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Dec 16, 02
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gut feelings
i have a dilemma.....there is this guy that i think is cute and hes super sweet. hes not like a guy i've dated before...hes different.
i want to date him because hes awesome BUT i have a gut feeling that i shouldnt. i know that something will go wrong but i don't know what it is? do i listen to my gut feeling or ignore it and go for it.........? i just dont want to get into anything thats too far into a relationship and break it off, that's just harsh to the guy i think any pointers anyone?? 
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Dec 16, 02
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always follow the gut feelings. you might think they might be wrong, but usually they arent.
ive learned by not going wiht my gut, that i really really should. but then again, there is the 'follow your heart' rule as well... so uh yeah, im NO help =)
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Dec 16, 02
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well usaually id say get to know the person better and then maybe start a relationship, as the relationship progresses you can find out if you like the person or not. if you don't like em kick em to the curb but be sure to do that before it gets serious.
but honestly, your gut feeling is fairly likely to be right, get to know the person to be sure though, you don't want to be kicking yourself over something that couldve been..
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Dec 16, 02
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Give him a chance.....like a date or so...if you still have that "feeling" then it's probably a good idea not to continue.
I had the same thing with this guy I met a few weekends ago, I met him the one night and he gave me his email and phone #, so we exchanged #'s and we talked on the phone and wat not, he was nice and fine over the phone... I brought him to Pete's rave on saturday so we could hang out and shit and the moment that he got into my car, I knew that this guy is going to drive me nuts! He wouldn't stop talking and moving around and figiting and stressing out. Some people you know just right away whether their 'hang out' material.
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Dec 16, 02
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most of the ppl i've talked to about this say that i should follow my gut.....b/c usually my guts right about things like this from past experiences.
i can't follow my heart b/c my heart doesnt seem to help either....it doesnt make me feel that i WANT to be with him. i was thinking a date and seeing how that goes. i don't want to get into the relationship and kick him to the curb when my feelings are more clear, i want them to be clear right now.....i'd rather back away from him now rather than leading him on thinking that he has a chance while i think that he doesnt
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we spend alot of time second guessing our gut feelings when they prove alot of the time to be true.
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Dec 16, 02
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always follow your gut!
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Dec 17, 02
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I agree, fallow ur gut, its the whole reason we have our gut feeling. But if u r still second guessing urself, i say go for dinner a few times, because then u give urself a chance to get to know eachother and talk and see what he is really like as a person. REMEMBER, i didnt say A dinner i said a few, anyone can play all sweet once or twice, but give it a few dates, because people can only fake it for so long, so if he is fucking around the true him will start to shine though. U sound like a smart girl, and i'm sure u can read between the lines.
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Dec 19, 02
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so i hung out with this guy and some other friends of ours the other day......it didn't feel right. like i can talk to him about anything through email but when i see him in person, i can't really carry a conversation with him......?
i think my gut is right on this.......?
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Dec 19, 02
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Your gut knows best......It's normally best to trust it...
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Dec 19, 02
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A person could be the sweetest, best looking person in the world but if there is no chemistry there (chemistry being gut feeling) then it is usually not a good idea to pursue it...Besides feelings will eventually get hurt in the end...
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