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Jul 18, 05
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embarking on the long distance relationship...
My significant other leaves for Germany for a month, then we have a week together and then I leave for Thailand until Christmas.
I know Im just being a big sappy baby, but its hard to spend these last few weeks with him knowing he'll take half of me away with him when he leaves with his youth group. I agreed to a contract in Thailand teaching English when my home life seemed so terrible that all I wanted to do was escape. And now I cant see anything here worth escaping from. I know we both have to go - you cant put your life on hold for a relationship, but its so hard to leave someone that makes you feel as if your heart has been set on fire. We arent even considering breaking up, Im just hoping that absense makes the heart grow fonder instead of making it grow fungus. has anybody out there survived the long distance thingy? Last edited by junglequeen; Jul 18, 05 at 12:28 AM. 
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Jul 18, 05
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I've tried very very hard to do it in the past. It's really hard on you, and I'm not saying its impossible, but I really don't think much can make me want to do it again.
Distance can add such an amazing element into relationships, especially if it can come into play when you're used to seeing your signifigant other a lot. Suddenly you add things back into the relationship you were missing before, like the real longing you can get for someone making it just THAT much better when you see eachother again. Couples that spend a lot of time together or live together miss out on that a lot of the time. In a relationship, I can totally understand the need for space, I go insane without having enough space for myself, and if you're like me, then that can make distance really bearable. It can get hard if you've just had a really bad day and all you really need is just to spend time with that person, or if you really just want someone to sleep next to it gets REALLY hard thinking it's going to be weeks/months before you get that real human contact with them and that is a sucky realization to come to when the going gets tough. if it feels like it's love, then go ahead and try and good luck to you...but if it feels like it gets too hard, or it's just not fair for both of you, don't linger in it so long you both drive yourselves crazy.
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Jul 18, 05
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Youll servive ;)
And yes often absent can make the heart grow founder. You two will also be really busy having alot of fun while your away so it wont hurt so much. i agree that at a young age I wouldnt give up opertunities like that for a relationship... its not that long really. And sometimes its nice to get that break and to be all to yourself.
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Jul 18, 05
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but best of luck.. thats shits hard to do, but honestly i know that you can do anything you really wanna do.. thats just the type of person you are.
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eww chris
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Jul 18, 05
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haha ^ I KNOW, I just about gave him bad karma for turning sissy....
sorry to hear sheena, how've you been besides that? I haven't heard from you in a retarded amount of time...
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Jul 18, 05
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thanks for the advice
I used to be super independant, not needing anyone even when involved in a relationship but during this rough family time Ive put all my trust and free time into this one person. Hes my little patch of calm on the rough seas. Im just worried about my life falling apart while hes away and having no one about to help me sweep up the pieces. But I suppose thats what life is about...trials and tribulations.
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Jul 18, 05
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I tryed that when I went to Thailand and Ausralia. It worked for a bit but it cost way to fucking much to call her as much as she wanted me too and on top of that theres way to many beautiful people over there to have a girlfriend.
In terms of thailand you should stick around till after christmas for the tsunami anniversary on phi phi island. WOOT PARTY!
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Jul 18, 05
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I dont care much for beautiful people, thankfully
Id stay longer but I cant imagine a Christmas away from my Daddy
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Jul 18, 05
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your situation doesn't really sound that bad. you'll be away from each other what... 5-6 months tops? Only problem would be if you don't particularly trust each other and if that's the case then you probably shouldn't be dating anyway.
Only time I'd say an LD relationship is guarenteed to be doomed is if there's no set date where you'll be together again (i was in one of those). But you guys will see each other again in December so it's really not so bad. Just e-mail a lot and buy a phone card...
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Jul 18, 05
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Cuz if you mean your boyfriend, he's one lucky guy!! :D
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It's also kind of about sista's doin it for themselves. Remember, you always need to count on one person to sweep up the pieces, you!
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