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Jul 30, 01
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When you just want someone to understand...
You know what I find difficult about relationships...*understanding*
When two people really like or love each other, you have to comprise that they both understand each other and their needs...When you have a problem, you tell the other person and they aid you in finding a solution. Or if one needs something out of the relationship, they communicate to inform the other of what they need... Lately, I'm finding this a struggle...I feel like when I need comfort and support from somebody, they leave me hanging :( (even in friendships) But when they need something from me, I ALWAYS have to be there, or they think I'm selling out on them... Don't get me wrong...I love helping people, but not in a one-sided case. I don't normally ask for help, but just for people to listen to my problems, and maybe suggest some advice, but never to solve the problem for me...cuz, it's MY problem, and I would have to deal with it myself, right? *Argh* :097: It would be nice if they could just hug me and say nothing even... 
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Jul 31, 01
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Hey Hey Kimmie, what's bothering you lately?
( better off discuss on ICQ or phone right?) Sure, everyone would like to be treated equally but majority of the time, it doesn’t works this way especially when it comes to love & friendships. Honestly, from the beginning till the end, the ones that will stand by you to offer supports and drag you out from confusions will be your family. Another option, YOU! Trust your judgment easier way to say it is, believe in yourself girl. Needless to say, is your problem of course is only you that know all the details & yes at the end, is going to depend on YOU to seek the best solution for it. No doubt on that. Then again, if you ever need advices or simply, a listener, throw me a call or a ICQ msg. There’s always supporters out there, you just need times & a little fate to encounter them. Keep your eyes open. -hugs- P.S: To love and to give: easily said than done. Always is.
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Jul 31, 01
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i'm not trying to be too bitter, but...
kimmie, your problems are kind of the price you have to pay for being dependant on other people... it's really common what you're going thru...
i can't really level with you on this, because i've spent my whole life trusting only myself, and relying only on myself. i'll never change, no matter how cold other people may say i am. i mean, if someone wanted to cry on my shoulder, and depend on me, i would almost always do it, and think nothing of it. i've learned to expect nothing in return, because most people don't think that they would owe me anything just because i spent a sleepless nite listening to them whine... i'd agree with them, i'm helping them out on a voluntary basis... maybe 1 day they'll have some kinda "lean on me" service, where u can hire someone to come over to your house and listen to your problems for a while... then again, u could just get a call girl or something... haha...
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Jul 31, 01
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hopefully u aren't aiming the friendship part of this at me.....i'm always here to listen and have a smoke break....hopefully i've been some help......gimme a call sometime
-adam
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Jul 31, 01
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Thanks for the reply guys... :Kimmie:
*TUFFY* ~ I know that people want equality and respect...but not everyone shows it...and thanks for the hug *bob* ~ Honestly, I don't think I'm dependant on anyone...I was just trying to make a general comment about how people who care about people should "be there for one another" You don't think that if your best friend was in trouble, or needed to vent about something, you wouldn't be there for them? I try to help people voluntary too and expect nothing in return...but *sometimes* if I'm in need of help or a favor, it would be nice to have them volunteer their friendship as well... Muhahahaha to the "lean on me" service...and call girl? Wouldn't a call *guy* be more appropriate??? *Adam* ~ No silly, this has nothing to do with you...or anyone for that matter...Just wanted to see what people opinions were about this type of situation I hope I didn't come off as a "OMG! My friends abandoned me...or anything" This is not my point... I just think that if friends really care about each other, or if people love each other, they should help instead of running away or ignoring them. Lend a hand, or an ear to people who need it...don't brush them off as if they, and their problems, weren't of importance... Right??
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Jul 31, 01
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Right on Kimmie, and n/p for the hug.
Honestly, if your so called 'friends' act like what you've described above then I'm sure you will know which next step you are going to take next. Doesn't their actions answer your doubts on your friendship/importance to them already? Is too obvious. Move on, don't let this trap yourself into one stage. Hope you feel better soon. =) Plus, don't get yourself pondering too much about these questions cause the answers shall reveals from time to time. You just wait and see. - Out
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Aug 04, 01
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kimmie dear, i think you've been watching too much dawsons creek or hit tv sitcoms..
no one really has the time and patience to listen and carry other ppls "baggage" but since we're all vile lil creatures.. digging into each other with our sharp lil teeths.. clinging onto.. err.. pretty much no one cares about anyone else and you gotta make up lil personalities in your head and talk to yourself. or find a psychiatrist.. maybe if you have a nervous break down in public.. ppl will start listening. :) .stabitout. "aim for my head"
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Aug 04, 01
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SMH...
Uh...maybe I may have read your post wrong...but that was little harsh :047:
The point of this thread wasn't to "advertise" my personal problems for everyone to read and help me with, but it was to maybe, possibly, make people stop for one second and think about the relationship/friendship that they were involved in and really debate that they "understand" them That was all... I just added my personal feeling about the subject... I personally don't like to carry other people's "baggage" either, but I like to be a person who's understanding, patient and impartial to other's feelings and problems, and be there to listen, not to *shoo* them away. Don't you help friends when they are in need of help? And don't you try to *understand* their situation? Just curious... :Kimmie: BTW...What the hell is Dawson's Creek??? Sorry, I don't have time to watch TV that much...I hold three different jobs :088:
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Aug 04, 01
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Re: When you just want someone to understand...
Hey everyone, i was just browsing through posts and found this one............
um..... after reading SMH's reply ( which was a bit harsh but c'mon now ppl r free to say what they like this is a public forum) I read Kimmi's reply Quote:
In regards to your reply to stabby eg. #1 in my quote of you..... um....... if this wasn't to advertise that your having a problem then why would you write this?? Quote:
NO HARD FEELINGS!! hope you feel better....... -Bob........call girls?? hahahaha nice idea! -Kimmie......call boys??? <--- GET ME ONE! Im outtie! bibi
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Aug 05, 01
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baby k and kimmie!
kimme: you should know by now that this is how i write/post/talk/etc. in a kinda pessimistic and cynical view of everything. PLUR. i was adding light and "stabby" suggestions to your problem. lighten up a bit. everyone has the same kinda problems! :)
baby k: word. well except i dont watch dawsons creek :P havent seen you on here for a while. good to have ya back. .stabitout.
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Aug 08, 01
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Leslie ~ Hahahaha...don't worry about it :Kam: I know how you write posts, and thanks for giving me your honest opinion anyways...it was...um...insightful
We should get together and sit thru an episode of Dawson's Creek to see what BabyK is talking about....Hahahahahah :041: BabyK ~ I'm a Bartender/Waitress/Nurse/Manager/and work for two entertainment companies...I am a renaissance person...that is my choice...and I'm not complaining about it :Kimmie: I love working such diverse jobs... BTW...that comment was just to add my personal feeling to the situation/topic...that's all
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Sep 20, 01
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meh im not really gonna reply specifically to any post on here but this is jus a lil rant that ive become accustomed with and have taken to heart....
When u have expectations of people...u are setting urself up for failure...u will always be let down in some way eventually...u can't depend on anyone else but urself.. i don't know if this could really apply to ur situation but it sounds like it could.... corrie
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