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Sep 29, 05
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Feeling confused (About Everything)
Lately life has sucked, i mean i don't know why i just has sucked! Yes i am the talki walki kind of guy, I LOVE TO TALK DAMMMIT!! :) but i guess some people don't like that, and i hate it when someone who finds you annoying, talk shit behind your back, and you just kind of wonder, hey i just had a great conversation with this person a few days ago and hear i am being told by another friend that i was put down by that same person i have had a conversation with. That really gets me down, why not just tell somone off hey fuck off cause i dont like you and your annoying me instead of talk shit behind their backs. Alot of people look different and act different than they really are as person, i've been told that about myself, but deep inside i am (i think i am) a very sensetive person, i don't take advantage of peoples mistakes right-then and have a laugh on their behalf but continue to listen, mistakes happen, but if you wait for someone to make a mistake and laugh about it, how is that supposed to make the other person feel?! I don't want to mix the topic and jump from topic to topic, but i guess i've got alot on my mind and would like to talk about it with someone, and this just happens to be this board... if you read this far, thanks for listening to me!
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Sep 29, 05
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Laugh last!
And thats that!
If anyone trys to bring you down, you should laugh last... No matter what, you can only do one thing.... Change your own attitude. Attitude is everthing, you get what you put in. So laugh out loud. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
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Sep 29, 05
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Albert is a genious!
There are two things in this world without limits....
#1 The Universe. #2 Human Stupidity. Im not so sure about the first... ( Albert Einstein ) Dont worry about other peoples bull-shit, it is theirs, they can have it. Last edited by Genotype; Sep 29, 05 at 02:42 PM. Reason: grammar
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Sep 29, 05
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^^^^ I totally agree with this guy, and if that person can't even tell you to your face how they feel, they are so not worth even worrying about, oviously that person is an absolute chicken shit and will never ber able to face up to anything in life. if you really care that much confront the person but if not just laugh it off.
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Oct 02, 05
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here's what i think.... you say that you're a talking person and the people you supposedly had these great conversations with are having a laugh about you shortly after... i don't wanna assume too fast but maybe you're revealing yourself too much and doing most of the talking... with people who arn't really your friends. i dunno what you're talkin about with these people but you may want to review your conversation topics.
for me there are times where i really need to just vent and get my problems out in the open. but these kind of things are personal matter which we all have, and i'm sure every single person on this board has secrets and they're scared shitless if anyone found out. but i think it's safe to say that being the listener to someone venting about how fucked up they are can be rather entertaining. but yeah not that this may be your case but it's something i'm sure we all go through
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Oct 05, 05
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Thanks for the replys
I agree k-pryde, i does seem best to sometimes shut it up, but it's a fucked up world, if you talk to much your get scrutinized and same if you talk to little, so i guess it's all about the people your with... ebbomega, good point and nice quote! :) Thanks again all for the input i appriciate it...
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Oct 06, 05
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but i guess its part of life and i just have to find a way to deal with it.
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Oct 06, 05
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I know full well what he's talking about. It took me a loooooong time before I learned the art of Shutting The Fuck Up (still learning it!). I think it was a bit more of a lesson in learning that some times, just hesitate what you're wanting to say. Let the drama around you play out in its own way. If it's a conversation worth having, your time will come to talk.
I was at a house party on Saturday where there was this fellow playing the Super-Cool game. You know that one. Someone who can play off any socialite around him and start to gab into a story about it. He was really good at it and would always draw a crowd of smiling people around him. But the problem I saw was that anybody trying to talk with him had to edge their way into the conversation.They had to follow along his story and try and distract the discussion by some sort of segue. It feels like such an effort. You know that line from Fight Club? "When you're dying people really listen to you, instead of. . ." "Instead of waiting for their turn to talk?" As I say, he was really good at the Super-Cool game and was keeping the anecdotes pretty semi-personal ("Where you from?" "Duncan" "Duncan! You know Paldi? That's one of the first etc.etc.etc.etc.etc.etc...."). But there was no discourse or conversation. There was no bouncing of ideas, just a blatant "I wanna tell you my story, listen to me mofo" attitude. And everybody who was listening in was trying to engage him in conversation, but it was all still heavily centered around him lecturing those around him. (any of this make any actual sense?) Anyways. Learn how to shut up every once in a while and pay attention to your surroundings. Just watch how people talk, and you'll start to learn how to have really genuine conversations instead of trying to play Super-Cool with everybody around you.
