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May 17, 05
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Family Drug Issues...
So, i have a younger cousin in my family (15 to be exact) that recently started experimenting with drugs. I know that she has to make her own mistakes but she watched me go through a hard time with hard drugs and now she seems to be going down the exact same path...doing extacy regularly as if its nothing. Actually, i can quote her on saying "I don't know, i just get so caught up by everyone around me that it doesnt seem like it matters". I need some serious advice on what i can say or do to get her out of this mess. I know that she has to learn this on her own but as a loving family member that has gone through my own fair share of drug problems i cant help but feel somewhat responsible. Ive even thought about telling her mother. any advice would be great, thanks
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May 17, 05
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aww, im really sorry to hear this hun :( *hugs*
i think one of the best tihngs you can do is perhaps shair your concern about this with her, and perhaps tell her about your negitive experiances with it, aside from that i think you gotta just be there for her, i hope everything works out well in this situation and that she dosnt get pulled in to deeply
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May 17, 05
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its hard because ive seen sooo many people go down that path and when ur goin down that path ur so blind to everything, nothing matters, shes just so young...fuck
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May 17, 05
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My sister is a recovering crack addict. No fucking lie. If they dont want to stop.. they wont. All the mean words, all the loving words, all the tears.. nothing helped.
Kids are retards when it comes to drug. Tell her straight up how it is. Let it play out. Shes old enough to know that whats she doing is fucked up and could potentially ruin her life. My sister was popping 5 caps of E, smoking crack, drinking.. All in one night. AND she was 2 months pregnant. It took some harsh words to get her to come to her senses and thank the fucking lord she gave birth to a beautiful, smart, NORMAL little boy. Its a really hard situation because of how helpless you must feel. Hopefully things get better. ;D
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Ya I agree with mikey on this one bring her down to east hastings and some of the real rough area's around town. I'm pretty sure if you do this it will make her think twice as to wtf she is doing to herself. She may think it may be all fun and games until she realizes that she is addicted to what ever she is doing. I know someone who is a recovering heroin addict and has been recovering for 4-6 years. They were so addicted to it that they literally had to have it in order to survive. And so far ever since they have been trying to come in clean the body would go into crazy convultions and shit... no control at all. They actually had to be admitted to a hospital because their body literally broke down because of no heroin within the blood. And like they said, after a while of being addicted to that stuff its like there is no "high" anymore but its something that your system needs. I also know someone who's brother tried PCP once and it totally fucked him up. He went to some party and some chick offered him it and that was it. The guy used to have a wife and kids and after that incident it changed everything. He literally has a mentality of a 12 year old now. You'd think that the reason he is like this is possibly caused by something that he was born with but its not.
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May 17, 05
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Thank you so much for replying to my thread everyone. I know that if you want to do it no one can stop you. I tried talking to her again and she starting throwing shit in my face how I was no better and all that jazz, I couldnt even believe she would bring that up, she watched me go through the roughest time because of fucking drugs. I hate being a hypocrite but what can I do...
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May 17, 05
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These type of people have to want to help themselves before anyone can really help them. If she doesn't want your input and refuses help, tell her mom. Nobody wants to be a snitch, but she needs to be put on lockdown to get her habits under control.
How the fuck do people get addicted to Ecstasy anyway? The depression afterwards just isn't worth it.
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May 18, 05
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scared straight is a good tactic... maybe even to the extent of trying to make her trips bad... when I was experimenting I had a run of shitty experiences that all lead to panic attacks and I never touched anything since... it wasn't a matter of quitting, it was a matter of never wanting that shit in my body ever again... if there was a way to make her really freak out on a drug, that might help (take what I say with a grain of salt though)
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May 18, 05
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thats part of the problem "FUCK i feel so depressed after doing those 10 hits of E over the last 2 days how can i get rid of it and feel awsome again" I know ill take more.
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May 18, 05
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You're hoping she doesn't make the same mistakes you did.
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May 18, 05
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IMO the best action would to hang out with her a lot. Do fun activities that don't involve substances, show her how to have fun without getting fucked up. Be a good sibling and don't judge her when she talks about drugs, just let her know your stance and tell her about how it screwed you up. This way she can relate, you don't push her further into abuse. If you give her lots of confidence maybe she will make better decisions. Also the guilt factor of her letting down a sibling who is so understanding and nice will also persuade her to get in line.
Gimmics, scare tactics, and other bullshit methods people use to affect people don't do shit. When you have cigarette and look at the pictures on the package, do you really care? Not really. These tactics don't work on a desensitized culture.
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level with her would be most helpful. Explain that drugs are a very fine line. It's easy to love them too much and then go hard on them and really fuck up your life, and it's also easy to do too much at once and freak out, have a bad trip and then you swear off drugs forever (happened to my mom). Neither is a good idea, IMO.
Teach 'em about moderation, I still say show them East Hastings, explain to them that it may look like it's beyond you, but that's the attitude that got those people there. Number one, I wouldn't say anything like "Don't do *blah*" in any way, shape or form. There it ceases to be helping and starts being preaching. And even if you're right, all you're going to succeed in doing is further alienate them from what you're trying to tell them.
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