death

[jade]

i used to think there was something wrong with me because i don't usually cry when i find out someone has died. i thought i must be insensitive or something, but then i realized that it's not a bad thing (not crying). i have come to realize that if a person had a good life and was happy then there's no reason to feel bad about that, everyone passes on, and that death is as much a part of life as life itself.
yesterday i found out my great aunt died. she was such a good person, kind and helpful to everyone, my parents and i were remembering the nice things my aunt and uncle had done for us in the past. her home was always open for her family. she had a good life and even though i hadn't seen her in a few years i'm happy i got a chance to know her and i smile when i think of her.

[~lazee_grrl~]

i think people cry at first cuz maybe they think of their own loss of the person..i mean..now saying that's true..cuz there are the over emotional/very sensitive type people..or its just a natural reaction to sum..
but i figure..after u get over the shock..everytime u think back..there is a smile..ur happy u had the chance to know them and learn from them...sure u miss them..but sum memories seriously last forever..whenever i think back..i smile too..i also tear up...but they're happy tears..~
but yeah..sorry to hear about ur great aunt's death..glad ur doin good..~~

[c.tard]

Originally posted by jade
i have come to realize that if a person had a good life and was happy then there's no reason to feel bad about that, everyone passes on, and that death is as much a part of life as life itself.

i think that's very true. i mean with me, if i don't know the person.. i don't cry.. but if i do... with the only death's i've gone through.. once i cried, once i didn't.
i think if the person has a good life.. then it's great, it was just their time.. and if i cry it's usually just cause i know i'm gonna miss em like crazy know their gone...
but some ppl, it really all depends how they die..

like my grandpa.. when he died, i cried when i found out.. it was just shock.. and to see my dad cry... [awww..] but when i thought about it more.. i felt sorta happy.. cause he'd had a long life.. but the last year he'd spent in the hospital.. not even able to do like anything.. so now. he's gone to much a better place y'know?

i dunno.. i'm rambling again.. =P
but i wouldn't feel bad if someone didn't cry.. it's just different with everyone...

r.i.p 2 you aunt tho..

[SomeGuy]

My grandfather died and I was happy for him.. because he suffered his hole life.. a POW in Japan(torchered to hell) and then when he got out he was an alcoholic, then got alzheimers and was stuck in a hospital with all these tubes in him for the last year and a half of his life. He was probaly the closest person to me in my life next to my father, but I never cried for him because I know wherever he is he'll be better off than when he was on this earth. I believe that for all life and I learnt to accept death as the natural recourse of life a long, long time ago. Nothing wrong with crying, nothing wrong with not crying, but if you don't cry be prepared to face consequences.. family attacks you for being heartless, friends, ignorant people.