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Sep 27, 03
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How do you...
Tell someone that you care about them??
 Like ive got it super bad for this guy I am casually seeing :soak: And I dunno how to tell him or if i even should. We were friends from the time I was 16 and I just found out last summer that he always had a huge crush on me... but me being the heartless bitch I am blew him off and just used him for a piece of ass. And now... luck should have it thatttttt hes using me for a piece of ass... this is what i assume because we started hanging out again when he was on the rebound from his ex. I really dont care if he feels the same as I do or not,this is something thats driving me up the fucking wall and i seriously NEED to get it off my chest... I just dunno how 2 go about it. Eeeww i feel so wierd and dirty for having anything but inpure feelings for another person.. WHATS WRONG WITH ME!!!!:(help me please. 
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Sep 27, 03
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aw, isnt that the way it goes.
what you give out, comes back. i try not to do that, in fear that one day that might happen to me. i think tho, based on the friendship, he already knows things about you, that normally he wouldnt, and i think if you are good friends, having a emotions talk would be a bit easier than just some casual booty call guy. good. luck!
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Sep 27, 03
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Aww nothing is wrong w/ you
it's natural for the heart to want something more then just booty from time to time I hear what you are saying i mean most of us know the saying 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?' i think about that one and I have no idea if it's true or not. I personally would stop bumping uglies with him for now and just be a friend and help him through the break-up (if that's stll on his mind) Friendship is a great place for a relationship to start if someone has the guts to say something to the other - and if he doesn't feel the same way - you can still be friends - you really can be :) How to tell him? well I am a big advocate of face to face communication - but I know I have been guilty of the phone fax and email methods too (okay maybe not fax) But it's natural to care for friends and sometimes those feelings grow into other things and that can be a great thing Even girls who like booty calls deserve boyfriends - so just go try it out. Start talking and maybe you'll get the feel from the conversation if it's the right time for you to say something
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Sep 27, 03
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I dont think the break up is still on his mind at all. When it fist happened i tried talking to him about it and hes like "what happened happened its in the past now I wanna leave it there" the one thing that kinda bugs me is he still has a fucking picture of his ex up on his mirror in the bedroom :finger: like she cheated on him and yet he still has a pic of her up? wtf? that kinda like makes me feel like ass, but the things he says makes me think otherwise, hes always saying I miss you and I love falling asleep next to u and waking up with u beside me and waking up in the middle of the night with u right there sometimes I watch u sleep bla bla. And like last time i saw him was like last thursday we passed out and i was having a dream about him that he was in danger... and then i woke up to him stroking my tummy and I was stroking his face and lips then i snuggled up to his chest still half asleep and started kissin him and stroking his face and then he held me and bla bla bla. It was really fucking wierd. Like it felt right? AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH im so emotional over all this :284: The thing that sux badass is that he has such a crazy scheduale with school&work&running his company and shit, and whenever we plan to do shit something ALWAYS comes up and it sux:(argh
this is so fucked up for me i havent felt this way since my ex and that was over a year ago and ugh this is just fucked im a blabbering idiot. thanx 4 the help i think next time i see him ill get drunk and just give`r. haha
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Sep 27, 03
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I think by the sounds of it, he still likes you in the same sorta manner as he previously did... but might be a bit too proud, scared, or insecure to persue anything too serious with you. You blowing him off may of given him the idea that you aren't looking for anything serious, which granted at the time, you weren't.
I don't like the idea of rushing into a relationship after a break up, so I personally would suggest that you wait a while before bringing up the idea of dating with him.... just be there for him, and maybe he'll start seeing you in a sincere way that he never previously saw. If you continue to make savage bed scenes with him, he may only think of it as that and nothing more... maybe ask him casually, if you guys are going out or just casual buddies. You may luck out and he'll ask you what you would like (that'd be your cue to go, "Well, I was kinda hoping we could be more than just buddies", or, "great, I love you too. THIS RULES!!", etc).
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Sep 27, 03
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^hahahahahahahaha that was cute thanx stabby. I just got off the phone with my best friend and I talked 2 her about the whole situation and she said pretty much the same thing as u did stabby. I was thinking also itd be best if I waited too to tell him because he just broke up with his ex like not even 2 months ago so its still fairly fresh and would be rude of me to spring something so huge upon him after so little recovery time. Im starting to feel better about the whole situation and hopefully all goes within my favor but if not hey thats life! :toasted:
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Sep 28, 03
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nothing is wrong with you .. its called affection what goes around comes around.. tell him how u feel .. just sit down with him or find a specific moment during the day when ur with him that has high sexual or pasionate tension and tell him how u feel.. thats the best way to do it
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Sep 28, 03
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^hahahaha yeah I weas considering that also because usally when i like people its a passing phase but i dunno i feel differently about this so yeah. I dunno when Im gonna have time to see him cuz I just got hired waitressing at a restaurant and i got 2 shifts a day :284: meh theres a will theres a way i suppose.
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Oct 02, 03
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So I punked out and sent him an email last night before I went to bed, i woke up this afternoon andddddd check my email and theres an email back from him saying that he loves spending time with me and he wants to spend more time with me but hes unable to commit to a serious relationship right now because of work&running his company... then he went on to use that "it has nothing to do with you" line. :040: so yet again I am only a piece of ass. I feel GREAT.:(
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