Today will be the hardest day of my life

.muffy. · #1 (**permalink**) Jul 30, 05

The woman that I looked up to the most in this world passed away and today I will be giving the eulogy at my Oma's funeral.
I'm really terrible at public speaking and the thought of being up in front of my family makes me nervous to the point of throwing up.
This has been the hardest couple months of my life and today is just making me want to crawl under a rock and hide.

Miss T · #2 (**permalink**) Jul 30, 05

you'll do great because you are speaking from your heart!

good luck today! :)

frogprincess · #3 (**permalink**) Jul 30, 05

i wish i knew what to type, but i don't

i am sure that your family is going to apprecaite you getting up there and speaking about your oma....funerals are never easy, but they're a good place to find comfort and obtain closure @---}-----

take care lady

xox

charly · #4 (**permalink**) Jul 30, 05

i've never had to do that, so i can only imagine how hard it is.

good luck. i'll send good thoughts your way..

<3

Grapes · #5 (**permalink**) Jul 30, 05

It can actually help your nervousness to bring it right to the forefront. Part of such anxiety (which I have as well) is that you're up there trying not to look or seem nervous.. which is impossible, because you ARE, and it's going to be fairly obvious. But if you come out at the start and say something along the lines of.. "I'm really not very good at public speaking, so bear with me.."

And then follow that with "but it's important to me to be up here, because..."

And you're off and running.

Professional speech writer over here :) My dad is known for being great at public speaking, and while I haven't quite learned to calm myself when I'm up there, I know what to say and how to say it. Mix equal parts humour and genuine emotion, and keep it reasonably short

If I can get up in front of 20 friends and 600 East Indian complete strangers, you can handle this!

Bevvy Swift · #6 (**permalink**) Jul 30, 05

/instert "hug" emoticon/

im so sorry adrienne. be strong, im sure whatever you say will be perfect.

veN · #7 (**permalink**) Jul 31, 05

Hugs girl. Lots and lots of hugs. Don't worry, you'll be amazing.

.muffy. · #8 (**permalink**) Jul 31, 05

it was yesterday, and I almost barfed hahhaa

miss.myra · #9 (**permalink**) Jul 31, 05

biggest fear ever, I'm proud of you for being so brave. I HATE funerals, I like it when they are more themed towards a celebration of the life a person lived than a sorrow-filled funeral.

Lady Dame · #10 (**permalink**) Jul 31, 05

speak from the heart, and you will never be let down.

You have my love dear.

cinist · #11 (**permalink**) Aug 02, 05

i'm sorry to hear that addriene

i know you did great:)

Draven GD · #12 (**permalink**) Aug 02, 05

congrats, you have conqured your fear and shown your grandmother one more time your love. i believe she feels your love.

take what you love about her now and carry the torch, you can keep the good she brought from being lost by simply remembering her, carrying on and trying to learn from what she shared with you.

galaxie · #13 (**permalink**) Aug 02, 05

*hugs*

I know you did awesome babe!

Giving the eulogy at my Dad's funeral was the hardest thing I've ever done. I was really nervous (and I'm a stellar public speaker), but once I got up there it felt right and it all flowed.

I know your Oma is very grateful that you mustered the courage to get up there. You'll always be glad that you did it, even if it was hard! <3