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Oct 07, 05
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I agree with you guys, the art of shutting the fuck up hahaha that's great! but it's more than that, i guess it's stereotype or something like that.. i' mean after some time, people who i have spend ages with have finally been able to tell me that when they first met me that i looked mad and angry and seemed like a difficult person to be around, and then when they finally started getting in touch with me, having coffee and talks and more talks they finally opened up and found out that i wasen't such a bad ass dude or this mofo mabo jambo shit, just an ordinary guy who happens to be cursed with an angry look (i guess, i don't seem myself that way) so people pre-judge you based on looks, what you wear, how you respond, and some are such fuckers that they will on purpose say something to bother you so that you explode in their faces, like one guy says to me, "i think alot of fags listen to drum and bas" ahhhhhhh!!! WTF!!! so fuck, i guess some people have it easy, they are born people smart haha or whatever you wana call it being able to sense peoples modes and adjust their own to fit with the other persons...for me it's quit difficult, i've been to more than 30 schools from elementry to high school so moving frequently ment i was never able to form this relationship with people long enugh for them to rember you when you come back, which got even more difficult in high school since it was critique heaven everything you did and didnt do was somehow was a part of peoples conversations...hope im not talking nonesense!
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Oct 07, 05
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I think thats how i am too, i feel a lot of people are talking shit behind my back and i just feel like going and telling them off. I hate it when people have no lives of their own and have to talk about other people to make themselves feel good.
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Oct 07, 05
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ask yourself the question:
"what do i even care?" and live by the answer... which should be "i actually DON'T care" i once heard this quote, dunno who it's by, but it goes like this: "what other people think of you, is none of YOUR business" great quote, i love it so don't be confused all the time when someone says or does something... cause it shouldn't matter to you
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Oct 07, 05
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Don't get discouraged by people talking behind your back..it is something that happens in life so you better get used to it. One day, if you have already not done so, you will talk behind somebody else's back. Wether or not that person will face the day he/she finds out you said something behind their back is another story.
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Oct 08, 05
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I know, but it's hard sometimes, it's hard to make new friends and at times to keep the ones you have, and it seems like the world has become this label bullshit standard life thing, there are certain ways a designer will look with the cloths and perfumes and you have to or don't have to, if you would like to get yourself a full-time friendship membership with these people,you would have to go by their rules. I hope i'm making sense here, by the way FireWire, i love that qoute, made me feel better as soon as i read it :)
nabs & Antenna_Boy, thanks for the advice :) i appriciate it!
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Oct 08, 05
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Hesitation is key.
Learn to pause and stop yourself when talking. Think about what you're going to say before you say it. Even just, hold off saying it for 5 seconds to see if any good reason for you to not say it shows up. Good practices to get into.
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Oct 17, 05
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Not in retrograde until Nov. 14. And it doesn't cause things to be shitty so much as it "hides" things... wormholes become harder to close, yeah? Missing keys, losing personal stuff... that's what's usually common in the retrograde mercury.
And no, Mercury is not retrograde right now.
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Oct 17, 05
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edit: mercury is NOT in retrograde, nevormind.
hm but yeah. maybe instead of talking to these people (who are obviously just dicks if they're going to turn around and disrespect you like that) write your thoughts down and keep them for later for you to look at. do you feel any different? what's changed since then... did you do anything to make things better? i guess it's kind of an analytical way to deal with issues but it can help sometimes... either way just remember no matter what you're not alone, there's always someone out there who's feeling the same and more often than not you'd never know it! we're all used to hiding behind something, maybe not a really elaborate facade but most of us have our 'public faces' and then when we're alone (or at the wrong times when we're not!) who we are really comes out. chin up... good luck
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Oct 17, 05
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Mecury in retrograde is a phenomenon that happens every so often in which Mercury starts spinning backwards. One of the things that has to do with it being so close to the sun. Mercury is not currently in retrograde motion. I lost my bag with my pipe, grinder, a 20-bag, as well as my favourite CDs in the last mercury retrograde....
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