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Oct 09, 04
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Love and sex
I just met a really nice girl, she is awesome and I think I'm falling in love with her. About 1 week ago, I found out that she's a virgin, which explains her strange behaviour when were fooling around. She told me she wants to try having sex with me and I am kool with this, but I still have this feeling that she won't enjoy it and I'll be shot down. She is over sensitive when I touch her body and although I like kissing her a lot, I really wish she was a bit more kinky. I am also 7 years older than her, I have more sexual/life experience, I just don't know? Can she cope, can I?
Last edited by P.A.R.T.Y; Oct 09, 04 at 02:04 AM. 
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all it really is.. she's a shy girl wen it comes down to it.. b4 u have sex w/ her.. get her comfortable around u... like make her feel comfortable wen she gets naked...
if she gets naked in front of u and blushes and like looks away and tries hiding.. u kno for sure she's not secure... maybe she is.. but not in front of u.. make her feel secure bout doin stuff b4 actually doing anything... becuz u never kno.. wen she is all comfortable she'll wanna be a freak in the bed.. being a virgin has nothing to do w/ wut goes on in a girls head.. girls are horny too.. but guys are more... open about it.. jus get her secure and comfortable and u wont havta worry bout the whole shyness.. if ur falling in love w/ her, u can wait.
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Oct 09, 04
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^^^Thank you for your advice. I am trying my best to make her feel secure and comfortable. She is probably one the shyest girl I've ever met. I think she is unsure of herself or something, because when I ask her questions about sex, her favorite answer is " I don't know." Now I have this longing to be with her all the time. I want to get intimate and I am frustrated that she doesn't feel turned on by what I'm doing. I am no sex Casanova, but her reactions are very unusual. Ex. She brushes my hand away when I touch her breast. What should I do?
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Oct 10, 04
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I have taken a personal oath never to sleep with any more vigins. I can't be bothered with the melodrama of inexperienced girls. Coyness in general is retarded. My call is that if she's not comfortable with her body yet, she shouldn't be having sex anyway.
That said, it can be fun to teach this sort of thing, but you need to be patient and, perhaps more importantly, the student needs to have a great attitude. But my god it takes a long time before they start attacking you in a good way, and even longer for them to get, as you say, kinky.
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Oct 10, 04
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^ I agree with the teaching thing. You can mould them in your own style and then the sex will be great. (And since you're the Teacher, what better excuse to get her in a School Girl outfit right?! ;) )
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Oct 10, 04
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ok.. first off.. if she gives u a look like "i want u, but im to shy to do anything" then go ahead... but if she brushs ur hand away.. maybe its alittle sign that she doesnt wanna do anything becuz she feels she is not ready.
trust me i was the shyest girl ever.. i jus needed the rite guy to make me feel comfortable w/ myself and w/ him.. she needs to do the same.. give her time.. if u were falling in love w/ her.. u would be willing to wait on her.. if u cant wait and u think u need to fool around or have sex.. then ur not in love.. jus lusting over her.. think bout wut u really want first.. if u r willing to wait then go for it.. if ur not then well u have a problem on ur hands better find sum1 who will give it up to u.
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Oct 13, 04
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From a girl's perspective, make her feel comfortable. Make sure you cuddle her lots and give her lots of soft, loving kisses. Do sweet things for her, run her a bubble bath and let her have the bath by herself...but bring her some snacks in the bath or something like that. Then, she will be naked in front of you, but under the bubbles, so she will slowly become more and more comfortable with her seeing you naked.
Even a lot of very sexually open girls are shy around the guy the first few times they are intimate.
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Oct 14, 04
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well it would really help knowing how old this chick is if shes like 15 and under of course shes gona be all giggles and pushing you away if shes 17 and up LAY THE COCK TO HER!!!! once chicks hit a certain age you can mold them into real slutbags, i have never met a girl over 18 who didnt like fucking as much as the guy if not more. I dont know what the problem is shes wants to fuck you want to fuck so do it!!!
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Oct 15, 04
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one of my old friends used to be like this, she apparently wouldnt even want the light on when her and her boyfriend were making out, and her problem was major self esteem issues coming from her mom.
you can tell a girl she is beautiful, pretty, a sexy vixen but she wont believe you until she knows it herself. if the lady is a virgin, maybe shes shy because she doesnt know what to do. what if shes worried that shes doing something wrong\will dissappoint you? like ms.chop has been saying, you shouldnt be wanting to push her if you love her. lust can be a strong and misguiding force. maybe shes testing you to see if you really do love her and will wait her out... chicks can be crazy like that. my advice would boil down to this: be as soft and reassuring to her as you can. ask her when shes thinks your the sexiest, then tell her when you think shes the sexiest\prettiest\whatever-est. a ladies virginity shouldnt be an easy thing to crack, your going to have to work at it. and keep in mind that she could be unsure about her skills and not wanting to let you down.
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