Wanting to be single

[dreckis]

ok anyone have some advice for me.

Iv been in relationships since i was 16. I am now 22 and currently in an almost 2 year relationship with a really good girl. We are planning to go to beijing to gethor in sept but lately the only thing in my head is wanting to be single.

Iv been checking out other girls wanting to see other people but never actually cheated or anything like that just interests.


What should i do. this girl is actually the best thing that ever happened to me but i feel like i owe it to her to be honest.

[wishbone]

Tell her
otherwise it's going to be a dividing crack that ends shit horribly.
Always live for yourself, and nobody else....until you have a child.
Put your happiness first, if you're not happy, you're going to hate it.

[heatherness]

agreed. do whatever makes you happiest.. or figure it out...

follow your heart.

[dreckis]

Originally Posted by wizzfish

Tell her
otherwise it's going to be a dividing crack that ends shit horribly.
Always live for yourself, and nobody else....until you have a child.
Put your happiness first, if you're not happy, you're going to hate it.

thats totally how it is. she is super happy but at the end of the day i always think about being with out her! its fucked up!

and i cannot change my feelings arggg this sucks.

[Gusto]

yeah, i was in one of those relationships for a few years too and that's exactly how i felt at the end. we broke up. that said, if you're not sure, don't mention it or she'll freak out, haha.

[dreckis]

Originally Posted by Gusto

yeah, i was in one of those relationships for a few years too and that's exactly how i felt at the end. we broke up. that said, if you're not sure, don't mention it or she'll freak out, haha.

quick question how did u feel after u broke up? life weight lifted from your shoulders?

i want to be single i havent been for years i want to have a proper room mate i even live with her!

thats are bad !

[~Sc@ndelu$~]

You're probably gonna break her heart. Especially if u guys live together and such... moving in is already a pretty big step in a relationship.

[dreckis]

Originally Posted by ~Sc@ndelu$~

You're probably gonna break her heart. Especially if u guys live together and such... moving in is already a pretty big step in a relationship.

i know. what should i do tell her before we go togethor? we are scheduled to leave sept2 to beijing for 18 days.

bah.

[~Sc@ndelu$~]

Originally Posted by dreckis

i know. what should i do tell her before we go togethor? we are scheduled to leave sept2 to beijing for 18 days.

bah.

I'd say not go with her and if anything tell her after if its too late to cancel ur tickets. If u tell her before u guys go, then ur trip is going to be SUPER awkward.
Make sure though that this is totally what u want to do also.

[Vitamin-X]

wow, it's hard to give advice on this without being on the inside track,
but....
I've always thought that "if there's a doubt - there is no doubt".

[Chewy]

Your only young once, Just think of how many people are on this planet, there is more than one person out there for you, it may seem like your with "the one" but there is always someone better. Meet people, date people, do things you can do only while your single. i was in a 2 year relationship myself and eventually i broke it off and i was happy that i did. It still hurt and i still miss her but in the end i was happy with my choice.

Best of luck with your decison, it may seem like a hard one to make but im sure it will be one of the more easy ones you make in your lifetime.

[ebbomega]

Don't worry about her happiness. You're not responsible for that. She is. Just like you're responsible for yours.

[dreckis]

thanks for the advice guys.

I think i will have a serious talk with her this weekend and hope for the best for her.

thanks for everyones help. ill keep everyone posted.

its going to be hard because i live with her. the thing is she has high expectations im 22 shes turning 27.

shes ready to settle down im not!

[Chewy]

yea, that explains alot,

[~Sc@ndelu$~]

Originally Posted by dreckis

thanks for the advice guys.

I think i will have a serious talk with her this weekend and hope for the best for her.

thanks for everyones help. ill keep everyone posted.

its going to be hard because i live with her. the thing is she has high expectations im 22 shes turning 27.

shes ready to settle down im not!

Okay.. that totally explains it.
Obviously you're not quite ready for what a 27yr old wants lol and I bet it won't really come as quite a surprise to her for that reason.
Best of Luck!@

[stabmyhead]

I was in the exact same situation as you are in now. I've been in relationships since I was 16 and I'm 23 now. I think the longest I was single for was 2 months before getting into a long term relationship again. I recently got out of a long relationship (3.5 years). At first you obviously get those dreaded feelings of missing someone, lonliness and whatnot but they go away like they always do.

If you are doubting the relationship, and you aren't sure - there's something wrong. Don't stick with someone you aren't sure about, life is too short and you're too young to waste it on someone you aren't certain for. I've been single for 3 months now and I'm more sure of myself, confident and content with life. Take the time that you are single to re-evaluate a bit, be alone, date, explore, find out about yourself. Hell, if I were you, I'd go to Beijing alone and have an adventure.

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by stabmyhead

Hell, if I were you, I'd go to Beijing alone and have an adventure.

Best advice I've heard so far.

[Goat]

"You gave me herpes bitch!"

-Problem solved.

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by dreckis

quick question how did u feel after u broke up? life weight lifted from your shoulders?

i want to be single i havent been for years i want to have a proper room mate i even live with her!

thats are bad !

yeah i felt relieved, to be honest.

[wishbone]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

Best advice I've heard so far.

actually i agree, or grab a buddy and head off....i'm still trying to salvage my thailand trip for next may by finding someone else willing to do the 40 day trip with me after a similar situation.

[ppcock]

Originally Posted by stabmyhead

I was in the exact same situation as you are in now. I've been in relationships since I was 16 and I'm 23 now. I think the longest I was single for was 2 months before getting into a long term relationship again. I recently got out of a long relationship (3.5 years). At first you obviously get those dreaded feelings of missing someone, lonliness and whatnot but they go away like they always do.

I told you it would take time.. score on for trance dj's!

[Pussy*Kat]

I didnt feel relieved. I felt worse then before


and now i want it to work and he just wants to be single. it fucking sucks

[Gusto]

^ yeah there are definitely two sides, heh.

[Discord]

If your with her and thinking about others: something lacking.
don't force yourself into monogamy its not fair to her or you

[Pussy*Kat]

Originally Posted by Gusto

^ yeah there are definitely two sides, heh.

i was the one who ended it thinking i wanted to be with other ppl

then i was with other ppl

and noone could measure up. you always compare your new partner to the best partner youve ever had

and it took a while to realize that maybe i should have stuck it out. no run from the problem as soon as it started to get rough.


no it sucks :( cuz he wants space and im ready to have a bf