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Apr 22, 04
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Bob
OK. Here's my deal. I've had a really hard past year. I've lost 11 really important people in my life. None of them were over 40 years old. Anyways. I have this friend, lets call him "Bob". So, i met bob at the same time that i lost my cousin Owen, he died in a car accident in Cloverdale. I felt an immediate attachment to Bob. Mabye it was because i was at such a vulnerable state. That was a year ago. Now Bob is being a dink. He's just ditching me all the time and dosn't seem to really want to be my friend (even though he says he does). This is causing me a lot of grief and making things really hard for me. Most people are saying i should just forget about him. But i don't think i could do that, Bob is a really big part of my life. What should i do?
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Apr 23, 04
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seems like youve developed an unneccessary emotional attatchment to bob... and though it feels like you need him, you truely dont.
i thought i had developed this kind of attatchment to someone after a ruff year, so i sorted out my head and realized that i hadnt, i deeply care for the person, and the person deeply cares for me. i thought that all the wonderful things they did for me\the way i felt was because of the support they gave, but it wasnt. it was based on how the person felt for me. it does sound liek bobs a dink, maybe his tired of being your shoulder to cry on? start to slowly distance yourself, rather then them distancing themselves. find other stuff to do, deal with it as though it were a break up. eat ice cream. but really it bakes down to you realizing you just need you, and that some of the need you feel is false. be reliant on yourself.
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