CNN Wins the 2007 Race Baiting Championships

[thebobman]

'Could Mr. Right be white?'
More black women consider 'dating out'
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Story Highlights

• Black women around the country are reconsidering interracial relationships
• They're taking cues from their favorite stars, as well as blogs and books
• Statistics suggest American black women are among the least likely to marry
• Some say they are frustrated by the narrow field of marriageable black men (holy hell that's a loaded statement -TheBobman)

RICHMOND, Virginia (AP) -- For years, Toinetta Jones played the dating game by her mom's strict rule. "Mom always told me, 'Don't you ever bring a white man home,"' recalled Jones, echoing an edict issued by many Southern, black mothers.

But at 37, the Alexandria divorcee has shifted to dating "anyone who asks me out," regardless of race. "I don't sit around dreaming about the perfect black man I'm going to marry," Jones said.


Black women around the country also are reconsidering deep-seated reservations toward interracial relationships, reservations rooted in America's history of slavery and segregation. They're taking cues from their favorite stars -- from actress Shar Jackson to tennis pro Venus Williams -- as well as support blogs, how-to books and interracially themed novels telling them it's OK to "date out."


"Black women are refusing to comply with that message about just find yourself a good blue-collar man with a job, or just find a black man," Moore said. She pointed to low rates of black men in college, a place where women of all races often meet their spouses.


Black women on campus largely are surrounded by non-black men: In 2004, 26.5 percent of black males ages 18 to 24 were enrolled in college versus 36.5 percent of black women that age, according to the American Council on Education's most recent statistics. Even after college, Roslyn Holcomb struggled to meet professional black men. "I wanted to get married (and) have children," she said. "If I was only meeting one guy a year, or every few years, that wasn't going to happen." The Alabama author eventually married white
"I think a lot of black women are realizing or feeling that the pickings are slim," she said.


They're made even slimmer, grumble many black women, by high rates of successful black men choosing blondes (BWA HA HA HA HA HA ha ha! -TheBobman). For some, they argue, white wives are the ultimate status symbol. "They don't want a dark chocolate sister laying around their swimming pool," Moore said.
Nearly three quarters of the 403,000 black-white couples in 2006 involved black husbands.


Meanwhile, psychological barriers have discouraged black women from crossing racial lines. "Black women are socialized to stick by their men," explained Kellina Craig-Henderson, a Howard University psychology professor who studied 15 black women dating interracially.
She said modern black women agonize over breaking male-female bonds forged in slavery and strengthened through the Jim Crow era.
"It may be even more of an issue for educated black women who have a sense of the historical realities of this country, where black women often were abused at the hands of white men," Craig-Henderson said.


Jones remembered being troubled when a white man politely approached her around 1990. Her stance softened years later, after a sobering party experience. "All the black men literally pushed (us) out the way to talk to the blondes," said Jones, who soon declared, "I'm going to date whoever."



Black men and women have openly feuded before.


At places like Atlanta's Spelman College, black women have rallied against black male rappers characterizing them as promiscuous.
But black men are voicing their own frustrations with women they feel regard them with suspicion. "They treat us all the same," said W. Randy Short, a Washington writer who dates across races. "The rapist on the TV is the same as me." (Whoa! I'm guessing that's either a typo for rapper, or... well... maybe not! -TheBobman)



It's a frustration director Tim Alexander tackles in "Diary of a Tired Black Man," a frank film covering everything from black women's demeanors to their weight. Frustrated by black women, the main character dates a white one. "To a certain degree, black people are sick of each other," Alexander said. "It would be better for black men and black women to open their options." (Sounds like an expert in the field, field of what you ask? Advanced Bullshit Mechanics -TheBobman)

[.Promoter]

I dont have any problems with interracial relationships, so long its not a gangster wana be black guy dating my sister. If he was an educated guy id have no problems with it.

[GSG9]

yea interratial for the win.
i think north america needs more of it. more mash up could mean more unity among communities and a better mix of views in them as well.

[decypher]

Originally Posted by thebobman

[*]They're taking cues from their favorite stars, as well as blogs and books

Who knew blogs and books were responsible for interracial marriages?

[liquidblue]

"You can run from us now... But sooner or later... We're gonna hump you!" -Russell Peters

[Gunter S]

where dem pretty white wimmenz at?

[thebobman]

My point was that interracial marriage was any different than normal-ass marriage. Shocking how Fox News hasn't picked up this story...

[Gunter S]

^ or maybe you're a closet racist and this bothers you