falling for the bad guys

[~snow*white~]

why does it always happen to me? i fall for the worst guys. like the ones that treat their girl bad and have the cockiest attitude and a big ego. i'm so tired of it that every guy that i see or am interested in, theres always a string attached that something is not right......no offense to ne one.....for example i get interested in this guy but then all my friends or other ppl tell me not to get involved cuz he's gonna break your heart or whatever......do i listen? nope!! and what happens? yeah i get my heart broken. i'm so dumb......i guess it's blinded by love? but it is really starting to bug me cuz i don't wanna get into a relationship that like the guy is all into himself or whatever.......argh.....i dunno, it seems like it always happens to me though...

[kiMMie]

Isn't that the *common* dilemma for life? Finding the *right* partner...one who will respect, trust, appreciate, and accept you for who you are...Does that even exist Ainslie...

I'm lived a couple years more than you, and I've been through the stages of "bad guys", and trust me, it wasn't the best journey I've been on...

Just take a deep breath, and assure yourself that you're worth more than that, redeem your self-confidence and dignity, and trek forward...

That special someone is out there waiting for you... just be patient :Kimmie:

[Erica]

I feel ya gurl. *big hugs* I'm exactly the same way. I fall for the wrong guys, and I always end up getting extremely hurt and depressed. I find that it's because I rush into relationships too quickly, without REALLY getting to know the other person first. That's why I'm staying single now and spending time with a lot of different people. That way you get to know them better, and you get a good feel of what type of person they are. I've realised, after getting to know them better, that a few of the guys that I thought I wanted to go out with at first, are definitely people that I would never want to get into a relationship with. Hang in there gurl...the right guy WILL come along.

Erica :AZN:

[stabmyhead]

i can tell you this right now, i dont think you were blinded by "love", you are blinded by good looks or the thought that someone is with you, the whole couple oppose to single. maybe you should listen to your friends when they tell you the guys crap. i mean if you met mr.good guy then you wouldnt be complaining about meeting mr.jerk, mr.player, mr.asshole or mr.uses me for sex. have you met mr.abusive yet? how about mr.money grubber? mr. stalker? mr.i just got outta jail. tahts just an example of the kinda guys i have met honey. trust me, it happens to everyone and others have probably had worst ones than you.

but unlike you, i think its kinda funny and i take it more humourously that i have met all these jerks. i dont wanna find mr.right cuz id be annoyed with all his "perfectness" and there will be no conflict. okay maybe thats not true. but his perfectness woucl annoy me slighty. now how old are you? 16? 17? my age maybe? how can you complain about only meeting bad guys when you're probably dating the same "types" of guys.? you're still young. who the fuck cares who you date. get picky when you're older.

personally, i think that all good guys are dead, taken, turned into a player, gay or bi and taken. but then again... "all the single women complain about there being no good single guys and married women always complain about their husbands......... in conclusion... THERE ARE NO GOOD MEN!" plur.

.stabitout.:003:

[~lazee_grrl~]

stabby...wut u said about no good menout there...SO TRUE!!..hehe

but yeah...about the bad boys and stuff...u never know how the guy is til u try..and even then ur all iffy..don't worry too much..we're all still young and probably have a few more idiotic guys to see before we find the rite guy..maybe u have no idea wut kinda guy mr. rite will be..but by goin out with the wrong gusy..lets u know wut kinda guy mr. rite won't be....dun worry hun....he will come around sumtime..but in the meantime just becareful with ur feelings...~

[omega_image]

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[yoko*]

i can say that most of the time it`s my own fault that I fall for the shitass guys...

the reason I think is because being controlled and abused is kind of a turn on.. hehe.. u know those guys who flirt by kind of making fun of you.. and those mockeries can be taken in a bad way if you looked at it that way... but that`s just how they FLIRT? You know how you can tell that they`re juss no good MEN juss by the way they mack? well in a way i kinda like that fooling around getting play-pissed off.. n wutnot...

I usually hate it when I feel like I`m being controlled by guys... but at the same time I can`t help but to like it.. eventually though if it pisses me off enough I snap and bitch them out... but you know wut I think that CONTROL feeling is? the feeling of in a way, being protected... I guess it depends on your personality.. whether you like to be the leader of things or whether u like to take orders. sumtimes I do like the bad boy that literally holds my *heart*... it`s. comforting and protective.. in a way..

but those BAD BOYS, once they got control over your heart, when tired of you and ready to rip it to shreds they shred it up GOOD.



yoko*

[~snow*white~]

thanks guys......i know i'm young and i'm 16 still and trying to find the "perfect" guy that supposedly exsists will just take time and alot of dating every kind of guy known to mankind on earth right?
it's true stabby, all the men are taken and/or gay.......maybe i'll find a gay guy and turn him straight cuz those are the guys who seem to know a girl well. but if i did that then he'll just be one of those mr. abusive or mr. big ego or whatever..........hahaha
i guess finding my mr right will just take time.............why do men have to be like this? geez...
moi---->:016: <----and all the bad guys out there
hee hee

[lil_thong]

lol

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sorry. kinda found that funny....

[omega_image]

i've been meaning to change that, since "supp." this thread has nothing to do with me
-adam

[Glendita*]

What da?
How many broken hearts have u have? This is all news to me.

[rawb]

Originally posted by ~snow*white~
thanks guys......i know i'm young and i'm 16 still and trying to find the "perfect" guy

woo! i was male and 16 once.

well, 16 once, i've always been male... unless this world is one cruel joke.

but i digress...

and i know from experience, the dating pool for women at 16 is very, very bad. most of the 'good' guys havent matured enough or are taken. right now it is not reallyt likely you will find a boy who satisfies what you are looking for in a long term boyfriend.

not many boys at 16 are.. uhm... looking for that long term commitment.

sometimes i wish dating would come back into style again for younger people... going out with members of the opposite sex... no kissing, no nookie, no huge sexual tension. archie and the gang shit. maybe get a few pecks here and there but have some harmless fun while your young, and learn about the opposite sex more too, before you are thrust into it with heavy tounge action on a couch while half drunk at a party.

i guess in todays world people just hook up, and they either start being 'boyfirend and girlfriend' or they are filled with regret.

or maybe im way off base and crazy. i am rambling.

r.

[~snow*white~]

ok to make things a little clear, which i should have done earlier but didn't, this thread is not about ADAM.....so if some ppl think it is well it's not it's about other past bfs. so adam you don't have to worry bout ppl assuming it's you.
ok now glenda i didn't tell you cuz i didn't really talk to you! hehehe
being 16 and tryin to find the right guy is hard cuz some guys haven't really matured yet and they don't want a long term relationship. so i totally agree with you werdyboy.

[BB_YungYung]

I think everyone will get their streak of bad luck relationships, but they shouldn't give up on love alone. Just stick it out and don't depend on relationships too much they you would expect lots when you don't get enough in return. Have some fun dating type, in the search of "the one" take a sample testing, you don't like it, tell them the truth that they aren't your type. It's as simple as that.

Check out what you got before you get it and regret what you did.

good luck in the search..

[starsprite]

I know exactly what u guyz are talking about...My problem is I always fall 4 the players....damn good looking players...that always turn out 2 be assholes. :072: Grrrr......

[BeatItFarmer]

...wait I'm bad....wait....never mind I'm everything...and a little conceided too....j/j