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Aug 29, 05
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lost in my life (after high school)
i recently dropped out of college because i did not find interest in making video games (as i am not a good drawer either)
so now im working at a minimum wage job because it's my first real job i am only 20 so i still have a chance to get out of this shit hole anyone know a place where they can help me find my interest and turn into professional career by directing me to the right college/class? 
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Aug 29, 05
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Only YOU can decide what you want to do in your life.
I dont agree with ppl going to school for the sake of going to school and taking classes that they THINK they may like. Personaly I took some time off and did a bunch of shitty win wage jobs untill it drove me enough to find something I really wanted to do. If I was your mom I would tell you to take a break, save up travel, get to know YOURSELF better, and build up that self esteam, untill you really know what YOU want to do with yourself becuase only you can make that choice. College councelors might be abel to help, but I find them extreamly limited. I find trying out a bunch of jobs kind of gives you an idea of waht your good at and what you enjoy. Than hoepfully youll find some passion and drive for somthing and you can stop whining and asking other ppl direct your life like a robot.
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Aug 29, 05
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It probably wouldnt even matter if there was such a place. You might take their advice in the short run, but later on your gonna do what you wanna do, no matter what anyone else says. Its your life.
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Aug 29, 05
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Aug 29, 05
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try taking one of them career tests. i wont tell you what you want to do, but it might narrow down some occupations that you might not have thought of.
i'm kinda in the same boat myself but i've decided to finish my BA since i'm in my 3rd year now. g'luck.
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Aug 29, 05
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definately take some time offf and do some personal searching. no one can really help you in this process. i took up some shitty jobs, some good jobs during my break from school and discovered what i needed & wanted to do for myself personally when it came to schooling. i still dont know what i want to be when i grow up - i dont think ill ever know im not that kind of person. i know jobs\occupations that i would want for 5 years, but i cant imagine doing anything that smae for more then that.
anyways just do some self discovery, work the shitty jobs, travel, spend time alone - stuff like that good luck.
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Aug 29, 05
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I feel for you man, i started taking the Software Engineer program with OLA. i ended up dropping out (complicated reasons) and now im doing an Electrician App. i still like the idea of writing games, its just not my main career goal right now...
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Aug 29, 05
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hahaha this is the best option. I agree with Wellbelove on the whole you only know what you want to do. No one can tell you where your gonna take your life. Most deffinatly take time to discover yourself. I went to school b/c my parents made me feel like that is what I was supposed to do. I dont regret it, however I am not even IN the same field of work anymore. But all those skills from that industry help partially with what i'm doing now. You have to find something you like doing. Plus there are lotsa of entry level jobs out there that do not require a degree and pay more the minimum wage. good luck :D
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Aug 29, 05
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Let me put it this way.
Unless you have a specific career objective in mind, don't do college. Not yet at least. Take some time off, work a shit minimum wage job for a bit. You're fucking 20? Christ, I'm 24 and I'm only 1.50 above the line. I had to pay my dues first though. I worked about 2 years on the line, and then I got into a union and at my best made $10 an hour. Then I dropped retail and went back to 8.50, but now I'm working in tech... I figure it's pretty much up from here... All I gotta say man. Suck it down and work the minimum rate. Nobody starts their careers making 50 grand a year. You've got plenty of time to figure out what you want to do.
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Aug 30, 05
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I used to feel the same way.
I had ALL these goals and dreams, and I would start on the path toward acheiving them, but I never knew which ones to fully go for. I started w/a crappy min. wage retail job, and moved my way up to management through hard work and dedication to the company. Then, I moved on to apparel wholesale to learn the back-end of the business. Now, I'm an assistant manager (& doing my BBA) and it's all because I had a goal, learned EVERYTHING I could, and worked my ass off to get to where I am. The moral of my story is sometimes you are just thinking too much and are too worried about the future. I just 'rode the wave' for a period of time, and it ended up taking me where I wanted to go. My advice is to get a job doing something you LOVE, and see where it takes you.
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Aug 30, 05
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dude... you got a loooooooooooonnnnnnggggggggggg time a head of you. Go experiment with jobs.. then you'll find out what ya wanna do. christ.. some people dont find out what they wanna do with thier life till thier 42.... but they've had about 5 careers. I'm 20... I've had many jobs.. still dont know what I wanna do.. and I'm ok with that. Smile kid.. you got tons of time ahead of you..... and if you dont like your job.. GO GET A NEW ONE!
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Aug 30, 05
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Aug 31, 05
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--------------- As much as it is tempting for me to chime in with others and reassure you that you have nothing to worry about because "You're still young, and you have plenty of time!" I won't, because I feel that it is a GOOD thing that you're concerned about what it is that you want to do with your life and it is to your benefit that you constantly think about these things, no matter what stress it causes you. While you can say that you're "still young", days, months and years from now you won't be able to keep using that excuse. As we grow older those days, months and years will only pass by faster and faster. I hear too many people say the exact words "You're still young, you have plenty of time" but those who settle for those words, settle for the excuse of being young and having PLENTY of time won't get very far, and before they know it they may find themselves 5 years from now stuck in the exact same job making the exact same wage in the exact same posiiton they were when they first began, except for the fact that they've grown older and find it harder to make changes to the life they've grown so accustomed to. Worry, worry your ass off now and it'll pay off in the future. Contrary to popular belief, time itself does not solve anything. It is what you do within that time that has the power to help you develop as a person and gain a better sense of self. So don't expect that any experience, whether job, school or travel will help you find yourself unless you are open to learning and open to exploring and open to letting those experiences guide you in figuring out where it is that you want to be. Experiencing various things may help you find yourself, but it does not guarantee it. I don't mean to suggest that you should be losing sleep over this. Instead, I mean to say that being concerned about your future and keeping it in mind is a positive thing, rather than putting off thinking about it simply because you feel you are young. In reality, we are not perceived by others to be so young as we feel we are, and five years forward is not as far away as it may seem. We're only getting older and the decisions we make now will have a significant impact on where we will be in the future, and you may just thank yourself later for thinking about these things now, rather than later. Last edited by yoko*; Aug 31, 05 at 10:48 PM.
