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Jun 20, 04
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I was offered a job in Japan...
...on a 1 year contract where i would b making approx $2500 a month (which i don't think is high enough considering the cost of living in Japan is quite expensive). I had an interview and was offered the position for an English teacher. My Grandma knew I was offered the position and was happy for me, pushing me to accept the job. I declined the job because I haven't had enough experience in teaching yet to go over-seas and teach. My Grandma is so angry that i didn't take the job, and is making me feel bad about it. I love her to death but she tries to run my life and she's giving me major guilt trips because I decided not to take the job. I don't know what to say to her without hurting her feelings...
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Jun 20, 04
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a few of my friends went to japan to teach english and they had a blast. u can always pick up a second job there, something fun, not to mention u can check out the other countries in asian for cheap from japan. ASIA=World's Best Shopping.
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Jun 20, 04
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Be happy that you made a choice you're happy with your relatives are never going to be happy with every choice you make. You're still young and can consider the position in a few years if you want. Have your tried explaining everything to your Grandma the way you put it in your post?
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Jun 20, 04
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A friend of mine was an english teacher in Japan. It was hell! She went two months without pay and upon telling them she was going to quit.. she was held hostage for 38 hours. Because everything is under the table, they threatened to turn her into the cops. She had to pack up her shit in the dark and leave the country early in the morning.. the whole time hoping to god that she wouldnt be caught by her 'boss' or stopped at customs! Scarey shit. When working in any other country you have to be so careful! ;p
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Jun 20, 04
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tries to control ur life eh? family usually WANTS what's best for u, but that doesn't always mean they KNOW what's best for u...
although the job u declined certainly sounds like a great opportunity... it's not like ur family cannot send u a little extra money when u need it anyway. plus its great to get out of ur hometown and see the world! staying in BC aint always that great anyway... of course... if u were offered this job, then im sure u have the ability to get others just like this one. what to say to ur grandma? what u said in those last two sentences sound pretty good... "grandma, i love u to death, but the decision i made is for me... i don't think im ready to take this step right now... hope u can support me"
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Jun 20, 04
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oh you poor dear, i totally feel ya on the "gramma running life" thing.
My grama has helped me out financially alot, and my parents wheni was young... and i feel completely bound to do what she wants me to... which is go to college, and im not ready, every time i i talk to her i hear it about how im going no where, and if i dont use the resp that she made for me, i'll be forcing her to pay back tax. :S best of luck hun, just do what you need to do for you, you'll be so much happier in the end!!! *and more sucessful!* ^.^
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Jun 20, 04
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Jun 20, 04
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Awwww..you should have went
Dream jobs don't appear every day..and it's great experience for you. You're grandma won't hate you but she'll wonder why it didn't happen. Just be honest with her and tell her your feelings. Mention that you'll look into it another year when you're ready for international travel.
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Jun 21, 04
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Hun, don't listen to everyone who says you're 'stupid' or made the wrong decision.
Travel is not for everyone, and if you're not 100% into it then you're going to have a terrible time. My man went away to work at Club Med in March - he HATED it and came back after a month. His heart wasn't 100% there, and therefore he wasn't able to enjoy himself and have a good time! Obviously, if at your age you're able to be offered an opportunity like this, opportunities will keep knocking on your door. Just keep an open mind, and if at some point you feel 100% ready to take on an experience like this one, go for it! If not, that's awesome, as long as you're happy with what you're doing!
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Jun 21, 04
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thanx for stickin up for my sister
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Jun 21, 04
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Jen-e you just missed out on an amazing experience. But, that's just my opinion since I've done the whole travelling thing...Maybe Japan just wasn't the kindof place that you personally would want to travel too which is understandable because it's a completely different culture and lifestyle. Maybe you're too young or somethign but trust me if you ever get a chance like that again..TAKE IT.
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Jun 21, 04
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Last edited by tahiti__treat; Jun 21, 04 at 06:11 AM.
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Jun 21, 04
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^, ok then she really is just stupid.
so...basically jen-e,you've been to japan..loved it, but don't want to go and live in a place that you loved because of your bf??? how old are you?? 18??? wow...I don't get it. You're bf would have been here when you got back(if he really loved u that much) but that amazing oppurtunity is gone now!! too bad.
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Jun 21, 04
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Amanda - im not going to say she is stupid because she has her reasons for staying, but im one of the factors was because of a guy that she "loves" at 18 then she should really have gone.
Jen - girl that was a pretty good offer. $2500 is enough to live comfortably in Japan, just look around for cheap housing. Plus you are white... you wont pay for clubs or drinks at all. Haha! Hit me on MSN if you want some websites to check out about places to stay. It wasn't a once in a life time thing, if you want to still do it go and apply again. Keep on applying until you get it.
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Jun 21, 04
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I'd like to go, but I think if i want to be sucessful in teaching English experience is an asset. Maybe after finding a tutoring, teaching or just teaching-assistant job hear in BC I'll gain the experience and confidence necessary for a job overseas.
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Jun 21, 04
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Jen - girl that was a pretty good offer. $2500 is enough to live comfortably in Japan, just look around for cheap housing.[/quote]
No, it really wasn't a good offer, there is no such thing is "cheap" housing in Japan...there's no such thing as cheap anything. In order to live comfortably a person would hafta to b making a fair bit over $2500 per month.
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