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Feb 26, 03
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i think you'll ALL agree wit me when i say...
for real: isn't it hurtin if you see sumone in a relationship thas all paraniod like:"where'd u go? what'd u do... who were u with... why were u talkin to her/him?" not to be sexist or nuthin but usually it's common or more public with girls... but there are sum guys that do that isht too.
honestly people who aren't secure, shouldn't be in that relationship in the first place... they should just chill & if the guy / girl does leave/ cheat, then they weren't worth it to begin with... you gotta have sum pride yo. :372: hehehe snob smiley is cute. peace 
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Feb 26, 03
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in a way... yes... of course nothing is that easy until it is done... then u look back and see how easy it really was/ could've been. i just think that if you have to feel paranoid... it's kinda pointless... when in love (&love is in return) neither side should feel paranoid, it should be happy and trusting. i just feel bad for those who have to deal with the paranoid people who accuse them for things they didn't do. it makes the one being blamed & nagged at... hurt & annoyed... & makes it hard for them to trust again... or feel trusted... u kno whut i'm sayin? LOL i'm bad at explaining hehehe
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Feb 26, 03
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i guess... it can be common both ways... girls just happen to express themselves more about it. guys keep it quiet LOL
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Feb 26, 03
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I agree. My boyfriend and I arn't like that at all and it's awesome. We both go out with different groups of friends, and we never question or acuse eachother. If you suspect your guy/girl of doing something, then you really shouldn't be in the relationship in the beginning. It's not fair to either of you, because you'll be fighting all the time!
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Feb 26, 03
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When people are in a loving, committed relationship, that generally involves some level of accountability as well. There will be conversations where the two individuals will "check in," and relate their experiences of the day. It is common, when asked, "How was your day?" it usually is followed by "what did you do, where did you go, did you spend time with anyone..." etc.
If this is something that happens many times throughout the day, and there are numerous phone calls meant to determine the wherabouts of the individual, then I would agree, that would cause some negative responses. But if it is just the natural curiousity of an individual to know the state and welfare of the person he or she cares about, then that should be thought a positive thing.
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Feb 27, 03
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one thing i have found from past realtionships, is that if a guy/girl is acusing u of cheating it is because they are guilty of doing the crime.
I cant stand guys that are over protective and acuse me of doing shit. Trust is the base of a realtionship, without trust all u have is sex
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Feb 27, 03
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tru that!!! i'm happy for you guyz :) hehehe thas good to hear
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Feb 27, 03
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hey i'm glad to hear all of yer responses... so much to say about it huih? & u all threw in some good points that haven't completely crossed my mind.... brain food :) hehehe
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Feb 27, 03
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no trust.. .no relationship
but you can also work together if you want ot make it work it can be done!
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Feb 27, 03
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relationships=WASTE OF YOUR PRECIOUS TIME!!!! i just dont understand how people choose to waste away thier youth with some asshole boy friend or loser girl friend who they arent even going to marry and who they probabally dont even love.
The number one reason why a person is insecure and doesnt trust ... IS BECAUSE THEY CANNOT TRUST THIER OWN DAMNED SELVES!keep this in mind kiddies because its true :)
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Feb 27, 03
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those behaviours all have to do with insecurity. I had a bf once that was very posesive and always worried about other guys around me. he would point out the ones checking me out then make a big deal out of it like it was my fault. If i put on makeup before we went out he would ask me who i was trying to impress cuz it was obviously not him. i cared about him a lot but I vowed never to date someone like that ever again, I didnt hate him for it because i found out later that he was depressed and his posesive behaviours came from his insecurity and depression.
I believe in understading but if its still hurting you then you shouldnt put up with it. I treat the ppl i date with as much respect as i can,and give them as much freedom as they need. I dont have a problem with guys night out or anything like that. if i trust the person then i wont care if another girl is hugging him or even being a bit flirty. I cant help that and nither can they. I just expect the same kind of respect in return. It cant work if there is no trust. Last edited by Kandyapple; Feb 27, 03 at 02:39 PM.
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Feb 27, 03
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^^
imo, I think almost all actions are created from either insecurities or something that makes them happy or makes someone else happy.. The way I see it, you should only do things which make you happy, or makes someone else happy. Whenever you act out from your insecurities you start destroying yourself.
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Feb 28, 03
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Mar 12, 03
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Jun 19, 07
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Jun 19, 07
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I personally cant stand clingy-ness... but some ppl need it, which is fine... to each his own... all you can really do is not date someone if they act like that and you dont like it
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Jun 19, 07
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God, what a bleak outlook on life. If personal intimacy and relationships are so pointless, why bother carry on living? And in that last paragraph, are you talking about yourself or something? Because based off the first paragraph it seems you have problems with trusting someone else in a relationship...
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Jun 19, 07
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What makes you think that everyone that is in their youth, and in a relationship is wasting their time? Maybe they are learning valuble realtionship skills, and thus will have a more healthy relationship later in life. Maybe they have different current values than your own. With the attitude you have it will be surprising if you ever find someone you are happy with.
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