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Aug 31, 05
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Name one career that's entry level is 50 grand a year... Quote:
WTF? I dropped out of school, was laid off and had a severe bout of depression that eventually led to me having to move back in with my parents, simply because the stress of having no direction had got to me. Quote:
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"Right now everybody's telling you not to stress. That's because you'll have plenty of time to do that... LIVING IN A VAN.... DOWN BY THE RIVER!!!!!" Promise me you never become a therapist.
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Sep 01, 05
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Name one career that's entry level is 50 grand a year...
Perhaps my vision is skewed since my sister was offered over that amount as her starting salary with Pfizer and unilever (sp?). For you to say noone is a mistake, unless if you know exactly what everyone makes. Actually that's gotta be the worst advice I've heard thus far. Well to each his own and what works for me isn't going to necessarily work for you or for him. But to bring in a different perspective other than what the majority thinks is what I tend to do. I don't see there being anything positives out of taking for granted that because one is YOUNG one should be freed from thinking about their future. I can think of quite a few people who have taken for granted their youth, only to realize half a decade later that they're still stuck in the same situation they were since they got out of highschool. I don't think it hurts to start considering your future at a young age, and I don't mean to say that your aspirations WON'T change over time. As i've already mentioned, I also don't mean to say that this person should lose sleep over it or develop a "severe bout of depression" like you did. What I'm trying to get across is that it doesn't HURT to think about your future and it can be a positive thing to start considering at a young age what it is you want to do with your future. "WTF? I dropped out of school, was laid off and had a severe bout of depression that eventually led to me having to move back in with my parents, simply because the stress of having no direction had got to me." I'm sorry to hear that, but for me, the stress of having no direction motivated me to keep my eyes open and to do something about it. I still am not positive as to where EXACTLY it is I want to go but I'm more than GLAD that I didn't drop out of university and that I continued on in my current job or else I wouldn't be more than half way towards my degree and in full time management. I'm the exact same age as he is, but I don't regret thinking about my future. But that's my personal experience. Point is he can use it now. Because he's young, he's still rather unexperienced with the world. Everything comes with time, experience, and nobody knows the answers right off the bat. NOBODY. Again, I am the same age as him but I don't feel that it's necessarily time itself that helped me get to where I am today. I feel that seeking out new experiences and solutions and keeping open minded helped me more than anything. Or, you know, he can be smart about his decisions. I still fail to see how stressing over it at this point really helps his situation. Thinking about your future is one other way that one can be smart about their decisions, but it's not the only way. My impression of you: "Right now everybody's telling you not to stress. That's because you'll have plenty of time to do that... LIVING IN A VAN.... DOWN BY THE RIVER!!!!!" Promise me you never become a therapist. My impression of you is that you need to online-calm-down, cause you often come across as online-spazzy. :) Be a little more open-minded to the fact that not one way of life works for everyone. On another note and out of curiosity are you today completely satisfied with where you are now? Last edited by yoko*; Sep 01, 05 at 01:01 AM.
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Sep 01, 05
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We were paying a controls engineer 80+ grand a year right out of school with his Phd :)
In the US it wouldn't be hard to make 50 grand out of school with a b.eng. Here on the other hand you'd probably make about 45 to 50 at the high end.
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Sep 01, 05
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Perhaps I should have reconsidered wording. Name one that does without completion of a degree (wow, watch me backpedal).
I understand about considering your future. But this is my problem with plans... you get so downtrodden you don't focus on just taking the decisions as they come. In the case of the original poster, it seems that he doesn't have direction in where he wants to be going. So you know what I say? Best to wade it out a year or so... give yourself some time just to relax, enjoy the fact that still at this age he doesn't need to be completely bogged down with responsibilities right off the bat... work his way up. Don't get so tied up in the future that you forget to just enjoy the present. I have a plan, but I just need to work for a bit before I need to make any huge decisions surrounding it. But I'm not going to worry about the future. Fuck, nobody can see the future... no sense in worrying about it. Howzabout just deal with it as it comes?
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Sep 02, 05
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Food for thought
sounds like BS but do what you love...doesn't matter if it's minimum wage...be the best at it...own it. Time will fly by while at work, and eventually the money will follow. NEVER take a job you hate - it will rot you.
there's always something out there which will allow the true-you to flourish. -Do what you love and pursue this (remember those jobs when you get so engrossed into what you do - you loose track of time?) -Go slow and smell the roses along the way -put 10% of everything you bring in in a savings account - forever - you will retire wealthy -learn from anyone willing to teach -have peace and love in you heart - eliminate hate from your vocabulary it's not how much money you earn - it's about enjoying life
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Sep 03, 05
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Hey
I'm having the same problem... well not knowing what to do with my life. Haven't wasted money on education yet. :P ANYWAYS A really great site to check out is this one: http://www.workfutures.bc.ca/ It's just for BC and it has lists of occupations to give you ideas. It basically has every occupation you can ever think of and some that you would never think of. It gives you descriptions, approx. sallerys (sp?), how and where to get your eduation, working conditions, and employment prospects. Seroiuisly you WILL NOT find a better site than this at all. Hope I helped you out a little hun!
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