When Friends don't seem like Friends anymore....

[_RoseBud_]

K .....
I may be an idiot ... I might have done something wrong... but isn't it fair for someone to let their friend know if they were bugging them ... or annoying them... or whatever...
Well my best friend of like 4 years ... That I moved out into a big city with...
(mind you i know nanaimo is not that big...)
(but compared to where i used to live it is)
Is now moving out on me...
We had a spat earlier in the month ... We exchanged a few nasty words....
She said she was moving out cuz she hated the house ......
I apologized....She didn't ......
Then we established that when my boyfriend got his 2nd check she'd move out and he'd move in.....
Now just 2 ...JUST 2 days ago she started moving her shit out !!!!
She never said a word about moving into this guys house that we smoke weed with at all the whole month !
I honestly assumed that whatever we said during the spat wasn't taken seriously cuz were best friends.... on top of it all I was quitting smoking ....!
So now my boyfriend has to move in "today!"
and we are not at all prepared for this at all ....
Ontop of it all my best friend has no spoken to me about the stuff we normally do ... like guys... relationships... just gossip in general... which really makes me sad.... cuz we talk all the time !
Any suggestions on what to do .... ????
Cuz right now all i'm thinking is that she's a spoiled brat...And If I want to live with her I have to make her "happy" which isn't right ... I feel like blowing up and asking her wtf? why? how could you? what did i do ? type thing .....
grrrrrr... makes me mad.... and sad.... which is a weird mix....
anyways yeah...enuff of my ranting..... any suggestions?????

[dabbler]

let it go for now. the only way to let things work themselves out is to let her move out, and then get a hold of her and talk to her maybe a month after she's been gone. living with best friends is impossibly hard, then again, so is living with boyfriends/girlfriends. have faith that whatever made you guys friends in the first place is still there, and just wait it out. it may take a few months.

[wum]

surprise hug from behind

[*PooKie*]

well... if your guys are best friends, you should be able to talk about anything.. even when she is annoying you and such.... me and my best friend fight all the time... but afterwards we always understand where both of us are coming from... its hard but a good friendship means understanding eachother. even if you totally disagree, you gotta understand why your best friend feels that way..... and if you guys are friends you should be able to talk about almost anything, i may not know the full story but thats prolly the best advice i can give... odviously you dont want your friend to move out, but you shouldn't threathen with your bf cuz that will just get her even more upset, and she will take you seriously, but you did make the first step, apologizing, but if she doesnt understand where your coming from, and that your trying to quit smoking, then odviously shes got sum issues she needs to get over.... but i do agree she does kinda sound like a spoiled brat hahaha

[miss.myra]

When we learn who our real friends are, it hurts. In the end try to keep positive, because these kinds of situations let you know who really has your back (and it's usually those you wouldn't suspect)

[mojo]

ya, this ties into what Myra said.

its better to get this sorted out now, before you invest more in the friendship and have it go to even more shit.

[Custard]

seems like your just seeing too much of each other. and those little things start to annoy. take time apart, then call her up ina few weeks, and blaze a j. unless she calls you first to smoke you up.

[*K*i*t*t*e*n*]

yeah, sometimes you can be best friends but you realise you cant live together. it just doesnt work. tiem will make it better, maybe you just beed a little time appart

[wikid]

time is probably the best thing she needs - like I said - juss give her some time to herself and let her deal with whatever is going on in her brain.
then we can work on makin this better again

[LeeBrat]

give her some space to let her cool off, time heals all wounds.
sometimes even best friends can't always be with each other, everyone needs their space once in a while.
if she really is your best friend and does care about your freindship she will get oevr whatever it is thats bugging her and you guys will work things out. but in the mean time , i hope everything goes well for you :) *hugz*

[zeal_oner]

^^^why are you not on msn???

[LeeBrat]

^^it's not werking right now :( *tear*

[ty_guy]

time does help out tho i wouldn't wait so long. a good friendship should be mended with care and straightend out relatively soon. i'm with wum on this and go for the "surprise hug from behind". all this talk about best friends is reminding me of one of my best friends that lives in Victoria, i think i'll call him tomorrow to see what's up. best wishes from me

[Jeaninah]

you talk about working to make her happy. In a relationship (whethor it be friends, or a love relationship) you shouldn't be the only one working to make things right. It has to be 50/50. When there is nothing coming from the other person how can you possibly make things work? So it looks to me like your roomate is being selfish. Try talking to her and if she continues to be a brat then hopefully let time and some space heal your problems. If that doesnt work you know she wasn't your friend.

[Liqwid]

no one is ever friends with the same friends they had in high school....

get new raver friends!!!!!!!!

~dalyn

[baby-phat]

aw Rose honey-bunny. *snugglez*
I feel this sudden urge to start singing cheesy happy songs for ya. hehehe Yes, we both already know I am an odd one now don't we? :171:
But honestly, I was living with my best friend for a while and when she moved out with could barely stand each other! After a month or so we started talking again and now our friendship is doin great. So as cliche as it may sound time does heal all wounds. :kissy: