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Apr 22, 04
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cheating friends
Ok so I have 2 friends that have recently started "seeing each other" I guess you could say. The guy has been my friend for 4 years. The girl I just met a couple months ago but I have been getting along really good with her and we have become fairly close in that time. Now the problem is that the guy has a girlfriend, they have only been going out for a few weeks so it's not serious, but STILL that doesn't make it ok for him to go and fool around with another girl. So I am in a difficult situation. I feel really horrible, like I am stuck in the middle. On one hand I could jeopardize my friendship with the guy if I tell her that he has a girlfriend, but on the other hand, if she finds out about his girlfriend and that I knew all along, I could lose her as a friend to. I feel like she deserves to know and that she is being used. But I also don't want to lose my friend of 4 years. Help!
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Apr 22, 04
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friend for 4 years warrants more respect then that, tell her the truth.
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Apr 22, 04
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you should talk to the guy friend and tell him that its wrong
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Apr 22, 04
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not your situation to govern... as hard as it may be to watch it happen... the girl being played needs to learn about people like that.. so she can find better people for herself later :)
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Apr 22, 04
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Personally, I never get involved in these things, or tell one part of the couple things about the other. Most of the time, it is NOT my place to say anything, nor do people usually appreciate the interferece in their lives...
But then, I stay absolutly neutral when 2 of my friends are seeing each other, and have problems. I won't choose sides.
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Apr 22, 04
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tell the girl.
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Apr 22, 04
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I'm with this guy. If you weren't friends with both of them, then you would have an obligation to wash your hands of the whole dirty business. But since you are, you should talk to him and tell him that you think he's being an ass to this girl and putting you in a rotten position.
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Apr 22, 04
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I dunno... I'm not one to muck about with peoples Private Life.
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Apr 22, 04
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i've been the girlfriend in this kind of situation, and i say tell all whos involved. no matter what feelings will be hurt, however is this persists, emotions will only get bigger\cause more hurt.
also talk your guy friend definately tell him whats up. if you really cant just go behind him and tell the ladies, then tell him he has to, or you will.
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Apr 22, 04
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Meh I say take a pic of the couple and date it. Then send it in the mail to the new girl.
She can make a decision from there. And you don't get blamed for it. Frankly i'm not saying this will work though. I'm really not sure what I would do. I had a really good friend that was being cheated on by her long term bf who was best friends with my bf. eventualy we realized that he had no respect for any girl and that he was treating her like shit to cover up his mess. So my bf told her. But that resulted in a rock through his windshield. Sooooo yah totaly different story i'm sure because dude was phyco. under normal sircumstances I think it would be a tough decision. But i'm very not for cheating so I think I would go the annonymous route. Because I like to keep my friends even though I don't always agree with everything they do.
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Apr 22, 04
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Just be sure that you know what kind of understanding is in both relationships before you go mucking around. They may be in an open relationship.
Personally though, I would stay out of it. It is really none of your business.
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Apr 22, 04
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I only found out about his girlfriend by accident the other day when she called here looking for him. I know for a fact that if either girl found out about the other they would be totally crushed and that he is NOT in an open relationship with either of them. But I have told him to stop being an ass to the girls and pick one of them. I am just worried that this is all going to blow up in his face and I am going to end up getting shit for not telling the girl.
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Apr 23, 04
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I say tell him that if he doesnt be honest with the girls you will.
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