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*Sigh*
Where do I start? I've known this girl for 2-3yrs now...I consider her my BEST/Closests girl friend. We always hang out, tell each other everything, be ourselves around one another.
Thing's have gone pretty smooth in our frienship for the past few yrs till this yr more to be exact these few mnths espcially June/July has been a bit rocky. Were always arguing, etc. Those who know me, know that I keep a lot of stuff bunddled up inside of me and keep thing's to myself to avoid conflict/arguments. But there is only so much a person can take right? BUT more IMPORTANTELY I want our friendship to be normal again...Not all this bickering/bitchin it has been lately... Thing's that bother me right now about our friendship: #1. I've ALWAYS been there for her...From the time she broke up with her bf, she was even SHOCKED that I came right away to support her and have a shoulder for her to cry on. Always talking about guy's with her and what not. But when it comes to me? She's not very supportive. It just really bug's me how I can't spill my problems to her and she not being just as supportive back? Especially when she know's she's my best/closests girl friend. #2. It seems like she talks to other people differently? Well not seems I KNOW she does. Like why can't you talk to everyone else and be diff. to me? I talk to everyone else the same. Either it be msn/phone/person. What you see is what you get. #3. Knowing her for so long I know she doesn't have that 1 BEST/Closests girl friend as she does with me being her guy friend. She's been hanging out with one of my other friends like were ALL friends and all so I'm HAPPY that she's developing that close girl friend friendship/relationship with this person but it seems like their ALWAYS together? I'm friends with the other girl as well, but it just seems like it's been AGES since we've done anything alone. I mean it'll be nice to chill/hang out alone sometimes with either guy/gurl friends you know to catch up on things and what not. What should I do? I recently lossed one of my best guy friends this yr just cause we've grown apart and not as close anymore. We've just got back in touch recently and is rebuilding our friendship. It would TEAR me apart inside if I lossed my best/closests girl friend and the same thing happened where weren't close anymore :( I've told her how I feel about the above mentioned thing's that bug me. Maybe we need some time apart from one another? See where our friendship goes cause obviously always arguing isn't helping thing's. Well enough with the bickering *hehe*Has this happened to you guy's? I'm sure I'm NOT the only one experiencing this right now...What would you guy's do? Thanks for listening guy's! *Hugz* Last edited by RiCeY; Jul 23, 04 at 02:02 AM. |
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well peter i dont know you as well as some of these other people do but my only advice would be to just take some time apart to think things through but dont expect everything to go all right once you guys think you have gotten enough time away from each other...take it slow at first. It is hard when you loose a best friend i mean i have gone through so many just cuz we are all moving on and in different directions. I hope everything works out for you and i know my advice isnt the best one. Maybe this is the time to see this person for who she really is...
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First of all i think that if u are listening to her spill her problems then she should give u the decency of letting u spill urs. In what way duz she talk to u diffrent? like meanly? for #3 i think u are feeling like a third wheel...maybe even a little jealous , but its natural to feel that way! all the sudden it's nt just the 2 of u chillin its 3 of u and since its a girl sh's probably go mor in common with ur best girl friend. I think u should talk to ur best friend and let her kno how u are feeling, and maybe even let the other girl ko how u are feeling too! Maybe this is wut ur friend needs is a close relationship with a girl since u are her best friend and u are a guy, u can't relate to her on a couple things, am i rite?I'm sure things will turn out fine...u both shouldn't b fightening. if u are arguing lots maybe she just wants a little more space so leave her alone for a little while, wait for her to call u up n ask to chil. I hope everything turns out for the best ur a great friend Peter no one would wanna lose that. *hugz*
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well peter after reading this i am really sorry to hear that you have lost a good friend of yours i know wat thats like and its pretty tough stuff!
friends are the ones who are suppose to support u through most things you do..not all but hopefully most...friends should be there through thick and thin..and help out one another.. well in ur case it doesnt seem like she has been there for you.. there for is shes really ur friend? I know you might not want to think that..but is shes truely a good person to you... ? Peter from the time i'v known you (which is that long but still ) You are a very sweet and caring person.. and this girl should be lucky to have u as a friend! I dont really have that much advice to give..except follow wat you believe in thats all you can do.. and the rest goes from there... Sorry i wasnt much of help.. Jus remember im hear hehe *hugz* |
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Thanks for the compliments Ang. What you see is what you get...Friends/Family mean the world to me. We've kinda lossed touch a bit since IMF but it's due to me being a hermit. We must hang out SOON! :kimmie: |
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Make her sit down with ya man and sort shit out....dedicate time to talk about your friendship. If she isn't even willing to do that...well...there's not much you can do at that point except maybe adjusting your attitude towards the friendship between you too as well :-\
Best of luck, Peter. Although this is a real sticky situation :S |
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Sorry. This is the island hippie in me coming out. I hate ranking friends. It just bugs me. This gripe has zero substance. If you want to do something alone with her, plan something the two of you can do and kidnap her for it. If you're BEST friends it shouldn't be a problem. But seriously. Lose the BEST friend moniker. Life is a bit more glorious when you stop worrying about who your real friends are and just enjoy time with your friends. Quote:
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We shared some good times and felt love for each other and really learned a lot from each other. Last I heard he's going into Pre-med, which is awesome. But I still haven't talked to him in over a year. He's got his own stuff going on with different people, and I really don't find myself able to integrate into his world anymore... we've just drifted and become different people from who we were. This isn't a sad thing in the least to me. We're both doing things that interest us and enjoying life, so I don't see why this is at all problematic. Yes, we were BESTEST FRIENDS but now those times are over, we've moved on, grown and become better people for what we've done with each other. Just because you don't see the same people all the time doesn't mean your social life is going to shit. |