how do you tell him....?

[wishbone]

tell him you're pregnant with his child.

Tell him not to argue the logistics, and force him into a shotgun wedding.

[BongMan]

I can supply shotguns and angry rednecked folk for a small fee...

[LiveOnJim]

I've had to deal with this issue before I knew a this guy for almost 6 years and I went for almost 4 without saying anything because i was scared of the same thing ruining an amazing friendship, so then one day i decided i had to , its just one of those things you have to take a chance with you don't want to go the rest of your life wondering what if??? Just sit him down one day and make it a casual thing and like over coffee or drinks and just tell him first off this in no way is intended to ruin anything we have right now, don't go on about how much you have feelings for him just ask how he would feel if you guys took it to another level as being more than friends, because if he is as much as a friend as you make him sound he would try and continue the friendship whether or not he decided to move things on, because maybe even if he dosent want that in his life now, make it known to him that you'll always be there regardless of what happens or what is said, tis what i did

good luck to whatever decision you make :)
ps you have to fill me in if you do

[robyn]

Men are frightened of sudden movements and you're likely to spook him. Subtly modify your behaviour over the next six months until one day you're basically living at his place and he doesn't know how it fucking happened.

[cubed]

^YOU SNEAKY BITCH!!!

[FireWire]

Men aren't frightened - a more accurate thing to say would be that men are surprised/shocked if you make a sudden movement.

Of course if you from go 0 to 10 on a man, then he might do what most people will do in a sudden situation of change - and that is to defend himself and automatically say no... but if you gradually go from 0 to 10, then you have almost a higher than 50% chance that things will work out.

You still must make the first move.

[FeelGood]

this thread is funny because i got myself into the exact same predicament.

[BongMan]

Originally Posted by FireWire

Men aren't frightened - a more accurate thing to say would be that men are surprised/shocked if you make a sudden movement.

Of course if you from go 0 to 10 on a man, then he might do what most people will do in a sudden situation of change - and that is to defend himself and automatically say no... but if you gradually go from 0 to 10, then you have almost a higher than 50% chance that things will work out.

You still must make the first move.

Speak for yourselfe sudden movement makes me jumpy but a bright set of headlights and and I am putty in your hands..

[tango]

Originally Posted by robyn

Men are frightened of sudden movements and you're likely to spook him. Subtly modify your behaviour over the next six months until one day you're basically living at his place and he doesn't know how it fucking happened.

this is actually whats been happening over the last couple of weeks. we're together all the time now.
he actually crashed at my house last nite, but was way too drunk so nothing happened. he just passed right out.

[tango]

Originally Posted by LiveOnJim

I've had to deal with this issue before I knew a this guy for almost 6 years and I went for almost 4 without saying anything because i was scared of the same thing ruining an amazing friendship, so then one day i decided i had to , its just one of those things you have to take a chance with you don't want to go the rest of your life wondering what if??? Just sit him down one day and make it a casual thing and like over coffee or drinks and just tell him first off this in no way is intended to ruin anything we have right now, don't go on about how much you have feelings for him just ask how he would feel if you guys took it to another level as being more than friends, because if he is as much as a friend as you make him sound he would try and continue the friendship whether or not he decided to move things on, because maybe even if he dosent want that in his life now, make it known to him that you'll always be there regardless of what happens or what is said, tis what i did

good luck to whatever decision you make :)
ps you have to fill me in if you do

i'll try this sometime when i manage to work up the courage. i already made an ass out of myself when we first met... and we're still friends. he actually told me that he respects the fact that i just say what i'm thinking. (HUGE story that i'm not going to get into).
i just hate being vulnerable.

[FireWire]

Wayne Gretzky once said:

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

[thechix0r]

I don't know who this is.... maybe I can take a guess.. drives a cooper?

Anyways, follow your instinct and if it doesn't work you and he isn't mature enough to just be friends... it helps you understand who is and isn't suppose to be in your life. Add me to msn beth and we'll talk abotu this there (look on profile)

[tango]

Originally Posted by thechix0r

I don't know who this is.... maybe I can take a guess.. drives a cooper?

Anyways, follow your instinct and if it doesn't work you and he isn't mature enough to just be friends... it helps you understand who is and isn't suppose to be in your life. Add me to msn beth and we'll talk abotu this there (look on profile)

you guessed it.
your added...
i think i've got it all under control now
we can handle it... i just think i'll need some courage juice first LOL

[baby-phat]

Originally Posted by BongMan

Speak for yourselfe sudden movement makes me jumpy but a bright set of headlights and and I am putty in your hands..

hahaha.. <3 Jeff