My dad passed away today

[radha]

1921-2007 - 86 years of sitcking it to the Man

Word up: control your anger or get a stroke. My dad suffered 12 years as a stroke victim. What a winner!

What I learned from observations of my father over the years:

If alcoholism leads you to be anxious in crowds, then it's in your best interest to discuss it with your doctor and find ways of getting backbone other than through the bottle.

Never think retirement means sitting in front of the TV watching sports drinking beer and beating on the wife. It also means that you have to do better than just help your friends. I mean, your wife is your first friend, aint she?

Don't ever make fun of any of your kids, especially the odd one out.

His bias against East Indians was understandable considering that they bought out all the Japanese and Mennonite farmers in the Central fraser Valley after 1984. However, my study of South Asian culture is in direct reaction to this bias.

If one of your kid wants to run away from home and be a monk, then you should be honored by his hidden compassion and bizarre wisdom. It really isn't a shame when someone actually cares about the world than what he or she can get out of it.

If you do the "dumb farmer" routine too much, then all those elementary school successes will be forgotten.

So the WW1 veteran was the only guy in Vernon who 'd take Gramma's money for the new digs after the war? And you guys had to wait until 1949 before they'd let you near the coast? Maybe this explains Clubvibes. :idea:

After 30 years of living with my folks, I've learned that whatever the Western world sees as bizarre behavior in the Japanese diasphora is actually the BS of shame, and Japan itself today is living in interesting times, indeed.

My best memory is bawling my head until my mom came out to scold me for waking her up. My dad and I bonded just before he went off to the sawmill to work. That is the ideal memory I have of him. Everything else basically shows how much of a sense of humor God has with the Japanese.

[BAL1STOPHER]

dude you are really somthing else eh?

[-evil-duerr-]

I smell the stench of murder most foul!!!!

[radha]

Thanks, F*r*a*.

You know, you boys are pretty mean. :'(

[radha]

and, people have the gall to tell me to get out more.

[-evil-duerr-]

maybe I am being a little harsh, but it just seems like a rather round-about way of getting pitty sex from people half the man's age.

[radha]

I am trying to think of the most hilarious thing that involved my dad, but in retrospect, all the ones involve him peeing on a building after the annual Powell Street Festival in August, or one of his adventures in a dirty pub on Powell Street.

I think he said that his one and only experience with pot, it gave him a headache. Though, social drinkers like my dad would be inebriated and not get the subtle nuance of a stoner high. So I'll claim it didn't affect him and the alcohol gave him a headache.

My dad's onetime experience with hooch was pretty much a horror story. I can remember onetime wondering if aliens abducted my dad and replaced him with some zombie.

Hooch is what I call distilled ethanol. One Japanese farmer in Matsqui was our community's moonshine expert. Most Japanese wives would tell their husbands not to go to his place, cos his gutrot usually ended up nearly killing anyone who drank it.

People claim that Japanese not born in Japan aren't anything like their ancestors. I tend to doubt that in cases of emergency, like when we're either drunk, stoned or in a social gathering.

But you know, I never recall any time when cops came over to take my dad away. But I recall a few times where cops have told us that we're more better behaved than non-Asian cultures.

Maybe we're too well behaved. I blame it on the shame-based features of our ethnic group.

If you want to control Japanese and Korean people, then look for where the smell is coming from i.e. bathroom odors or stuff we hide like Joy Kogawa's father (I am not telling the story here).

nobody in japan can relate to WW2, because the people of japan didn't bomb pearl harbour. crazy nationalistic militants did; they're the problem with the world today.

we had one of the creepiest of hungary perverts to rent from when we moved into aldergrove 1959. alec birdani used to be the local peeping tom. i dunno how my dad got him to stop peeping on my mom. my guess is, my dad probably said something to him while drinking at the garage in the back of the property. years later, alec died of alcohol-related problems.

seriously, my dad used to get really annoyingly honest when he was drunk. dunno if this made my uncle drink more, given what a severely dysfunctional family that guy grew up in. sober, uncle ron was really creepy. he'd never have a smile on his face, and never say a word.

if it's anything to point out, then the multi-generational tolerance for alcohol comes to mind.

i think this is an ethnic and cultural thing though. japanese men aren't collectively teetotalers. without alcohol to lubricate social relations, the japanese race would die out.

so why is it that ice seized the nation? stimulants actually power the global marketplace.

sadly coffeehouses in granville will go out of business, because alcohol powers the nightlife. we're not a nation of Red Bull drinkers. We are Canadian.

