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Dec 20, 04
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5 years..
i hate this holiday..
its been 5 yrs since i last talked to or seen my dad.. and i was always daddys little girl. but now, he's in toronto w/ his stupid goof bitch wife.. and the stupid goof bitch step daughter.. and my now.. i think 3 yr old half sis.. or 2 yr old? i miss him. and i hate her for being such a cunt.. like, the time she called MY house on christmas.. calling my mom names.. for NO reason, cuz she was trying 2 be brave.. wen she's lucky my mom didnt come down there and put her in a comma for 9 months.. and that stupid step sister.. who hogged all the attention the yr i did end up seeing my dad for christmas... i hadnt seen him for a year and a half after i moved to montreal (he lives in toronto).. and all she did was fuckin cry and scream if MY dad didnt fucking pay attention to her.. and the stupid goof bitch wife, wen my bro called there.. she told him my dad wasnt home.. WEN HE WAS!.. fucking CUNT! i hate her, i hate her goof daughter, i miss my daddy i wanna meet my half sister the holidays suck. this fucking blows. --- this was a sad rant.. didnt wanna put it in punching bag.. becuz punching bag is for anger... this is more sadness :( :( :( 
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Dec 20, 04
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When that one special day comes along and you ask yourself: ""Who am I with or want to be with right now?" Chances are you will have some family member, friend, pet that you can think of fondly around the holidays. No one is truly alone, be thankfull for who and what you have, and ya never know, coincidences happen evey day but a coincidence on Xmas is a miracle. I wish you a miracle for Xmas!
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Dec 20, 04
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That really sucks. The two kids are somewhat understandable because they're young? but the wife just sounds like a bitch. I never understood why the stepmom always seems to be a bitch?! Good luck with how it all turns out.
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Dec 20, 04
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Yeah, I can relate to that.
Christmas is supposed to be a time where you're all stoked on spending tons of time with the family..and trust me, I am. I lost my Father a few years ago, and it just has never stopped being weird without him there, or even without a phonecall from him..something. It's really been on my mind a lot lately, and it's really made me sad to think about, and it's unfortunate because the rest of my family is super close and we all get along fantastically. That is something I should feel so lucky for- and I do, but it's just with that one person missing it's so hard. Feeel you bigtime on that one for sure :(
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Dec 20, 04
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i wanna call him.. but i dunno wut to say..
and im guessing he would prob only talk bout my mom.. becuz thats how its usually been.. he went to portugal and talked shit to our village about my mom and apparently thats the only thing he could talk bout.. i have contact w/ my cousin pamela.. whose his neice.. like, i miss him.. and lately its been going thru my mind like crazy.. becuz 5 is my number and this is the 5th year right.. i have a man in my life and all.. but, even w/ him.. it wont get my mind off things.. last year i blazed alot so it got my mind off of things.. and the years b4.. i jus kept it in, and didnt think much of it.. if my dad comes out to BC.. it would prob not be a good idea.. as he might try to get in contact w/ my mom.. and thats definatly sumthing that cant happen.. becuz of the previous past.. i wanna go out to Toronto.. but like, i dun wanna be around that stupid cunt.. and the little girl? i dun like her.. she was old enough to see that me and my bro were trying to spend time.. o ya.. did i mention the goof bitch wife.. didnt even take the kid to make it stop crying.. instead my dad hadta do it.. and only paid attention to her. gayness. anyways.. im conflicted on things to do. p.s he's tried before.. like awhile ago.. wen shit was happening in court between my mom and him.. but i really kno why he tried getting in contact w/ me and my bro.. wen it comes to things like that.. and he tries contacting us.. we already kno the reason why.. and wut his motives are.. so we dont bother. Last edited by Ms.Chop; Dec 20, 04 at 07:43 PM.
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Dec 20, 04
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Dec 21, 04
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I totally relate to this.
:( I went for 8 years without seeing my dad and he was such an asshole and only cared about himself (he still is like this). Now hes got a stupid skanky gf that moved out here from Austria with her son. He met her while we were out there visiting family, but it sucks cus my dad also acts like he doesnt care. Maybe just try to call him and see what he says. If its been so long then maybe hes changed a bit and feels remorse for what he did, my dad feels bad about our past and we;re trying to move on but its really hard.. i feel ya hun.
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Dec 21, 04
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i dun like him becuz of that.. but i still love him.. if i did call him up.. i have no idea wut i would say to him.. honestly, and right now there is things going on between him and my mom.. like he didnt pay child support for like 7 or 8 months.. and he's pissed bout that i kno it.. and jus sum other stuff.. so if i did end up calling him.. he would talk bout it.. and then start talking bout my mom... or his stupid goof bitch wife would tell me he wasnt home.. and then id snap on her.. and she would have me up at her door fucking stabbing her in the fucking eyeball.. (good thing my mom's bestfriend knows where they live.. cuz she lives in the same area)
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Dec 21, 04
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not to be insensitive. but why would you still love him? maybe it's best to close that chapter in your life.
