Best friend giving you the "I WANT YOU" EYES!!

SomeGuy · #1 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

Man oh man.. this is starting to scare me.. what the fuck do you do? Stop talking to them? out of the question.. but it makes thing's awkward.. and usually they end up not talking to me anymore when I give them the just friends talk..

**MC Hammered** · #2 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

It all depends on what you want but I usually end up saying this:

I value my friendship with you so much that I don't wish to jeopardaize it by venturing into something that may cause me to never speak to you again if it doesn't work out.

That being said... sometimes I beat my head against the wall wondering what I just passed up.

Jingles · #3 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

Hmmm intersting. Is this friend male or female?
Aren't friends supposed to make the best lovers? Do you not find this friend attractive? Or just not attractive in that way - Sometimes I give my male friends the 'eyes' but it's only for a moment and it's not really to be taken seriously
But if they really do want you, and you could see yourself with them - it could be really amazing
i mean really amazing

I think if this friend says something it'll give you the chance to have a good chat
communication is key!! (gosh I say that a lot)

**MC Hammered** · #4 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

But some friends just know too much dirt on you to be more than friends.

I have female friends that I care for deeply but if it went beyond that I know that there would be awkward moments due to the fact they know things that my g/f wouldn't.

Now that might sound strange but I do believe there are some things that your partner does not need to know.

miss.myra · #5 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

HUUUUUNGRY EYEEES

**MC Hammered** · #6 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

Myra... you're soooo oldschool.

mugsy · #7 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

be open and honest, if thye cant handle it then they are not good friends for respecting what you want.

rawb · #8 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

SLIP HER THE DINK.

craz_e_blossom · #9 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

hey she has got to understand you just think of her as a good friend...if they get all pissed off because they wanted more than a friendship then...hell they were a waste of ur time and you don't need them if all they want is a relationship more then a friendship...
**Lovablz**
Paige

Hot Karl · #10 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

look up the speech from chasing amy. and reverse it, then say it to her. really quickly.

SEAN! · #11 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

Quote:

Originally posted by Jingles:
Hmmm intersting. Is this friend male or female?
Aren't friends supposed to make the best lovers? Do you not find this friend attractive? Or just not attractive in that way - Sometimes I give my male friends the 'eyes' but it's only for a moment and it's not really to be taken seriously
But if they really do want you, and you could see yourself with them - it could be really amazing
i mean really amazing

I think if this friend says something it'll give you the chance to have a good chat
communication is key!! (gosh I say that a lot)

listen to this girl connor..its time you got a wifey

yoko* · #12 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

what do "i want you eyes" look like

curious to know,

Ree Fresh · #13 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

have you ever hered the term...

freinds with benifets ???

mugsy · #14 (**permalink**) May 28, 03

friends with benefits tends to get a bit messy though... you gotta be careful there. feelings slip... and they happen and the other person doesnt know and before you know it someone is crying. friends with benifits has to be taken slowly and have massive open communication and control.

SomeGuy · #15 (**permalink**) May 29, 03

1) I don't believe in friends with benefits..
2) I've already given the, I just want to be friends because what we have is so great and I don't wanna lose it speach to four girl's and after that they stopped talking to me..
3) Mc Hammered: I agree, this girl know's too many thing's about me that a GF shouldn't know.
4) Physically I'm attracted, but next to that I would never want to end up with this girl, her mentality and beliefs are a complete opposite of my own.
5) Yoko: I can give you the "I want you eyes" if I ever see you. Best way to describe it is, passionate gaze with wide eyes and dilated pupils followed by the speach.. have you ever thought about us being anything more than.. you know..
6) Sean: No wifey for me, I need to meet someone interesting..

mugsy · #16 (**permalink**) May 29, 03

well if the girls stop talking to you, then they are self centered, and dont cherish friendship as much as you.

Jingles · #17 (**permalink**) May 29, 03

(How to say this without getting smacked upside the head)

Gals are about relationships, friendships, romance and relating to people - Gals are about people (for the most part)
This girls sees a potential to build an even better relationship with you through romance
when you say 'no' even if the reasoning is good, some gals (or guys for that matter) will see it as "you are not good enough for me" and will back off from you entirely
It's like engagement, normally if you break off and engagement you don't continue dating the person you were engaged to, cause you know it's not going to go any further
this could be the case with the other ladies who wanted to be your lover and you didn't want to persue that -

I don't know cause I don't know you or them - But that's the risk that is run sometimes when friends want to take it elsewhere - things can rarely go back to just the way they were, because one party feels rejected (good reason or no) I wouldn't see it as the girls being self centred and uncherishing (I know that's not a word) Some people honestly would need a little space when they feel rejected
I hope that you feel really special that girls get to know the real you and are attracted to thatr - that you are their friend and that they can picture a dating future with you - Cause you get close to some people and you see how ugly they are - ya know??

i hope that you and your gal pal can work out your relationship - it may be bumpy for the both of you and hopefully it has a positive result. If not, take it as another lesson learned - stop being wonderful (tee-hee)

and don't forget to have a beer

yoko* · #18 (**permalink**) May 29, 03

Quote:

Originally posted by SomeGuy

5) Yoko: I can give you the "I want you eyes" if I ever see you. Best way to describe it is, passionate gaze with wide eyes and dilated pupils followed by the speach.. have you ever thought about us being anything more than.. you know..

Please take a picture of yourself and the "I WANT YOU EYES"

SomeGuy · #19 (**permalink**) May 30, 03

^ haha.. sorry but I can't just do them.. you have to truly feel it.. it's a connection you get between two people and if you've never had this before then I don't think that there is any way to validly explain it.

zarlon · #20 (**permalink**) May 30, 03

Heh.. "some girls just know stuff about me that my girlfriend wouldn't".

That's possibly the most retarded thing I've ever heard... Why the hell would you want to go out with someone if you couldn't tell them everything? What is it about, image or something?

Lame, lame shit.

If you want the girl, get a piece... If you don't, just tell her you like her a lot as a friend. It could go either way, she could get all weird, or she could completely understand, depends on what kind of person she is.

-Claire

cyberdog · #21 (**permalink**) May 30, 03

Two words:

Be honest.

Seriously, my best friends are my best friends because I can tell them anything, even if its something that may not be a glowing compliment; they know that I love my friends because of their flaws, not in spite of them. When you say "Physically I'm attracted, but next to that I would never want to end up with this girl, her mentality and beliefs are a complete opposite of my own", this should be something you can tell her without making her (or you) feel bad about it, if the friendship is of the strength you indicate.

SEAN! · #22 (**permalink**) May 30, 03

yo man if you're all worried about her feeling upset because you don't want to be anything more then a friend..just do what id do..say fuck it and then fuck her a couple times and dump her once it gets boring.

yoko* · #23 (**permalink**) May 30, 03

Quote:

Originally posted by SomeGuy
^ haha.. sorry but I can't just do them.. you have to truly feel it.. it's a connection you get between two people and if you've never had this before then I don't think that there is any way to validly explain it.

hmmm well if you're feeling it and she's feeling it then maybe you should give it a go?

chemistry is it? ;)

miss.myra · #24 (**permalink**) May 31, 03

Eh, I've been in a relationship with someone for almost two years who I was once really close friends with.

In fact, we would have most likely gotten together a lot sooner if both of us weren't so scared of the fact that we could ruin our friendship.

On the other hand, I'm sure that some of my friendships with people have never fully recovered because sex was brought into the picture..

I think it all depends on the person, there's no way to completely say that hooking up with a friend is good or bad. I also think that there is a possibility you're just reading into things way too much. Thinking that she's giving you the vibes is probably very flattering to yourself...Some people of the preferred sex can become so close and comfortable as friends that it can many times be interpreted the wrong way by the people in the friendship and also largely by people on the outside.

(did that make sense?)

M