Fighting with your parents

[thechix0r]

My mother and I have been fighting like crazy the past little while. It's what motivated me to move out to SFU, not to mention that it was closer. Today after dance, my mom came and picked me up and asked me if I wanted to stay for dinner, but if I stayed for dinner, then it wouldn't be till like 10 that I would get home, so I said no and she started getting all pissed at me saying that I didn't respect her and that I was being ungrateful for the 18 years that she gave to raise me.

She also said not to bother calling her or asking her for anything, that she wasn't giving anything to me anymore and that she wasn't doing anything for me. Basically, I guess she just cut me off. I feel really upset about. I sat at the bus stop with tears streaming down my face. I hate confrontation in general, but shit with my mom affects me alot. I hate when we fight, and it felt like thiss time she wasn't kidding when she said it.

I thought that moving into SFU would help us and our relationship, you know give us some breathing space from each other, but it's just made it worse because she seems to be mad at me for moving away.

*Sigh* I am just feeling lousy. I suppose that really is all this is about. I guess if people have anything to say go for it, if not, this was more of a vent.

[ebbomega]

You know parents are the same no matter time nor place
They don't understand that us kids are going to make some mistakes
So to you, all the kids, all across the land
There's no need to argue, parents just don't understand
- Will Smith

[thechix0r]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

You know parents are the same no matter time nor place
They don't understand that us kids are going to make some mistakes
So to you, all the kids, all across the land
There's no need to argue, parents just don't understand
- Will Smith

That's so true...

[Drazkers]

Sounds like she overreacted, to be honest i would expect a parent to feel bad about how they acted.

[g!ggles]

Originally Posted by thechix0r

My mother and I have been fighting like crazy the past little while. It's what motivated me to move out to SFU, not to mention that it was closer. Today after dance, my mom came and picked me up and asked me if I wanted to stay for dinner, but if I stayed for dinner, then it wouldn't be till like 10 that I would get home, so I said no and she started getting all pissed at me saying that I didn't respect her and that I was being ungrateful for the 18 years that she gave to raise me.

She also said not to bother calling her or asking her for anything, that she wasn't giving anything to me anymore and that she wasn't doing anything for me. Basically, I guess she just cut me off. I feel really upset about. I sat at the bus stop with tears streaming down my face. I hate confrontation in general, but shit with my mom affects me alot. I hate when we fight, and it felt like thiss time she wasn't kidding when she said it.

I thought that moving into SFU would help us and our relationship, you know give us some breathing space from each other, but it's just made it worse because she seems to be mad at me for moving away.

*Sigh* I am just feeling lousy. I suppose that really is all this is about. I guess if people have anything to say go for it, if not, this was more of a vent.

are you the baby of the family? See im the youngest of my sisters and when I left home in my early teens it killed my mum b/c all we did was fight but I took the step to move out and she felt like she had lost her little baby forever.My mum and me don't get along either however I know that she loves me alot even when she says horrible things to me that make me feel like she doesn't love me or want my anymore. At times like these you need to call her up and tell her that you love her. Even after a huge fight and you think that she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. That way at least you are making the effort to letting her know that you love her and are grateful for her raising you well.

I go through that senario on a daily basis so reading it was like you describing my life in a nut shell... I know that it really sucks but chin up hun and remember that she loves you either way. Try to put yourself in her shoes.... it's hard but worth it in the end. <3