Being stood up

[Special_J]

I don't understand why my boyfriend does this. I talked to him at 6:30 and he said that he wanted to see me tonite. He said he was on his way out to surrey right away so he would either stop by my place on the way or call me when he got there. It's a 20 minute bus ride from his place to surrey. Now its 8:30 and I haven't heard from him. This happens way to often. He knows how much it hurts me to sit here waiting for him when he doesn't show up. The worst part is he will call several hours later and act as if nothing is wrong. I am not even angry at him I just want to cry and cry and cry. Why does he do this? At least he could call if he was going to be late, but nothing.

[crackle]

awe poor Natasha *hugglez*.. i hope that u work things out with him...

[Bevvy Swift]

the first thing yu need to do is to GET angry at him. crying, although it may release your emotions, doesn't solve problems. you need to confront him about it and tell him that what he is doing is really hurting you/pissing you off. if he doesn't change, it's time for a new boyfriend, my friend.

[junglequeen]

brutal
shame on him
some people just dont understand how much being punctual or being true to their word is


i used to go out for dinner with a girlfriend of mine all dressed up and pretend we had been stood up - always got free drinks!

[Akeel]

want me to beat him up? :D

seriously, u need to talk to him about it otherwise nothing will change and it'll keep on happening.

[Technique]

Wow Nat, that is pretty lame of him ...

msg me on MSN, I got some ideas for you

:smoke1:

[Kandyapple]

thats lame. I have always waited around for people too and its not worth it. even when you have nothing to do when its your bf it really hurts when they don't seem to care that what they are doing is hurting your feelings. they just brush it off and then you feel silly for making it a big deal. but if it is hurting you then it is a big deal. and if this is a regular thing then you need to say something. if it doesnt change then he obviously is not taking your feelings seriously and you need to move on because if its not this then it will be something else. don;t let him get you down. just deal with the problem and don;t put your needs on the back burner. you will only get hurt if you don't stick up for yourself.

[Jingles]

I feel like I have been saying this a lot recently - people will treat you as you llow yourself to be treated.

What he is doing is inconsiderate - and it's bad enough when it's a friend or an aquaintance -- but a partner who can't bothered to call when they are late or not coming at all is a big bad jerkface

and it's probably not a big deal to him - cause you don't make it a big deal. And if no one ever says anything when he does this - then why would he think it's a big deal?

You have to tell him how it makes you feel when you are waiting for him and he does not showup --- Or how terrible it is to make plans with someone you love and then you can't count on them to show up. Dude that's a crappy feeling and he deserves to know that he's the one who causes you to feel that way.

it's not hard to pick up a phone
you are worth way more then a guy who can't be bothered.

[Prissypants]

You could do what I do...wait 10 min past the time that they should be there and then go off and do something else. If they get pissy just say: "Hey I waited for you and you never showed up." Too bad for them...

[miss.myra]

Why do you wait for the phone to ring if he always sells you out?

If he's late, that's his problem and it should be his loss, not yours.

[hardstylin]

u poor girl just tell him that it really bothers you when hes does that shit and that he need to stop it.

[Kelster]

that's disrespect...i'd leave him and save myself from the drama

[MONEY]

So he did it again eh, so u gonna do what u said the last time??

[linds]

Originally posted by Jingles
I feel like I have been saying this a lot recently - people will treat you as you llow yourself to be treated.

What he is doing is inconsiderate - and it's bad enough when it's a friend or an aquaintance -- but a partner who can't bothered to call when they are late or not coming at all is a big bad jerkface

and it's probably not a big deal to him - cause you don't make it a big deal. And if no one ever says anything when he does this - then why would he think it's a big deal?

You have to tell him how it makes you feel when you are waiting for him and he does not showup --- Or how terrible it is to make plans with someone you love and then you can't count on them to show up. Dude that's a crappy feeling and he deserves to know that he's the one who causes you to feel that way.

it's not hard to pick up a phone
you are worth way more then a guy who can't be bothered.

i definetly do not agree with this.
i dont think you get treated the way you want. or how you allow.

i think some people lack feelings, and just treat people badly.

[Kandyapple]

but it is still in your power to let the problem continue without saying anything and letting it hurt you more over time. or you can walk and not let it bother you anymore.
You don't make people treat you that way, you can just allow it to happen.

[Sue Bitch]

never thought u were the kind of girl to train him better

oh well and he doesnt want you to rave on new years whats with that?

[Lil Bunny]

i know exaclly how you feel.
my ex used to do the same damn thing to me too over and over and over again. although in my case talkin to him about it did not lead to any improvemet i hope your guy is more considerate towards you. waiting around for someone definately sucks especially when its a "special" someone. tell him it bugs you when he does stuff like this and at least a phone call to let you know hes not comin anymore would be nice. (and not 3 hours later).

hope everything works out for you. you seem like a cool person!