Edit: If not, this site could be helpful www.imissmydad.com :) Last edited by wum; Dec 21, 04 at 04:14 AM.
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Dec 21, 04
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becuz wen my mom would be chasing me around the house w/ a broom, belt or wooden spoon.. my dad would hide me and protect me
and he's my dad... no matter how much i try to stop thinking bout him.. i cant.. i was daddy's little girl.. in every sence of the word.. he'd spoil me.. and treated me the best.. there were those times.. that he did all that shit.. but i was young and so i forgave him.. and i still find it in my heart to do so. he's a stupid jackass for the shit he did to my mom and to my bro (break his jaw) and it sounds retarded me saying all this.. but he's my daddy and i love him.. unconditionally.. and i miss him. my cousin pamela, my daddy and myself (yes im the naked one)
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Dec 21, 04
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so now i don't have to imagine you all nekki anymore :) jk. we tend to remember the people who have made the biggest impact on our lives. Either good or bad. i guess all that shit he did notwithstanding, it's hard to separate him from your life.
hope it all works out.
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Dec 21, 04
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cuz i have more then jus good memories.. i have the bad memories facing me day to day.. the damage that was caused to my mom.. i see it day to day.. the fact i moved to Quebec.. and to BC.. caused by him.. alot of the things in my life has happened in significance to him.. so i really cant let it go... u kno. ahha ye dun u jus love my bum bum.. :p hahahaha jk
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Dec 21, 04
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Dec 21, 04
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I wouldn't call it insensitive, but I bet you probably don't come from a place where you can relate. You can't sever ties with someone who is HALF of you, you just can't.
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Dec 21, 04
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Wum - She still loves him because in the end, he is her DAD.
Miss Chop... can I make a suggestion? Write him a letter. In that letter, make sure you communicate all of things that you have been wanting to tell him but can't. Tell him how you miss the fact you are no longer daddy's girl and why exactly that is... tell him about your frustration over the fact that when he did ever come to visit, it's like he didn't visit at all because he was consistently interupted by his kids out East. Also communicate to him how you were frustrated with why he was trying to get in contact with you before. These are clearly the main issues on why you want to talk to him. I would also communicate to him what you are looking for from him and the type of support that you and your bro need. Be sure to be respectful (although I know it's hard because everyone out there seems to be a bunch of beatches!), of his current family situation and arrangement, but at the same time, he has to understand how you feel and why. I think writing this type of letter will also be good for you as it will bring to the surface everything you want to say, but can't verbally for multiple reasons. It make take you 4-5 times over to write the letter, but at the end of the day, it will get all these emotions off your chest and communicate everything that has to be. Just a thought...
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Dec 21, 04
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Aside from all issues that you have w/your dad, his wife and step-daughter, and your half sister, you should be thankful that your dad is alive and that you have the ability to talk to him, to see him, and to know what he's up to.
My dad passed away five years ago yesterday - and you'd damn well better believe that I would do ANYTHING to have him back. What's the moral of my story? You need to put all the family politics and bullshit behind you, be the bigger person, and CALL HIM! Think of all the love and memories that you are missing out on all because you don't like his wife and he fights with your mom. You need to make this about YOU and the relationship YOU WANT to have with YOUR dad. If he and your mom aren't mature enough to talk, that's not YOUR problem. Think of yourself =)
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Dec 21, 04
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that is true... i jus dont kno wut exactly to say to him.. and Kraig.. thank u for the advice.. i think thats wut i might do, wuts i clear my head.. and kno exaclty.. well not exactly but have an idea of wut i wanna say... and bongman.... yes u may :)
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Dec 21, 04
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I can relate in the way my parents havnt said a word or dared to see each other in the past 11 years! It was much harder when first dealing with this especialy when I was younger and had all the communication responsibility... but soon enough I think we all learned to block out the relationship my mom and dad have with each other and focus on the one-one I have with each parent. As I often said "leave (mom/dad) out of this, they have nothing do with this" or "I dont want to hear you talk about (mom/dad) like that"
There are still some hard times when their put together in the same room such as my graduation and boy do I ever dread having to deal with them both at my wedding day. But there adults so no trouble, just really akward I guess. Anyways im very starigt up with my feelings so my parents know how I feel. They will undestand and and see their doing somthing wrong, but you must understand its hard for many parents to admit their wrong to their children. I think Kraig has a great idea. Explain how the issues between your mom and dad shouldnt have anything to do wtih you. Maybe try to see just your dad with out the rest of his other familey? Thats a really crummy situation I wish you the best and hope things can work out for you! Last edited by Ree Fresh; Dec 21, 04 at 08:11 PM.
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