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May 26, 04
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Work and Family, which should come first?
Ok so this morning when i came into work, I received an email from my ex girlfriend who is currently pregnant with my baby, she is 6 1/2 months along and lives in kamloops while I am on the island, she went to the doctors yesterday and the doctor told her there is possibly going to be complications on the birth, (her hips and the posistion of the baby) So she mailed me and asked me to phone her as soon as possible. Now I am scheduled to start at 8:00 am, so phoned her before work, she was upset and needed to talk, so I talked to her till she was ok, took almost an hour, when my boss came in, he asked what time I started, I said 9:00 and explained to him why, and he freaked on me and told me that was irresponsible, and I needed to grow up and learn to set my priorities in order.
My question to you guy's is, after reading what I did, would you say my priorites are in order or do I need to realign them? What would you do? 
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May 26, 04
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your priorities are definately in order. family should always come first when there are emergencies, and your boss needs a punch in the junk
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May 26, 04
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tell your boss to fuck off, your family is always #1
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May 26, 04
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if he's still pissed then he's an asshole and you deserve better then that.
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May 26, 04
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i think you did the right thing. when i was pregnant, i ran into a few complications along the way and it really helped to have someone there to talk to and console me. i think your boss was a little out of line, i mean doesn't he have a family or people that he cares about in his life? he probably would have done the same thing if the tables were turned.
Anyways, congrats on the baby and i hope everything works out. i'm sure everything will be fine just tell your ex to try to not worry about it too much because stress can (but it's rare) cause a miscarriage even at this stage in her pregnancy. good luck!
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May 26, 04
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Family always comes first.
You can always find another job and with a boss like yours I would suggest that you do.
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May 26, 04
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I can see this from both perspective. Family does come first, this is obvious.
But did you even bother to tell your boss that you were in this situation to begin with? Perhaps his feathers were a bit ruffled because you just dropped this on him suddenly. Maybe that is why he feels you need to get your priorities straight. I doubt he would have reacted like this if you would have kept him in the know- like just saying 'hey, someone is having my child and it's expected to come shortly, so I may need to take some time off' a little bit in advance may help immensely.
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May 26, 04
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May 26, 04
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Yes he knew right away after I found out, I sat and talked with him, and he even let me add her to my work email address on messenger. He knows about the baby and keeps asking about her and the baby, this is why it was a shock he said this to me...I am going to talk to him after work and let him know if this is going to be a problem that I do require this time that maybe I should look for a new job... I know everyone thinks this but I am a valuable assest to this company and my dept, so hopefully he won't fire me over this or tell to me to get a new job...guess we'll see soon
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May 26, 04
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I guess they weren't blank shots then were they?
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May 26, 04
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I believe family should always come first...Your boss needs to be understanding...
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Jun 11, 04
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Family....? So you guys are a family...
on a differnet note family or your ex girlfriend with a kid should come first cause well when everyone around you turns their back on you, you always have your family
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Jun 11, 04
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Jun 11, 04
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i would have probabaly waited until i had a break or lunch, even called in and took a half day, she is 6 and 1/2 months along, the problems will be there in another 6 hours or whatever. Having your boss pissed at you is probably a result of his idea that you have poor work ethics. That being said family is important but i feel that the nature of this call could have waited until a better time.
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