[doubtful...but still asking]

[Jess_C]

:040: Seriously...has ANYONE been through this? Know of any advice!? I have lost someone to Cancer before...but it's different when it's your own mom going through it! We've became so close, almost like best friends, and now she's super sick. I'm petrified of losing my mom. I'm just curious if anyone has ever been through this, has any advice, words of wisdom?anything? :014:

[cubed]

I went through two of my closest family members contracting breast cancer in the same year, first it was my grandmother, then it was my stepmother. It's difficult to see the ones you love going through such hard times, the best thing you can do is keep high spirits and help them laugh. Both of them have made full recoveries, the key is to get it diagnosed early. All that I can say is best of luck to your mom and you, kimo therapy can really take a lot out of someone, so just be there and offer your support, that's the best thing you can do.

cubed

[Jess_C]

Originally posted by cubed
I went through two of my closest family members contracting breast cancer in the same year, first it was my grandmother, then it was my stepmother. It's difficult to see the ones you love going through such hard times, the best thing you can do is keep high spirits and help them laugh. Both of them have made full recoveries, the key is to get it diagnosed early. All that I can say is best of luck to your mom and you, kimo therapy can really take a lot out of someone, so just be there and offer your support, that's the best thing you can do.

cubed

Thank you very much! Though my mom has a different kind of cancer...she had surgery today. The doctor's HOPE that she has caught it early enough...if not then they will try kemo! I lost my godmother to Cancer as well. I've seen what kemo does and protein injections do to a person...and I hate to see that happen to my own mother! All I ask is do you think she'll be able to celebrate christmas at home!? Will the doctors let her go home do you think? Cuz I know she really wants to be at home with family for Christmas! :(

[cubed]

It all depends on the extent of the surgery, when my grandmother had her surgery and her breast removed she was back home in about 4-5 days, I'd say that your mother will most likely be home for the holidays; but then like I said before I don't know your exact situation but I hope for the best for you and your family.

cubed

[Jess_C]

I really hope she can spend the holidays at home that would really cheer her up!

[phatisphat]

I've had 2 people in family that had cancer one lived and one died. I lost my great aunt to lung cancer, she gotta it from second hand smoke. Her ex-husband practically killed her. I was really happy that I got to see her before she back to San Fran. DAMN YOU SMOKERS!!!!!!!! :211: Month later she past away :014: . I cried for a bit then mom dad told me she was in a better place cause she wasn't in pain anymore, but even right now I still miss her a lot. Second person was my grandmother, she had a tumor in near her brain(I was to young at time so I didn't, parents did not want to freak me out)She went through surgery to get rid of the tumor, she made it out ok, but was pretty sick through out the year. Now she has been taking pills since the surgery...I dunno if this is a direct cause of this but recently she just lost vision in one of her eyes or it could be old age...I all I gotta say is just spend lots of time with her, be at her side...then your mom will get through this..

PhatisPhat :035:

[high-dee]

Yes, my mom had cancer, but she made it through.

The best thing is what Cubed said. Just be there for her, make her laugh. Your presence is a lot of strength to her, trust me.

Just be openly supportive, and don't let it stop you from living your life, either. Do what you can, but sometimes there are things she is going through that you won't understand.

Good Luck, I'm sure everything will be great.

[sebcoe]

firstly, really sorry to hear about your mom. :( my dad had throat cancer last year, and he had to do radiation, right now it seemed to have cleared it up and it's in remission... now they just test him every 6months or so.

anyways... i totally know what you're going through, i remember "the call" from the doctor and my dad just saying, tell me if it's good or bad news, and i watched his face as he heard and his jaw dropped. i didn't know what to do, i went in my room and waited for him to come talk to me. i tried to be strong in front of him but it was really hard, but i did it, i kept giving him confidence boost and let him know he was going to be ok. it really makes you realize how much you love some one when you might lose them.

anyways, hope you're doing ok, if you ever need to talk, you can icq me. :)

..sebcoe..

[mojojojo]

Aunt had cancer... was one of the most saddest moments in my life when she passed. Im sure you do it anyways but spending alot of time with her would help, especially when she gets really sick. I sometimes think I took it for granted when my aunt went into remission, so I took it really hard when she did pass. I really hope your mom makes it. :) I'll pray for her. Hell if she can't make it home for christmas, spend it in the hospital with her. Nothing's better than some holiday cheer in the hospital.