Working things through....

[Cdn_Brdr]

I tell ya.... working through things in a relationship can be tough as hell. As a lot of you know I'm engaged and lately things haven't been going as top notch as they should be. Not 100% sure as to why but the fact remains that something wasn't right.

Recently the both of us had pretty much called it off.... kept it pretty quiet amongst friends as we didn't want them to know for some reason. As a matter of fact we still hung out with all of our friends and pretended as if nothing was wrong.

We finally sat down together on the weekend and hammered out what was going wrong with us. It was hard as hell to be told all the things your s.o. can't stand about you. It was even harder to say my peeves to her because at that point you get to see the hurt on her face. In the end though we resolved a lot of big issues.

I don't think the queston was whether or not we loved each other but more so whether or not we could live together and carry on the relationship. I know that I had pretty much written off the whole thing and to be honest I'm ashamed for letting go so easy. Karen is an amazing girl and it's lame that I wasn't willing to work hard enough keep us together. LUCKILY, Karen is smarter and, as far as I'm concerned, emotionally stronger than I am and she wasn't willing to give up without a fight.

All this being said, we worked through all of our issues and found out in the end that a lot of them were hardly issues at all. I guess there is something to be said for talking things out in a relationship.

I don't expect many to people to read this and or care about this but it feels good to just get it out of the system. Good things are worth fighting for and I'm damn glad that I managed to do it. :)

[hardstylin]

*plury hugz*

[Gusto]

hope it all works out for you, dude. karen seems like a nice girl.

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

Aww engaged. I hope that everything works out for you =D


ps - Can I be the flower girl? Its seriously my life long dream =/

[Miss T]

I'm glad you guys worked things out cuz you guys are awesome!!!

[Disco_Whore]

Congrats, it is 100x harder to work things through than it is to just give up! I know everyone says this, but it's SO TRUE that in a relationship communication is key in all aspects, especially when there are problems.

I've made some attempts but when the time actually came to talk about everything, a lot of major issues were ignored so i ended up calling it quits anyways.

[mapleleaf4ever]

Good to hear! :)

[Tea]

Realationships can be tricky and require hard work on both ends. I just think that the other person should make you happy more than they make you miserable. Some people are addicted to drama....personally i'd rather be addicted to joy.


Just follow your heart Shawn....you know what you are doing.

[veN]

Glad to hear you guys are able to smooth things out. *hugs*! :)

[Kraig]

Nice one.

Proof again that on-going communication at all levels is the basis of any relationship.

[M!SKA]

jesus christ, i almost had a heart attack when you said you were gonna call it off.
(})

[Cdn_Brdr]

All is well Michelle! We put way too much work into it to throw it all away.... I think we both just stressed out from having too much on the go. No time spent together, work, moving..... everything is going to be fine though!

Karen keeps me in check :)

[Silverwinged]

definately rad.
=)

[cheeseburger]

Good, cuz I like leaving messages on your phone.

I love you guys.

[Flip]

Originally Posted by Cdn_Brdr

In the end though we resolved a lot of big issues.

Oh, so I guess she told you about that time she cheated on you with me, while you were working late a few weeks ago? Don't worry, she was probably joking when she said I was twice the man with twice the cock that you'll ever have.

p.s. Isn't that little birth mark on her inner thigh just the cutest thing ever?

[Cdn_Brdr]

Originally Posted by Kenny Grant

Good, cuz I like leaving messages on your phone.

I love you guys.

I fully encourage said messages.

[DJ Ponz]

One of many negotiations that are required to make a relationship successful. Developing means of engagement before marrage will only facilitate a happier, longer-lasting union.

[frankie_V]

damn.. thats good shit to hear... im happy for you...

but yeah sumtimes werking shit out is fuckin a pain in the ass...but like u said when it all works out.. the juice was worth the squeeze...

[Kandyapple]

Originally Posted by Flip

Oh, so I guess she told you about that time she cheated on you with me, while you were working late a few weeks ago? Don't worry, she was probably joking when she said I was twice the man with twice the cock that you'll ever have.

p.s. Isn't that little birth mark on her inner thigh just the cutest thing ever?

Somebody's cruzin for a brusin!!!

jesus christ, i almost had a heart attack when you said you were gonna call it off.

ME TOO!!!!

You really just have to keep the lines of communication open. Hope everything goes more smoothly from now on.

[Flip]

Originally Posted by Kandyapple

Somebody's cruzin for a brusin!!!

Nah, she was rather gentle....unless of course you wanna get rough with me....