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Jan 15, 04
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how important is eye contact to you?
i was just thinking about it because one of my proffessors this semester speaks to the back wall and wont even make eye contact when your speaking one on one
hes soo entertaining and bright but the eye contact thing is soo weird personally i cant help but make eye contact all the time 
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Jan 15, 04
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hmmm.. thats pretty odd
most people who dont make eye contact usually feel inferior to other people but why would a prof be like that to his class
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i prefer eye contac tall the time when im tlaking to someone..i dont know what it means when someone wont look me in the eye when they tlak to me but i dont like it.
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Jan 15, 04
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I use to have the problem with eye contact
low self-esteem did that for me :soak: but seeing how I work in retail and customer service I had to get over that issue fast
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Jan 15, 04
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its very inportant....like previously stated, i feel it shows a lack of confidence in what the person is saying.
i have noticed that many people dont look you in the eye....its fun though, cus it makes me just stare right into thier eyes.....hahah
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Jan 15, 04
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that pure evil!
your gona intimidate those people who have a confidence problem hahaha :kam:
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Jan 15, 04
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It's important to me to make eye contact. It's like a limp handshake if you don't.
You should always make eyecontact when shaking hands, or saying "cheers":)
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Jan 15, 04
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haha limp handshake
reminds of kind of the hill when hank wouldnt vote for that guy because he had a limp handshake :kam:
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Jan 15, 04
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you gotta love the people who cant quite make eye contact and end up staring at your shoulder or the top of you head etc
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Jan 15, 04
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The only time I deeply care about eye contact is when I'm trying to make/maintain serious conversation. Eye contact is symbolic of interest, attention, and seriousness .. if some one is shifty-eyed while I'm trying to talk serious with them, i'd get the message that they didn't care. I know that for some people it isn't the case, but when it comes to first impression, it does matter.
I find that I make more eye contact when I'm listenening, rather than when I'm speaking... I find it's easier to understand what the person's saying when you make eye contact.. that, or I'll zone out into their pupils, nod my head and pretend I was listening...
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Jan 15, 04
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If a person isn't making eye contact it can mean a lot of things.
Sometimes a person can be nervous in dealing with you for genuine reasons, ie. they are meeting you for the first time and for some reason feel intimidated. In cases like that I just slow down, and make an effort to be as non-aggressive and friendly as possible, and in time they will generally open up and become more comfortable in dealing with me. However, there are also the situations where it is obvious that the person couldn't give a fuck about what you're saying. It's obvious that they are only waiting for their turn to speak. Or, they are being dishonest with you ie. trying to rip you off *coughcoquitlamcertigardcough* or are trying to get away with some other sort of lie. In these cases, I either just end the conversation as soon as possible, or in the case of someone trying to rip me off, go into dick/treat-you-like-a-small-child mode until things get sorted out. I find insincerity to be quite offensive.
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Confidence isnt' always the first reason for lack of eye contact
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I always try and maintain eye contact... and i'm successful 98% of the time.
The only people I can't keep eye contact with are people i'm infatuated with, if I really like a person I get kind of shy and I have to look away at times :kimmie:
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Jan 15, 04
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it's goin good man. see ya at aqua boogy. Quote:
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Jan 16, 04
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I'm bad at the eye contact thing.. not on purpose.. usually I'm just forgetful of it. I think my natural inclination away from it is a leftover of my teen years when I was painfully shy.
What's fun is when I'm chatting with a girl and there's some level of mutual attraction, and partway through her conversation I remember that I'm not making eye contact. Then I all of a sudden fix my eyes right on hers and see if she can keep talking without losing her place. Usually it's about 50/50 =P Guess I've got a good gaze when I care to use it.
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Jan 16, 04
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I think I agree with you, I hate when people dont make eye contact with you, I think eyecontact makes you feel like the person is actually talking to you.
Most ppl get distracted or your boring them and they dont look at you
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Jan 18, 04
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i think eye contact is really important while having a conversation with someone...especially if it's something serious. if you're talking to someone i would like them to listen and give me input as well as i would do the same. i hate it when you ask for advice about something important to you, the other person goes around and starts talking about themselves, i think it's pretty selfish (depending on the situation)
If someone comes to me to talk, i sit down, i make eye contact with them and i listen and then help them out and maybe give them some feedback. When it's my turn to speak i kind of wish people gave me the same respect back.... unfortunatly i have some friends that expect me to sit around and talk about their life and compare anything i say to what has happend to them! giving someone eye contact and your undevided attention is respectful.
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