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Jul 10, 02
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lusting someone you hardly know
tehehehe i was just talking to my friend about it and its SO SILLY! its really weird how you can like someone that you hardly know/see/talk ...cuz as time goes by u just see or imagine more and more positive cute things. the image of the guy just gets better and better too! hehehe
its a trap, cuz wut if the images are all fake and hes a total diff guy? blah wutevaz this happens to me all the time.. like i can just start thinkin of an old friend and suddenly pick out all the good stuff..and start liking him again. i do too much thinking..but this is all healthy thinking cuz it makes me giddy! LOL hehehehe 
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Jul 10, 02
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haha..awwww..bev has a crushy wushy!!..;P~
but u know wut...i know wut u mean..but when u also see the person a lot..i find that i notice a lot of little annoying things..then i end up totally disliking the guy..wutever..~
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Jul 10, 02
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Jul 11, 02
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bebu. yeah i used to do that lots... it becomes hard not to let your mind play tricks on you and turn a simple person into this wonderful thing.. it used to happen to me lots until you realize after like 10 failures how much you altered some one's reality just to make it mold into your expectations.. lots of times that ends in heartache and you feel like you've been lied to, though in reality its us lying to ourselves... so as fun as it is be careful.
kk ;)
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Jul 11, 02
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Jul 11, 02
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Heh I know exactly wut you are talking about!!
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Jul 11, 02
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its not only me!! i feel like im playing with fire. even though i know i can hurt myself, im still playing with it cuz im curious and i know the wonders of fire as well. i'll be very careful though.
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Jul 11, 02
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i always crush out on people online? why? because it is fun and safe and sometimes it is nice to have that fantasy, rather than dating someone and having them treat you like poo... i have met some of the sweetest "people" online :)
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Jul 11, 02
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i've had bad experiences with that.... and a history with meeting girls over the net... sometimes it was really damn fun, sometimes it was shittyass times that made me feel down for a while.. but point is... its just so much better to meet a person in real life, and be able to get to know them inside out face to face... its alot harder to get close to someone in real life but its a much more rewarding feeling to speak heart to heart with someone you met in person. talking over the net is easy. you can open yourself up and speak from the heart much easily and feel safe. but opening up yourself is making you vulnerable and once u meet that person in real life, u are confronted with a person u've made yourself vulnerable online and things just get weird... i'm definetly not a fan of it. just be careful with who you meet online... it can be a very special person but at the same time it can be a completely different person u pictured them as. btw are you bevinator?
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Jul 11, 02
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ohhhhhhhhhhhh is this about people from the internet? oh i didn't know THAT. i thought we were talking about people that we knew in person but hardly talk to...
okay i have something more to add.... people are so much more different online than in person, that's for sure. Me personally, i have an easier time writing than speaking, especially with strangers... It isn't that I wouldn't say the things that I write, but it's much easier to write them for me because it gives me time to think about what it is I want to say, and if it comes out wrong then there's always the "delete" button. For some, the hardest thing to do is to keep eye contact. The shiest person can sound so outgoing online, just beause they don't have to deal with looking at you, they can easily hide from you the things they don't want you to see, and only show you what you want to see, or what they want you to see. but when in person, they're completely exposed... if we're talking bout online people then I'd stress the "be careful". It's so easy to say things and not really mean it. I personally wouldn't write things that I don't mean, but that's just me and its up to the person whether they want to trust me or not....however, if I'd ever wanted to, I could easily tell some one that I think they're a wonderful person and not mean it at all. You could even cut and paste some one else's words and pretend it was yours.... But anyhoo, for me I'd have to have met the person at least once in person before I ever considered pursuing them...... when some one "writes" something as opposed to actually saying them to you in person, you can interpret those words in whatever way your mind desires, even sarcasm can seem very offensive... so in that sense, yeah. be careful ;) but yeah, if it's all for fun and games, then have fun and play games but then let's hope you don't develop too much attachment to the person, or else you might find yourself falling for an illusion. it's weird cuz when you reach that point, even if you start to see their flaws you end up trying to justify them, and that's where you put yourself in a position where u could get hurt. Last edited by yoko*; Jul 11, 02 at 05:54 PM.
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Jul 11, 02
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Well...all these ppl have great opinions but u know i say just live life as it comes....just take ur time and dont be silly....time never hurt anyone it can only make things stronger....and basically just play the hand ur dealt..if u don't like u can always fold...
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Jul 11, 02
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Although it could be dangerous and you might have a different picture in your head than reality, don't you ever think, what if we just met up? or what if we started talking? Anything could happen whether its good or bad, but I say fuck it, take your chances. Lifes full of em, give it a bit of time and start talking to this person and eventually meet up with him, if things don't go the way you expected then its not like you have an obligation to that person. Just because you got to know each other doesn't mean you have to start a relationship. Thats were a lot of guys get hurt. They meet girl, the girl is being nice and wants to be friends where on the other hand the guy expects action or a relationship just because the girl was being a nice person. I been in that situation before, as much as it felt shitty back then, I've learned form it and know better for the future.
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Jul 11, 02
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hahahahaha WHERE DID THIS INTERNET DEAL THING COME FROM? ickies ive never liked neone i met just on teh net...i know WAY too many ppl who has split personalities on and off the net. the internet is a nono.. but i think fnk is cool..cuz fnk we actually have topics..and u kinda KINDA get a closer look in who they are.
all i can say is..doesn't hurt to lust. cuz lustin can go away in a snap..no strings attached..for me at least! and YES be observant when u're around "the guy"! u can catch lotsa stuff.. like he can act like a weirdo, but he could actually be an amazing guy. okay im not gonna say no more, cuz its gettin obvious. and yes im the bevinator.
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Jul 12, 02
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It's okay Bebu... I won't burn you.
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Jul 13, 02
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^^^^^ aww so nice of you Kraig..
hahaha ahh goodtimes.
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Jul 13, 02
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LOL! and if the fire ever burns im dumping buckets and buckets of water over it! no one dares to burn me! AH HA!
dammit kraig knows this post is about him now! OH SHUCKS! hahahaha
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