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Sep 18, 05
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no recognition
for anything you do.
this is one of my bigger pet peeves. i dont mean "hey wheres my pat on the back and gold star?" i mean wheres the respect one should receive for doing uncountable services for people. i buy my own food, some of their food, i do their laundary, i clean their bathroom & living room, do the dusting, dishes, i pay rent (although not much but its still something) i do yard work. all this and i ask a favour to use the car tomorow to apply for a job i really would like. i dont want time constraints and would really like the comfort of arriving and leaving with a car. and i get "no, your brother (who i love, but doesnt pay rent, do any chores until he's asked and refuses to take the bus) wants to use it for work." (he can bus there) i then get told what i want to do doesnt really matter, and that i can use their car for about a total of a half an hour. awesome cause it gives me plenty of time to drop off a resume and talk\schmooze with the employer. i know i probably sound like a spoiled little brat, but for fucks sake, i would really like to either a.) not be told that what i do is less important than what others do or b.) be appreciated enough to maybe once in awhile "get my way" in this house. its mostly because i'm considered the "sane" one and wont yell or get mad when things are taken away from me\are not allowed... but im getting less and less laid back - im getting ready to stand up. all of their stress gets put on me - literally i get put in the middle of everyones situation and im not getting sick of it, im just tired and would either like a break or a "meghan you are doing a good job\you help us\you're a good daughter." its like no one thinks life is as hard for me as it is for them. i am experiencing what they are experiencing. everyone of course has their own little stresses in life as well, and i have them too. i just cant be their punching bag anymore. i cant keep nodding my head and not have some sort of recognition. is that selfish? this whole car situation normally would be something i just shrug off - but i've almost had it. i cant keep being the one that takes the shit because thats what they expect. my life and my scheduals are just as important as theirs. 
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Sep 18, 05
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just take their car and return when you're done all your crap..
they can wait an hour to go to the grocery store
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Sep 18, 05
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its more like my mom goes to work in the afternoon so she leaves at around 12:00. brother starts work at 7 am, isnt home till 3:00, i would like to apply at 11:00 as that is the employers slow time. brother can take the bus for once, as he gets rides to work any other time.
i'll end up busing there which really isnt that huge of a deal, just blows.
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Sep 19, 05
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why don't you just drive your brother to work, then take the car for your interview, and then drive your brother home?
this way, you get to go to the interview and your brother won't have to take the bus? having only 1 car in my family of 5, we have to deal with this shit all the time.
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Sep 19, 05
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^ brother didnt want that. he wanted the car\didnt want to be rushed. i did offer it, but got shot down. the mama and papa dont like pushin him\making him even remotely do what he doesnt want to do because he gets overtly emotional\angry about things. not crying, just angry, rude and completely disrespectful and they cant handle the fighting anymore which i totally understand, it just sucks when i get put on the back burner.
im usually the one to solve the problem by just taking the bus or offering rides, but going back and forth from place to place isnt really in my gas budget anymore - he works in poco and we live in port moody. doesnt seem that far away but it adds up. applied, just didnt schmooze, said everything i could in 10 minutes, and the employer was busy so it didnt seem (hopefully) like i was dropping the resume and running.
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Sep 19, 05
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I agree, just take it with the understanding that you'll be back in half an hour, then just return at your own leisure.. (caution: you can only do this a few select times to prove a point, do it too much and they'l start to expect it! :P)
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Sep 20, 05
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My family was the same, still is the same. It seems as though they don't appreciate what you do or give preferential treatment to the lazy, angry won't do a thing for you brother.
They tried to explain that it's because they think more of me and therefore expect more from me, but really it's just easier for them to tell me no, then try and get him to do something. I ended up moving out as soon as I could. He's still mooching off of them.
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Sep 20, 05
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but its not my car. i pay for gas, yes, but io dont pay insurance nor did i buy it. it is a privalege to use it, and i understand this. i just wish that sometimes when there is a legitament reason for me to use it, i'd be allowed to. plus i would never do this to my parents. as much as i get angry with them, i still love them and acknowledge how much they have provided for me\done for me, it just sucks that when i appreciate and respect them, they dont (or at least dont seem) to return the favour. LDUB got it right.
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Sep 20, 05
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mikey your way too nice for your own good. and i would feel bad if i ever did that unless it were a life or death or very important reason. plus i know you would do it anyways, you just that kind of person. and i'd like to add that i miss being around you. brief encounters are no way to have a friendship. double-a ron feels the same, im sure. more mikey time needed in this part of town. p.s. i got hired at the casino today. blackjack dealer. i go for training in october.
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Sep 20, 05
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Sep 20, 05
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^ waiting till after christmas so i'll have job security and fall back money.
last year couldnt pass up free rent if im attending post secondary. so after paying off all my debts from that, im getting my feet back on the ground then hitting the road. plus when i do move out i will still have to spend days at home taking care of my dad, and theres a whole internal struggle i have with leaving my parents when they need my help. they would never want to hold me back from getting out and become me, but i would never want to leave them when they need me.
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Sep 21, 05
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been there, done that. dad agrees, moms menapausal so its her excuse for everything. i've even asked what would make me more relavent to them\more mature to them\more important to them, and they - no, my mom - has pointed out all of my faults at one time or another. its a touchy situation that i dont enjoy bringing up anymore as it ends up with alot of dislike and bad feelings. theres some further depth to the story, but nothing fnk-able.
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Sep 21, 05
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same one.
i go to blackjack school in october. so i dont start till then. movie night? hot dog! right now i think i have the flu though, im not very happy and my tummy hurts all over..... iiiiiiiiiiiii. call the boy, set something up!
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Sep 28, 05
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^oh dear.
i got $50 worth of rent taken off this month for all the work ive been doing around the house\helping my dad out. so that made this months mishapes feel a little better. next month episode: meghan has new work hours - 6pm - 2am and can not take transit as it doesnt run that late and evan refuses to bus and gets in a rather large dither... dun dun dun.
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Sep 29, 05
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it sucks
and the worst part is that you dont want to ask for it because then they think you're doing the deeds just for appraisal which totally isnt the case, but some/any form of recognition is appreciated
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