Soo Confused :( HELP!!

~Sc@ndelu$~ · #1 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

Ok.. so this is how it kinda goes... i was going out with sumone and we broke up in august but a month later he calls me and then we start to date again but not official anymore. He asked me if i was seeing anyone else and i said no and he said ok good kinda thing and so we've been basically exclusive since september... Well the past month hes been acting weird i noticed and i know he had been hanging out with a girl and his freinds but i was told she had a gf and to not worry about it and it didnt really bother me cus well i got other guys too.... well tonite i get a call and i find out the fuckin 17yr old slept at his house last saturday nite!!! I'm sure they fooled around too obviously. It just kinda sucks and im stressed about it now...

Anyone have suggestions? should i confront him? or should i just let it pass and ignore it? :028: HELP ME lol

Miss T · #2 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

it sounds if you are unsure of whether you guys are exclusive or not. maybe you guys just need to set things straight. but if he is fucking around while 'exclusive', kick him to the curb.

Mr.Dave · #3 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

You have other guys too? And you're pissed about someone sleeping at his house? You make no sense.

Miss T · #4 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

^^

i think she means having guys as friends just as he has girls as friends...

~Sc@ndelu$~ · #5 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

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Originally posted by Mr.Dave
You have other guys too? And you're pissed about someone sleeping at his house? You make no sense.

I didnt mean it in that exact way,... i have choices but i wouldnt go as far as to stay at their house... it just shocked me cus he doesnt seem like that kinda guy

Goat · #6 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

1. less talk more suck.

2. how can you be un-officially exclusive? so your slutting his pole and the rest of the world doesn't know about it and thinks he's free game?

3. i'm confused.

~Sc@ndelu$~ · #7 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

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Originally posted by Goat
1. less talk more suck.

2. how can you be un-officially exclusive? so your slutting his pole and the rest of the world doesn't know about it and thinks he's free game?

3. i'm confused.

it means we're not going out but we're not supposed to be getting with other people aka we're seeing eachother.... hes not game free either cus its not like its a secret about us... im really good freinds with his freinds and we're all always together... everyone knows about us being together

Mr.Dave · #8 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

Well then what do you mean by choices?

I agree with Miss T though you need to lay things out with him. Getting mad about things that are unclear sucks.

Sarah... · #9 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

shit can get confusing..............
i say just dont expect a loyal relationship and be his buddy still but let him know since he obviously didnt feel comited u kinda have to go your own way...
sounds like u guys kinda have a history/been together a while
and just make it clear u 2 wont be with each other like how u may have been before or could have been in the future.. beacause he hurt your feelings
try not 2 think 2 much either

cityqueen · #10 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

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Originally posted by Miss T
it sounds if you are unsure of whether you guys are exclusive or not. maybe you guys just need to set things straight. but if he is fucking around while 'exclusive', kick him to the curb.

I agree. You need to sit down with him and talk about where the two of you stand. You say that the two of you are exclusive, but if that's the case, then you shouldn't even be worried. Or better yet....he shouldn't have had that girl stay at his place, out of consideration for you.

Hope that helps! :c-tard:

*Geminiz* · #11 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

You have to confront him ofcourse - not only about this situation but also but your relationship and what it means to both of you. You are obviously hurt by this and you need to set things straight. If you are with him all the time, everyone knows you're together, and I'm guessing you act like a "couple" but he decides to have some girl stay over at his house with out telling you and you are pretty sure they "fooled around", there's obviously a problem there. Why wouldn't you confront him?

~Sc@ndelu$~ · #12 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

oh wow thanks for ur advice! I just dont know how i'd go about confronting him,

.... i think i'll wait and see if he tries to come over this weekend and then i'll be like, " so i hear u had sum lil 17year old stay at ur house last saturday nite..." But if he doesn't try and call or anything i guess i just leave it :284:

Rytalin · #13 (**permalink**) Mar 19, 04

geezus
this game is really confusing

Lets play scrabble instead!

ebbomega · #14 (**permalink**) Mar 20, 04

I got "vapid".

crookedking · #15 (**permalink**) Mar 21, 04

just let it pass and ignore it.

robyn · #16 (**permalink**) Mar 21, 04

I think you should invite the 17 year old to spend the night at your house.

candytabi · #17 (**permalink**) Mar 21, 04

Ignore HIM!!! HAHAH. Well.. that would be one solution..

mugsy · #18 (**permalink**) Mar 22, 04

if you have other options, why are you wasting your time fussing over him?
honesty is the best poilicy, so ask him. if he freaks out and cant be mature about then, then i say again, why are you wasting your time?

cutienikki · #19 (**permalink**) Mar 22, 04

if i was in this situation i would ask him what the hell is going on and then say buh bye because if you guys do get into a serious relationship later on or whatever he might still have her as a side dish....gotta becareful girlie :keebler: