i dunno wut to do.....

[Ms.Chop]

i mean.. there isnt really anything i can do but support my friend.. i jus found out a couple hours ago that he has terminal cancer.... that kinda explains all the heart problems he has been having.. but i really dunno wut to say or anything i consider him one of my good friends... he has helped me out alot.. and i dunno :( i kinda layed in bed and thought bout life.. and how for alot of ppl its to short.. and then i started thinking bout other things and i started bursting out into tears... this sucks.. and also like 10days ago was the 1 year anniversary of my friend Shane's death.. and it came all crashing back to me.. even tho Shane lived back in Toronto (near where i used to live) we still talked alot.. and then i dunno.. all these thoughts make me remember past things and it jus sucks.. nothing really i can do but give him full support.. he told me that sumtime in the near future he was gonna take a vacation... and never come back.. and i was jus so sad... i dunno anymore :(

im not looking for sympathy... i jus needed to pour out my heart.. cuz its 4am and there is no1 i can talk 2 :(

[cinist]

it will be aiight gia. death isnt something you are ever going to get use too. it's hard and it hurts, its aiight to feel like that just make sure you do feel, instead of ignoring it. be there for your friend, find strength within yourself to help him deal with all this.
knowing someone is going to die is a rough thing, you've just got too spend as much time as possible with them. make sure you dont get scared and run away from them (emotionally or otherwise) .

[Josie]

its gonna be real hard right now but eventually as time goes by things will get better. theres lots of bumps on the road and this is just another one. death is a very upsetting subject indead but its nothing you can do about it right? its even harder cause you cant do anything about it and you cant stop it happening. but dont worry it gets easier in time...*HUGS*! go out try to have a blast and try to not to think about i guess. thats what i do.

[zarlon]

i fully agree with what shannon said ... spend as much time with them as you can because you know that these moments are the ones you will treasure forever. unfortunately i didn't know what to do when my mom was dying and no one was around to give me good advice like that..

let him know youre there for him, and really just liten to anything he has to say. if its gonna happen anyways just make sure he has fun until it does.. if he doesn't go on that vacation that is.

goodluck, for both of you

[decypher]

woa, thats horrible i feel so bad for whoever it is. All u can do is be that girl who is there for him, someone he can talk to, hug, watch a movie with, just be there for him and help him to feel better in his situation.

[robyn]

A friend of mine is going through the same thing. He seems to handle the idea of his death much, much better than I do.

[Ms.Chop]

^^ same .. he jus doesnt even care anymore.. pretty much.. he wont stop doing drugs.. i have told him.. and alot of his friends tell him to..

it jus sucks.. nothing i can do..

[robyn]

Originally Posted by Ms.Chop

^^ same .. he jus doesnt even care anymore.. pretty much.. he wont stop doing drugs.. i have told him.. and alot of his friends tell him to..

I hear that. He's always high on something or other when I see him. Come to think of it, that's probably why he handles it so well!

[Jingles]

Imagine after all your health woes and suffering someone told you that your time on Earth was coming to an end.

Now you know that the end is coming , but you don't know when - sure there are estimates, but like the weather, guessing death is not a science

So now you know you are going to die - that you are going to leave everyone you love to go -- to go somewhere no one comes back from, to a place no one can describe - to a place no one can say for sure if it exsits or not

In your last months and days you'll have to deal with all those who love you dealing with the fact that you are dying - You'll have to deal with people who can't deal, people who will refuse to acknoledge what's really happening

Imagine it was you in his shoes and how overwhelming some of it will be -- You might want to get high too
but at least you have a chance to be there for him - to say everything that needs to be said
Any one of us could go at any time with no warning
at the very least you will get the chance now to share everything you want to share

and maybe it will remind the rest of us how short and beautiful and unpredictable this life is
and we should all take a moment to remind those that we love that we love them