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Jul 28, 03
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relationships?
i don't even know what a proper subject is
so right now i'm feeling like i should break up with my boyfriend because somewhere down the road he's going to dump my ass leaving me extremely upset...these thoughts are getting me pretty upset right now is this normal in a relationship to get so insecure and think silly thoughts? or am i going through some emotional crisis or something gay like that? how do i make this stop, because it's driving me nuts and making me psycho right now i'm thinking it's best just to stop going out with him till i find some self confidence 
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Jul 28, 03
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Myabe nothing really IS the matter. Maybe you just like him a lot and you've developed strong feelings for him and that just scares you, because liking some one a lot comes with "a cost". When you "give your heart" (ohh cliche) to some one, it feels as though you give them the power to break it too. Perhaps you're just afraid that because you like him so much, if anything happens it could devastate you? Maybe you think you should end it before it ends you? Am I thinking too far? lol
Anyways, i say, if you're happy then why not just enjoy it while it lasts.
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Jul 28, 03
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WHY do you think he's going to break up with you?
if you can answer that honestly, you can answer every other question you have does he treat you differently from before? is he spending time with another girl more? what is it? confronting him is a dumb idea gotta deal with it yourself, unless he's obviously with some other girl or something... (no offense) good luck
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Jul 28, 03
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yeah it's natural and nothing to be too concerned about.
relationships like friendships all need improving and it's up to you and him to talk about it, not you and f'n'k to discuss it.
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Jul 28, 03
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well being insecure in a relationship is just asking for trouble,your insecurities could very well make the relationship go to shit thus having a bitter break up. Sooooooo just try and forget about everything thats troubling you,one day you guys may break up its just a part of life enjoy him while you can:)
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Jul 28, 03
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i talked to him bout some stuff that was bugging me, but i couldn't bring myself to tell him i was thinking bout dumping him
most the problems are up to me to solve, but yea i should just make the best of what i got now and work on keeping it going thanks :)
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Jul 28, 03
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Why would you think that somewhere down the road he is going to dump your ass? Hells Kells you need to apreciate yourself before he ever can, and if you think your unwhorthy of him or if you cant fathom why he is with you then maybe you should take some time to work through your insecure thoughts. It is very clique of me to say, and tad sappy but seriously if you dont love every inch of yourself he wont be able to. There will be wall between you and things will go to shit. I think deep down we all care about ourselves, obviousbly you care enough about yourself to protect yourself from getting hurt, so that counts for something. Beleive in yourself and trust him, dont contradict what you, dont conplain while in a relationship because i garuntee you'll conplain even more once your out of it. BTW, its totally normal to have isecure thoughts, every one has them, just try to remind yourself of the goodness you two share, focus on the positive things, dont read into anything or blow something small up big. We always turn into analyitcal freaks when we have something real..dont make that mistake and go paranoid on him. Enojy what you have while you have...relax...only time will tell
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Jul 28, 03
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first of all, i feel that way EVERYTIME i get into a relationship, so yeah, it's normal.
the odds are stacked against relationships actually lasting forever. i used to avoid them all together because i didn't want to have to deal with the break-up drama, but then i realized that i was missing out on so many experiences. just enjoy yourself. try not to think about the end and realize that as you collect relationship experience, your insecurities will fade and you will end up being a stronger person. *hugs* nathaniel kristofer
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Aug 01, 03
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Just take it as it goes, after being through enough relationships you think you got them all figured out but really the next one is just as unpredictable as the last was. Relationships have had their toll on me, so I figure whatever happends...happends and let it slide by....don't let thoughts worry you.
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Aug 16, 03
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well u shouldn't worry about him dumping u but if u think that its gonna end sooner or later down the road better sooner than later cause the longer it takes the more feelings are involved and the more its gonna hurt...
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