HELP ME! HELP ME!!say it's ok..*cries*

[*Daydreamer*]

i have this really big big problem.....
one that i never thought i'd be in....


my bestest friend in the whole world...(we're like sisters)

um...well...her ex and me like each other lots and yeah...stuff is happening......that i want to happen, but i don't because of her..
i'm the kind of person..(up til now i geuss) who would never, ever touch one of my friends ex's..or boyfriends for that matter...
but ..heh...by accident...stuff just happened, and i don't know what to do about it....i'm so upset....and confused....and the worst thing is, is that she still likes him.....
but i think it's too late to turn back, you know?
arg!
so confusing...so confusing..so confusing..
i know i shouldn't go out with this person because she is so important to me...i don't want to lose her...but this guy...is just awesome.......i know what i should do...*cries* but it is soooo hard.....it's so easy to give advice....but to actually listen to it, and follow it.....sssoooo hard.....:043:
i know if i'm any kind of a friend..i'll back off...and stay outta the picture....even though there is no picture between them....but you know what i mean.....

any advice?:031:

[~lazee_grrl~]

this is a tough situation....ok..reminds me another thread where i was discussing this situation...but yeah..first off..does ur friend know u like her ex?..or does she know nething happened?..i think u gotta talk to her..or even hint and try to figure out where u 2 would stand if u and her ex were to go out...if u know it'll bug her..back off for a while..if the guy likes u..he should wait and be understanding for u to figure this out..i mean..u don't wanna lose a friendship over this guy rite??..chicks before dicks?..but i dunno...u can't make the guy wait forever either...but yeah..i know how hard it is to talk to ur friend about it...but its the only way to go if u ever want nething to happen cuz if u go behind her back..u;'d be screwed if she found out...good lucks to u on ur situation~..

[bob]

this is how i lost my best friend... so expect a strongly biased opinion from me...


i'll give u a run down of what happened in my case first *u can skip this part, it's just an example*

-- begin useless talk --
... my best friend helped me pull together the courage to finally ask this girl out in high school, very cheesy, a dozen very expensive roses on v-day... *gag*... 2 weeks later she responded, we went out, i was scared shitless, my best friend was helping me the whole way thru the relationship... until after 6 or so months, i got the hang of it ... we went out for almost a year and a half... i dumped her once we finished high school... haha ouch... anyways, we were all at a party one nite, and my best friend was kinda comforting my ex-gf, seeing as all her friends ditched her and came running to me (why? i dunno... nice friends she has huh... haha), so it seemed she had nowhere to turn but to my friends... our groups were kinda close in the social order of high school anyways... so she came up and asked me if i was ok with them hanging out, i said sure why not, no harm there... date him if u want... so they did... but my best friend didn't know how i would take it... so he started avoiding me... thought i was gonna kick his ass... one day i ran into him in the food court, and actually acted like an adult for once in my life, and told him we need to sit down and talk... so we talked, and i told him that i was ok with him going out with her... it's not like he was breaking any guy-friendship-rules seeing as i dumped her... (guys: never date a girl that dumped your friend... it's just the rules ok...)... anyways... things looked promising... we started hanging out over coffee and stuff again, just like old days, go to the beach at nite and throw our problems into the sea and scream *FUCK IT* as loud as we could... *sigh*... those were the days....... about a month later, they both started going to UBC... after the first day of school, i never heard from him... that was 2 years ago... i still talk to my ex-gf... they broke up after about a year...

i miss my ex-best friend like crazy... we made such a great team...

-- end useless talk --


ok... don't go for him. for fucks sake... how great of a guy can he be if he couldn't work it out with your best friend? even better question :::: what kinda guy goes for his ex-gf's best friend... I CAN ANSWER THAT ONE... ME! no "prince charming" would do something like that... only a desperate guy, who can't find a girl on his own would do something like this... think about it... the guy doesn't know any other girls other than his ex-gf's friends, so he jumps at the cutest of the bunch, which i guess would be u in this case, unless he already tried to score with one of her other friends but failed...

guys come and go hun... plenty of algae in the sea... best friends aren't something that come along every day... try thinking it over without your hormones on overdrive...



just my opinion

[stabmyhead]

ALRIGHT. how do things ACCIDENTLY HAPPEN?? you slipped and fell and accidently started making out or playing with him? did you guys trip and fall into a kiss?? it wasnt an accident. alright. ill tell you that much.

its NOT okay. no. HOW COULD YOU?? HAVE YOU NO RESPECT FOR YOURSELF OR YOUR BESTFRIEND?? fuck. this is me not sympathizing with you. there are so many other guys or girls that could like you a lot. so why take one that your FUCKIN' BEST FRIEND WANTS??? you are what. 14 right now. im sure you have plenty of time to meet them if your best friend doesnt kill you first. i guess thats why i dont have any bestfriends.. MUHAHAHA.

if you're a good friend. you'll back off and tell her and not make up excuses "oh he drugged me!" and if shes a good friend.. she'll believe you and forgive you.. if you're gonna be selfish. you're gonna go molest the hell outta him and then push him back to her. you evil cunt.

dont feel too bad. this is my bias and judgemental view on the subject. :027: sorry but i dont dig through other ppls GARBAGE. i dont recycle other ppls cans and plastic. i dont eat regirgitated (sp?) foods. i think you get the picture.

.stabitout.

[Erica]

Under no circumstances is it okay for you to go for your best friend's ex, ESPECIALLY since she still has feelings for him.

What's more important?

Friends?...or in this case, your BEST friend...

OR

A guy...

Obviously the first. What if you got together with this guy, and your best friend disowned you? How could you live with that? Or what if she just put on a smiley face, but deep inside you KNOW that she is being torn apart?

If I liked my best friend's boyfriend (kay, my best friend is a guy, but SAY he was a girl *hehe*) and she told me it was okay to go out with him, I still wouldn't. There are so many other guys out there. Why do you have to pick her ex?

I understand it's hard to control your emotions when you like somebody, but seriously, don't sacrifice a perfectly good friendship over a guy. Stop now before things go further, cause the longer you keep on doing this, the harder it's going to get.

Erica :AZN:

[*Daydreamer*]

Originally posted by bob

"how greatof a guy can he be if he couldn't work it out with your best friend? even better question :::: what kinda guy goes for his ex-gf's best friend...

they only went out for 2 weeks, and that was almost three months ago.....i don't think he knows that she still has feelings for him.

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she is kind of 'with' someone right now...this is why it's so confusing for me........
i know i shouldn't for our friendship...but if she's seeing someone....wouldn't that be different?

there are so many other guys and girls who could like you a lot. so why take the one your best friend wants.

you are what. 14 right now?

i'm 17, not that it makes that much of a difference.....

[rawb]

i say go for the boy, since you obviously are wishy-washy about your allegance to your friend.

the ensuing emotional nightmare that will come of this, will teach you never to sell out your best-friends again for some stupid boy.

now give your head a shake and figure out your priorities.

bros over hoes.

or i guess the girls verion is hoes over bros.

r.

[BB_YungYung]

daydreamer: I don't think you should go for it,


but it really depends.. you really have to think about the factors
you have to tell your friend the truth,

she obviously had dibs on him first so you have to confront her with your situation, and see if she would give you blessing on you dating her ex. but first you have to let her know that you mean everything to her, and you *hopefully* would just give up chasing him if she didn't want you to date him cause cherish your relationship that much.

if you want to break the news to her, break it in person, you have a better chance of seeing her reaction as to her seeing yours.


me outies.. - Yung