true


just go out, be yourself....and *imo* dont go out looking for something....its always harder that way...i find when you stop looking, things start falling into place. good luck :)

[M!SKA]

hey jenna
just know that you are awesome
and remember, "every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end"
love and hugs

[Bitchin]

Jenna, since when are you worried about boys..... it's no differnt then makin friends really.. casu isnt that how you start off? and telling them your not interested in that manner... really isnt that hard.. since I've known you've told boys that before, I'm sure you can do it again.

You a fabulous girl, dont worry bout anything, just let it come to you;)

OH, and being single aint as bad as ppl say it is..... tho at times it sucks goin to bed alone.. but jsut find someone you can cuddle with here and there.

Enjoy being single while you are.... you never know when your gonna miss it!

Let alone this gives you some serious Jenna time!

[bebu*funfun]

lol i like ure bike metaphor.. and its so true. why the hell would i want to ride a bike ever again when the last bike i was on threw me off and put me in a coma. lol oh man.

just be ureself and dont force things to happen. go out and meet friends, not "boys"... i believe the best relationships come out of friends anyways. have ure gaurds up and know when to dive in and when to pull back. also if a guy throws a lame ass excuse to turn you down, remind ureself that its not the end of the world and its their loss and definatley not ures. just learn to love ureself before u try to love others.

[Kelster]

i miss dating! dates are friggin' great!

even if it sucks i can always reminisce and get a good laugh outta how much of a dork i am!

and sometimes dates can lead too fucking, and fuck i love first time fucks!


cheers too men, you're entertaining!

[Sykonee]

Originally Posted by MistressSpankME

^ oh gawd, thats what I feel like already. Or that I've been released into the wild, I'm scared shitless and I'll I want to do is run back into the arms of my captor.

and the fact that some boys might find it charming should be reassuring, but part of me doesn't really care if other boys to find me charming :( (at least for now, I'm sure I'll get back on the wagon but I'm just so scared and a little confused right now).

Perhaps a word of unnecessary advice, but beware when playing the "Fresh On The Dating Scene And Am Kind Of Timid Because Of It". Most of the lecherous type of men out there are like sharks smelling blood when it comes to women like that and can lay on the charm insidiously.

[axion]

my advice: dont go looking for a date.

the dating 'scene' is hurting. don't waste your time, enjoy your life while you are young. wait for the perfect guy to come to find you. for most semi-intelligent men, a 'woman' on the prowl can be sexy, but it can also give of a scent of desperation. nothing is hotter than a independent woman, who doesnt need a guy.

dr. phil out.

[lithe]

don't force anything. if you're not 'over' the last person, nothing meaningful will happen with the next. cultivate friendships, not potential relationships.

[hardstylin]

take as much pipe as you can :)

[veN]

Originally Posted by lithe

cultivate friendships, not potential relationships.

Perfect.

[Sue Bitch]

hey gurly,
I dont really have any advise for you but what are you doing tonight and tommorrow night????

p.s. your next show? did you say it was on the 13th? cause i have booked that day off work

[Sarah...]

"bycicles" scare me....
but life will be pretty mundane if you let fear take control....
dont think too much ... jus go with it