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Jul 17, 03
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being cheated on
would you stay with the person you love even if you knew they had cheated on you??
I have a friend who has been cheated on more than once yet still stays with her boyfriend.. I've told her I don't understand it because she is usually so strong and her answer is "but when you actually think about it,I AM being strong" but how the fuck is that being strong?? she makes me angry because she doesn't deserve to be treated like that, i would never put up with that shit I realize she loves him but he obviously doesn't feel the same way seen as though he has told her straight up that he cheats on her... 
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Jul 17, 03
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I think it matters alot on the kind of relationship you have with that person.
However, if it's a reoccuring thing than it doesn't matter how long you've been together, you should end it. Relationships should be built on trust and respect for the other person. If you/your partner is constantly making booty calls while you're not there then it's only fair to both parties to stop kidding yourselves and just break up.
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Jul 17, 03
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100% unconditional love for another can get you killed - men and women that abuse eachother use their unconditional love as an excuse..not good enough...
Cheating is something I have never had the mispleasure of experiencing - I am one frightning woman when I am angry, so i hope that i never have to experience it My thought is - if I want to sleep with someone other then my lover I would tell them flat out and we would break up - that's the type of person I am At the same time I understand why someone like Hilary Clinton took Bill back after Monica.....they worked through it because they love one another enough to want to stay together and I admire that - if he were my husband ....I can't even think about it.... Cheating is so low and selfish ..it's easy to cheat - it's hard to be true to your significant other in some situations - there are temptations, there will be other people that want to jump your bones --- and just because you love someone doesn't mean you'll never find anyone else attractive ever again (crazy misconception about love) Just cause they are hawt and want to sleep with you doesn't mean it's the right thing to do ---But from the sounds of things your friends are not like Bill and Hilary..he just wants something steady and to graba little action here there on the side and because he tells her straight up he doesn't feel guilty....your friend may think she is showing strength - but she actually showing her self esteem issues - she is worth more then what he is giving her and I wish there were a way you could prove to her she is worth more but sadly in these cases the lady has to come to that conclusion herself......
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Jul 17, 03
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I have had all my ex b/f's cheat on me...I dunno.it was awful! I guess thats why I dont really wanna date right now..But I'm sure I will have someone who stays true
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Jul 17, 03
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ive been cheated on before once..I wasnt in love with the girl or anything but we had been dating for awhile. I was mad but didnt really care, but i still got even. I dumped her that night and pounded one of her good friends a few days later.
Ahhhh the grudge fuck :kam:
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Jul 17, 03
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Well my ex cheated on me numerous times, and I found out about over 10 of these times. But I kept forgiving him just because I loved him so much. However in the end I ended it with him. I know now that I only stuck with him so long because I was scared to be without him and I thought if I acted as if I didnt care he would stop, But they never do.
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Jul 17, 03
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I have stayed with someone who has cheated on me and I realize now . . . it was the worse decision ever, because once you let them get away with it, most likely they will do it again. Not always and it depends on the situation, but it's likely. And the longer you stay in that sort of situation, the harder it is to get out. Also, cheating creates trust issues that are very difficult to resolve.
So, no, I would not stay with someone who has cheated. I would be outta there in a second, no talking about it, no excuses, just a simple good bye and I would be gone. Not worth the heart ache nomatter how much I loved them.
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Jul 17, 03
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If ur gunna cheat..why the hell be with sum one? thats hurtin! I agree wit u cinist
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Jul 17, 03
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If i was in love I wouldn't want my boyfriend hooking up with other people..... they've been together for more than a year and they hadn't agreed on having an open relationship soo... he is just a really big jerk. It would be nicer of him to just break up with her rather than treat her like this i f ya ask me
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Jul 17, 03
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that's a really sad sad situation.
I think cheating is totally unacceptable, the way I see it trust is the foundation of a relationship, love requires trust, and if you can't even trust your significant other then what's the point of being in a relationship? I mean I don't put up with cheating at all, I think if they do it once they can do it again and it's just too much of an emotional burden to put up with. I understand how some people can forgive once (I personally wouldn't) but if it's a reoccuring thing then there is no trust which to me means there is no love. I hope your friend realizes that she deserves to be treated better than that.
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Jul 17, 03
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I told myself I would never cheet or let myself be cheeted on... and if I was it would be the end of the world for them :finger:
Unfortunently I did get cheeted on witch helped break up a long distance relation ship. It boggled my mined more then hurt. So I did think about gettign back? We where away from each other for over a month so I was looking for some closser between us. We where kindofe together playing stupid games witch ended up realy hurting more then anything. Fuck that was stupid. I know what its like to see couples cheet and get back however I still dont understand why... but kind of do too? I mean you still have feelings for them right? I think its more based on what you have built in your relation ship. If I was married after so meny years with kids and was cheeted on id try to stay together (like the bill and hilary clinton) There is room for ppl being human, but on the other hand I see cheeting on someone you love who loves you is probly the worst thing you could ever do. Quote:
Last edited by Ree Fresh; Jul 17, 03 at 11:19 PM.
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Jul 17, 03
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*ahem*
I have been cheated on twice by two different girlfriends. I was (at the time) young and looking back on it, a little naive. I was hurt and angry...Since that time I have taken much time to look inside myself and the nature of others and over the years I have realized that cheating or sex outside a relationship is not a bad thing. The thing that hurts people when they get cheated on is simply their pride. In some way they view themselves as being not good enough (physically) for their partner. When it comes right down to it, even the best physical relationships get boring after awhile. People need change and novelty or else boredom sets in. A person you are seeing could sleep with someone else and really have it mean nothing but sex. People take the physical act as an emotional one as well, when that is not necessarily the case. I can honestly say if my partner sleeps with someone else, I could care less because, in the end, they come back to me, and they LOVE me. A fling with someone else will not change that. If it did, then it was not meant to be. But then again, I think humans are capable of polyamory (love of multiple people) and I consider myself polyamorous. It is just that monogomous/only love one person, relationships have been so ingrained in our culture that most people find difficulties breaking out of this mindset. Monogamy is a form of selfishness at its heart...think about it...
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Jul 17, 03
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iono, if I liked the person enough giving them a "chance" might cross my mind, but in the end I can only see it ending in a break-up. One might convince themself that they can put up with for the sake of "true love" but i think that one would always end up feeling insecure. The relationship would be filled with insecurity and constant argument. The one who has been cheated on will always use the incident as an argumental tool.
it just wouldn't work imho, i don't know if the pain would be worth staying with some one you love.
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