Letting Go!!!

[Sweet Heart]

So I was with this guy for 8 years and its finally over i feel it in my heart and i think he feels the same. It is one of the hardest things ive ever had to go through in my 24 yrs of living. But how do i let go of someone who has been apart of my life for this long. I have come to the realization that its really time to move on but how do i do this its so f--king hard, some one help me!!! I need to get him off my mind for good!!

[Starberry]

It makes me so sad to read posts like this one...although I'm sure that it's for the better (otherwise you wouldn't have ended it...right?)

I don't think that there's anything that anyone could really say to make it easier for you though. 8 years is a really long time, and you'll not only have to adjust to not having him in your life, you're going to have to readjust your whole life!
I think the most important thing for you right now will be your friends and family. Have fun, catch up on things you've missed...

And MOST importantly, do things for yourself.

-Jen

[Sweet Heart]

Originally Posted by Starberry

It makes me so sad to read posts like this one...although I'm sure that it's for the better (otherwise you wouldn't have ended it...right?)

I don't think that there's anything that anyone could really say to make it easier for you though. 8 years is a really long time, and you'll not only have to adjust to not having him in your life, you're going to have to readjust your whole life!
I think the most important thing for you right now will be your friends and family. Have fun, catch up on things you've missed...

And MOST importantly, do things for yourself.

-Jen

^^ thanks Starberry, Your totally right I think I just need to keep my self as busy as possible, thank god i have alot of friend that aren't related to him!!

[miss.myra]

Only time will do that!

[hardstylin]

cheat on him.

totally kidding :) i have no idea you ve got 7 years on my longest venture, i quess after that long you could probly just straight up talk to him about it.

[Sweet Heart]

Originally Posted by hardstylin

cheat on him.

totally kidding :) i have no idea you ve got 7 years on my longest venture, i quess after that long you could probly just straight up talk to him about it.

OH how i felt like cheating but i never did. I think mabey the best thing to do is to not talk to him at all its way to hard. My advice to anyone don't say in a relationship for that long if you know in your heart its not going to work because pro-longing it makes it harder, I feel like ive wasted half my life with this guy oh well i guess its time to move on!!!

[miss.myra]

Yeah just kind of hanging out in something you're not totally happy in because you've been together a long time is never a good idea. I definitely regretted taking that route.

It's easy to become so comfortable in something that is familiar and has withstood some kind of test of time in many many things (jobs, relationships, living arrangements) and change can be really really scary to think about, but once the change has actually happened you'll be glad it did.

The only thing that's gonna help you through this is space and time. And guaranteed for the first while it's going to suck and be pretty hard, but you're human, it's supposed to be that way. It's never easy!

[Sweet Heart]

^^ Thanks!! everone says time will heal but 8 f--king yrs. so what its going to take 4 yrs to recover f--k that I can't wait that long to do it!!

[miss.myra]

^ then don't. you'll know when you're ready to move on.

[mojo]

christ! and i was gripping over 8 months!

wow....anyways man, or women, whatever, give it time, yadayadayada.
gin helps.

[Bitchin]

Atleast now you get to find out what it's like to be your own person.

Time will heal the pain.

[xxViceRoyxx]

Originally Posted by Sweet Heart

^^ Thanks!! everone says time will heal but 8 f--king yrs. so what its going to take 4 yrs to recover f--k that I can't wait that long to do it!!

Im going through something similar right now, its only been 2 years with my ex-gf tho, well for me i take a glimpse on what i left behind, learn from it and try to make myself a better tomorrow, time will heal but i will tell you this, the best thing to do is NOT to keep to yourself, trust me it will bite right back! Find a good friend of yours and empty it all out, everything thats on your mind, let it all out!
If you find that you are depressed just call up one of your friends and go do something - i went for some wings and beer with my friends, that really helped for me, i am still friends with her, i didnt totally cut the lines between me and her (my ex) but i dunno how that would go for a relationship of 8 years, well good luck and hope everything works out for the better for you.

[samosa]

ride the sea bus

the sea bus is awesome