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Jun 02, 06
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Ill be the first to admit that i didnt plan to get married till atleast 25, but then last September when me and Nathan were looking at places to move in to I just kinda knew this is it this is what i wanted and this is who im marrying. Luckily he thought the same. 
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Jun 03, 06
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http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...82616873505842 Again, sorry for the derail. Edit: to clear up the marriage thing, I havent set a date for my 30's or anything, but that seems like the most reasonable age to tie the knot, chances are that I'll be secure enough in many aspects of my life to make the decision of matrimony, whereas I wouldnt even think to consider it for myself right now or within the next 5 years or so..
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Jun 03, 06
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oh i get it now lol
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Jun 03, 06
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honestly..i dont know at this point. im with the man i wanna marry but we have alot of stuff we want to acomplish be fore we tie the knot and start a family. for marriage tho.... im guessin 23 or 24 (im 19)
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Jun 03, 06
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Jun 03, 06
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to be honest i could marry the girl im with right now.....its that good
BUT! i have a hardcore travel itch that know matter what pharmacuetical grade cream i use could get rid of :) im fucked. i see myself marrying at like 30-32 unless i find her before that.
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Jun 03, 06
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Jun 03, 06
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Doubtful I will...Certain lifestyle choices I've made are not conducive to marriage. Not only that, but if there's one thing I've learned it's that love is mutable and the whole "till death do you part" thing is far too unrealistic for most people.
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Jun 03, 06
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Next May!
Putting me in the "I plan to get married young category" (21-25)
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Jun 03, 06
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Whenever i find that special woman is when it will happen. First school, travel and development of the inner soul must flourish but i would be ready as early as 26-30. By the time you reach 25 or so you have already travelled, experienced some things and have that strong direction in your career. I would be fine sharing my life with a beautiful woman after that age.
Starting a family is another story, you can be married and faithful earlier. To start a family you need that stable career, cash flow, and responsibility. Starting a family too late in your life can cause a lot of stress on the children so i think your early 30s or late 20s is the ideal time to start a family if career and life permits. I've already grown so much between 20 and 22. By the time i'm 26 i can't even imagine where i'll be at but i'm sure it'll be on a whole other level of maturity.
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Jun 03, 06
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Somewhere around 26/27.
I'd like to have my first kid when I'm 29. Ideally I would have liked to do things a bit younger, but that's pretty unrealistic since I'm almost 22 and by the time I'm done school I'll be at least 26.
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Jun 03, 06
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I am just hoping I am lucky enough to find someone worth marrying...
There are many wonderful people out there...But to mary someone there has to be this cosmic/amazing/timeless connection.... When ever I find that person or that person finds me I will marry... I am totally the marrying type..So I hope all goes well. Hopefully time is on my side too..... (better not be too soon though cos I dont even want to date right now..but too late is bad as well) mehh I'm crazy..
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Jun 03, 06
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getting marrired???? Your joking right??????
marriage is one of those things that I see is rather a waste of time and money and what not. If your love and compassion to your partner has be labeled under a term of "marriage" and is a labeled as a contract to be written on paper is probably the lowest thing that I have ever seen. I believe if one is true and strong on there commitment to there partner then who the hell needs a god damn piece of paper indicating that they are together...... It really does not make any sense to me what so ever...
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Jun 03, 06
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^ I knew it would come down to me saying something.
Marriage isn't just for the "Piece of Legal Document" The whole act and ceremony of Marriage is exactly that... it's symbolic of the joining of two lives "until Death does [them] part" People have been getting Married in Ceremonies for Centuries before they made Legal Documents and Tax Breaks and everything else everyone has said. What ever happened to People cherishing simple Family Values and enjoying when two People fall in Love and get Married? It's sad that Marriage has become such a degraded and meaningless thing to Society these days. Just ask to look through your Parents Wedding Pictures. So much joy and happiness... sure it was the 1960s/1970s/1980s but look beyond that. Hopefully you'll see what I mean.
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Jun 03, 06
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With people living longer these days it's a strong possibility that many of us will live well into our 80's +, so I can't imagine spending those years alone. In my view, fast-paced individualistic societies don't seem to accomodate or integrate elderly people too well and it seems that as your body ages, family ties and friends become an increasingly important part of facilitating your day-to-day life, and thus an important part of your sense of self-worth.
I would like a long-term live-in life partner/companion whether it be female or male, but I don't necessarily want to make it official in the eyes of the law. I know for a fact though that I don't want to spend the latter part of my life alone.. Last edited by yoko*; Jun 03, 06 at 12:18 PM.
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Jun 03, 06
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marriage on the increasing rate of Divorce, and the children that get caught up in it. These children dont get to see the nice side of what a marriage can be.
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Jun 03, 06
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Seriously Yoko, you're one of the wisest people on this board. :)
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Jun 04, 06
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Jun 04, 06
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I've always thought of getting married after I'm 25 and having children around 29-30. But nothing is set in stone. If everything is going right before that time, and I'm convinced I'm with the right person, then it could be something I consider doing a bit younger.
But I'm already going on 22, so what's another 3 years. I still want to get a bunch of travel in, and it would be nice to have a clearer idea what I want to do as a career. But then again that can be something I can still do when I'm married. It's when the children come into the picture that I want to have things together. I think there is also a side of me that wants to play it safe and pace myself. I've never known what it's like to have two parents in the same household. And even though both of my parents are great, and it was probably way better having them apart, because they are totally opposite from each other. I still look at friends families that stayed together, and are happy for the most part. And I want that for myself and my future children. I want someone to grow old with that has known me for most of my life. I find that I set these stepping stones in my head. I don’t know where it came from; it just seemed to be something that’s been hardwired into my brain as the right way of doing things. Like you date for a while (1-2 years), then you think about moving in with the person. Then if that works for a while and you have seen them through some good and some hard times, and things are still going well, then you may be ready to get married. But at the same time there isn't really realistic to think you can guarantee happiness and longevity of the relationship, just by being careful and waiting. I'm so torn on this subject sometimes. Last edited by Kandyapple; Jun 04, 06 at 11:22 AM.
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Jun 04, 06
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^totally.
Who says your life has to be set in stone just to be married? Do you people all seriously believe that finding a person you want to share your life with means you have to settle down? It shouldn't, because if it's the right person for you then they too will want to go travelling, be patient while you finish school, etc. It's children you need to be settled for! I understand the personal growth aspect of doing a lot of these things alone, but if you are married it's enabling you to share those kind of experiences and grow together.
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Jun 04, 06
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i can see myself having a britney spears trailer trash type of drive thru vegas wedding in the next year....just for fun
as for the real deal...i've told my mom that i dont want to be married...i just want the wedding. i dont think they care if im married or not, they want grandchildren though before they get too old to enjoy them... i wont get married at all unless i think its for the absolute right reasons, and i have SO much i want to accomplish by myself....and i dont know when i've be finished with all that, cause i still dont think i've finished making the list
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