celebacy- make a love stronger?

[Discord]

do you think you can have a good long lasting loving relationship with some one who is celibate
do you think you could maintain a longer lasting closer love with that person with out all the sex?

[Rytalin]

That's pretty much the idea behind many religions forbidding premarital sex.

Find someone you can love, fall in love with them, decide you want to spend the rest of your life with them, and THEN get dirty with them.

Sex does have a bad tendency to completely fuck things up when brought into relationships too quickly.

[silverfish]

my best relationships were during my 6 year celebacy. when i explained why i need to be celebate to my partners, they either respected that or turned away. since my reasons stem from dealing with child abuse, anyone who cant respect that and be supportive isn't worth my time.

you learn a lot about people in a relationship that does not include sexual intercourse.

i don't think celebacy should be observed as a "lack" . it isn't a lack at all. it's a gain of so much more than sex is capable of. just like you shouldn't define a woman as being "without" or as a "lack" (freudian theory) by comparisson to the assumed ideal: man.

[rawb]

i don't think celibacy is worth the effort required.

by not having sex is great, but i don't think offers any emotional or psychological advantage over a couple having sex. in relationships where i have not had sex with my partner i have not reached any insightful apex or whatnot.

i suppose if you have issues with having sex, then it could remove the aprehension and be positive that way... but otherwise i don't really see how not fucking matters one way or the other.

in short, i can't really see how having sex makes the relationship worse if two people are mature enough to have an emotional relationship.

r.

[miss.myra]

Consentual sex between two people in a relationship is one of the most beautiful and intimate activities the partnership can share.

Sex does not necessarily need to be in place in a relationship to make it 'work', and at the same time, does not need to be omitted in order to make the relationship 'stronger'.

Too often, people believe sex tends to overpower things and create unwanted turbulence, but I believe that is only because some people really don't understand the meaning of the world 'balance'.


Myra

[SomeGuy]

I don't believe in celebacy anymore but I used to. Sex to me is something you have to earn I guess. It's the most divine expression of love because when will you ever get as close as that, your phsyically inside of a person. I do however think people jump into bed way to fast most of the time. For me, I want a full rounded relationship which includes everything but sex is the first and last thing on my mind. First because I'm a horny 18 year old virgin who's curious as hell, last because I never want to force it on a girl and because I don't even want to have it unless I have a strong healthy relationship with that person in all other aspects. To me the stronger everything else in the relationship is, the stronger sex will be, because if you think about it. The longer you wait for something, when you finally do get it, it's all that more special. I only ever want to have sex with someone I dearly love, respect and feel comfortable around, because to me sex is just about the strongest way you can show a person you love them, so I don't ever want to have sex unless I truly mean the act that I'm partaking in.