There is a beer my dad used to drink. it had wildly illustrated labels. I dunno if it is Black Label or Lucky Lager or what. It might be Pilsner.

[-evil-duerr-]

nothing says grieving like tales of pissing on walls, alien abductions, gutrot from "hooch", and hungarian peeping toms.

[radha]

I still don't know where "dingus atum" comes from in Latin though.

In the Japanese community, sometimes transliteration of English phrases is common. Yes, believe it or not, an English word would be pronounced wthin the limitations of the Japanese language.

Thus, "fucken hell" become "hokkenuheru".

Shiner perch (a type of sea bass) become "shaina pocchu".

However, I've listened to contemporary Japanese people interject English into their vocabulary, and think that they pick words based on how beautiful it sounds when transliterated into English.

As for reports that Japanese people are shy and retiring is untrue. Rather, the delicate art of honne (inner voice) and tatemae (outer voice) is related to face and the inculcation of shame through the carefuly manipulations of the domineering Japanese mother throughout history.

Because we used to get disciplined for daring to speak the inner voice on equal terms with our parents, shame usually prevents us from airing our dirty linen in public.

For most of us, anyway.

[radha]

Originally Posted by -evil-duerr-

nothing says grieving like tales of pissing on walls, alien abductions, gutrot from "hooch", and hungarian peeping toms.

Most definitely I am gonna hook up with my cousin Kelly cos he's the first of all the men folk on my father's side who was the first 420 guy.

I know I am the second one, mainly cos of my 2001 experience with the BC Marijuana Party in Surrey-Newton.

I'm still impressed by the number of people who actually voted for me when I did the least amount of hand shaking before the provincial election of May 2001.

My sister and her husband are reformed pot smokers who are so status-conscience that they'd actually *hide* their pot-smoking years from their 4 daughters.

I have not heard any bad rumors about my nieces, despite being in the roughest part of the Central Fraser Valley (Abbotsford), hang out of supposedly the toughest gang, the UN crew.

Overall though, I think there are more closet alcoholics and benzodiazepine addicts amongst Japanese in Canada.

Per capita, Japanese women tend to have the highest rates of suicide, followed by Japanese men.

[b0ld]

Oh I get it... when a relative die's we gotta notify FNK instead of contacting relatives and grieving... right... of course....

[radha]

No, I am trying to see how apathetic the youth of FNK are.

My theory is that compassion is based on richness of life experience.


That only a few people can relate to me gives me hope.

[b0ld]

Originally Posted by radha

No, I am trying to see how apathetic the youth of FNK are.

My theory is that compassion is based on richness of life experience.


That only a few people can relate to me gives me hope.

youth??? the average age on this board is above 20 years old..... Oh wait I get it... you were trying to see if there are any 12-14 year olds on here that would be apathetic to you so you can then offer them candy or ask them to help you find your lost dog???? am I right?

[radha]

Originally Posted by b0ld

youth??? the average age on this board is above 20 years old..... Oh wait I get it... you were trying to see if there are any 12-14 year olds on here that would be apathetic to you so you can then offer them candy or ask them to help you find your lost dog???? am I right?

No, I am looking for mature people who don't bait me. You, sir, are part of the problem, not me. If the majority of FNK believed you over me, society is doomed.

[b0ld]

Originally Posted by radha

No, I am looking for mature people who don't bait me. You, sir, are part of the problem, not me. If the majority of FNK believed you over me, society is doomed.

So what your telling me is that 1000+ or so users on a random forum on the internet determines the pace of society??? Holy shit son.... you need to get out more.

[mojo]

r.i.p

[AGROculture]

Sageb1 is that you???

[Guineveire]

Its clearly ninja sage. HAHA

HIIIYAW!

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

May he rest in peace.

[dabbler]

F A K E

[radha]

yes, AgroDave. how was the Asian adventure?

[*SunShyne*]

I'm so sorry to hear.

Take care of yourself.

[AGROculture]

Thats awsome you're here Sage!!

It will keep me coming back to this board, CV misses ya!