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May 18, 05
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do you consider baby leashes barbaric?
my cousin has an 18 month old daughter who always runs away from her mom laughing thinking it's a funny game if she can get my cousin to chase her at malls and shit. it's happened a few times while i've gone out with them and i've always found it thoroughly hilarious.
but now she's thinking about getting a baby leash and the squirt won't be such a little menace anymore. :( 
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May 18, 05
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lol @ wizzfishy
Well, it depends on what kinda baby leash she's using I guess. I used to have a baby leash years ago (don't ask) and it was two velcro bracelets with a cord similar to a phone cord connecting the 2. That kind would be ok, but the harness ones not so much.
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A parent that has to leash they're child has some major authoritive issues that at some point will surface themselves..
You can be your kid's friend, but you also have to be their parent, and be strict when it's necessary, like when you could lose?? your child? I would be hella embarassed to have my kid run to the end of a string and be jerked like he's some kind of demented animal with no understanding of following at his or her own pace. It's decision making skills that that child will be lacking once the leash is put into effect. The child will no longer react for personal gratification...but he'll be a robot..reacting only because he feels physical restraint. Yeah sure, eventually the kid will learn to follow their parents..but why does this kid not take them seriously when they speak to him that running away is bad...what...do they get mad for like a second and then forget about it? Or like, I bet when they get mad it's sO fake..like speaking with "mad" feelings..like I do with my dog sometimes.."Bad, no running away." wizzfish..;P
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A baby leash is for the parents that failed Parenting 101.
If your kid can stay within an arms distance MOST of the time (hell its normal for kids to want to run and play) then someone definately fucked up authority wise. The only kids I see with these things, are the ones that are spoiled rotten and their parents wonder why they won't behave.
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Hm, i think the idea of a leash on a child bothers us partly because leashes are primarily used on pets as a form of control. If you think about it, we assume that the relationship between dog and owner involves a power imbalance where the owner is the dominant/authoritative figure and the pet is expected to be submissive/obedient. It's a control thing, and putting a leash on a kid probably has it's negative connotation moreso because of the fact that we associate leashes with the the power relations between human and non-human... so the assumption is that if we put a leash on a kid, it is to treat the child inhumanely.
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According to several of my friends who are raising anywhere from 18-month-olds to 14-year-olds...
If you think baby leashes are barbaric, then by definition you do not have children. Also, you have far too much free time, and are way too nosy, and should mind your own goddamned business.
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May 18, 05
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It's worth remembering that babies are different from dogs on two fundamental levels:
One, a baby is not running away to make some kind of game with the person trying to catch it. Two, babies do not have the self-preservation instincts of a dog, and will happily walk in front of cars, into strangers' arms, or down the up escalator.
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You're wrong on both accounts. Children do play mind games with their parents. It's how they learn to deal with the world and get what they want in adulthood. They also have a huge self-preservation instinct. For example: a baby who isn't cuddled enough or picked up when they cry (ie. left in their crib to self-soothe) will gradually detatch themselves from their parents. Parents often think this is a sign of independence, but it's not. Babies are smart. They soon learn that crying in the crib will not get them pick up, so they stop. Unfortunately, there's a lot of scientific evidence out there that babies who are left to self-soothe often grow up with emotional problems and are unable to form any meaningful attatchments.
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My kiddo has never been the type to run off or throw tantrums or anything of that sort. I'd like to think that it's attributed to proper parenting skills. Last edited by Cdn_Brdr; May 18, 05 at 11:29 AM.
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May 18, 05
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i don't see what the big deal is. yoko was right that leashes do have a negative connotation of control. if you're able drop that connotation, however, there is nothing wrong with them. the leash isn't for a dog, it's for a child and was designed for a child; the connotation is purely mental, so get over it.
besides, it can make things easier for the parent and safer for the child. a leash doesn't have to be considered a last resort or only way of controlling a child and someone who tries this shouldn't be considered a bad parent because they do things differently than you do. it could also be looked at as a way to let your child explore their surroundings and gain some independence at an early age, without running off too far and getting hurt. to each their own. Last edited by Gusto; May 18, 05 at 11:51 AM.
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