People who Guilt Trip you.

miSsy_chriSsy · #1 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

People who guilt trip you when you don't pick up the phone or manage to come out somewhere. Then when you DO finally have time to call them back, or you DO come out, all you hear about is a goddamn guilt trip about why you never call or come out!

Then again, having a 2.5 month old baby that takes up your entire life, obviously doesn't get the point accross.

#2 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

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Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

People who guilt trip you when you don't pick up the phone or manage to come out somewhere. Then when you DO finally have time to call them back, or you DO come out, all you hear about is a goddamn guilt trip about why you never call or come out!

Then again, having a 2.5 month old baby that takes up your entire life, obviously doesn't get the point accross.

I want to make the big fun jokes.

but I won't.

ps - I HAVE THAT FUCKING PRESENT FOR YOU....STILL! :p

MissMarz · #3 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

awww hun
hug<3
people should know better.

#4 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

that picture in your profile of brooklyn, she looks so much like you there.

cubed · #5 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

^totally have the same nose!

miSsy_chriSsy · #6 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

dude it's freaky.

frickin' clone i tell you.

g!ggles · #7 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

I have a few friends who do this too. I actually don't think that it is intentional more just that maybe they missed you coming out that night or something of the sort. But there is most definetly a line that you draw as to how far you go before it turns to guilt.

However being on the same side of things as you, I totally know how you feel. Friends shouldn't do that to one another. Even if it is just to get you back and make you feel even crappier then may have already felt for not coming out. Sometimes these friends aren't worth keeping around.

ps - Baby is sooo cute :)

Cdn_Brdr · #8 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

You deserved it you know.... I mean for fuck sake... I fucking call and call and call and all I get is ignored! I mean if you don't want to be friends anymore that is fine and dandy with me OK?

I won't call you anymore to go shopping for makeup or for the special dainties we like to pick out together.... I'll find someone new.

Don't you dare even call me to borrow a cup of sugar.... I HATE YOU.... I hate you for ignoring me and choosing your child over me.... how dare you!?!?!

miss.myra · #9 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

haha it's just funny they'd give you a guilt trip, are you supposed to apologize you had a beautiful baby girl and it totally changed your life?

c'maaaaan.

#10 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

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haha it's just funny they'd give you a guilt trip, are you supposed to apologize you had a beautiful baby girl and it totally changed your life?

c'maaaaan.

there are people that don't see past themselves.

miSsy_chriSsy · #11 (**permalink**) Oct 10, 06

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haha it's just funny they'd give you a guilt trip, are you supposed to apologize you had a beautiful baby girl and it totally changed your life?

c'maaaaan.

^ that's exactly what i'm not understanding???

what causes someone to actually make me feel guilty for being a mom?? Sorry I can't come out and get shitfaced everytime there's a rave or clubnight anymore, lol. Even when I could go out, sheesh, it got boring after a while.

Plus, it's not going to be like this forever!!! The first 6 months are the most difficult. We're still getting adjusted to her and getting her into a routine. In a few months we'll be more social, but for now, it's hard to even leave the house for an hour, let alone leave her with a sitter for more than 4 hours.

Edit: god i'm whiny. Sorry. lol.

brokencrayon · #12 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

Well you know you shouldn't feel guilty so don't. For Everytime they bitch and complain about you not coming out and start sucking you into feeling bad, just remind yourself of how you gained more quality time with your little one. Those memories are far more precious than the ones you missed with so and so... she won't be this tiny and cute forever, well okay she will obviously still be cute but what I'm saying is she will one day be more independant and not want/need you around as often, so devour this time taking care of her while you can.

A true friend will understand the importance of that and still be around for a drink or two once you can fit that into your schedule.

Cdn_Brdr · #13 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

Pfft.... whatever

Bitch didn't breast feed me when I asked so why the fuck does the baby get it?

LIFE IS SO UNFAIR!

PS - LOOOOOVE YOU!

miSsy_chriSsy · #14 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

LOL!
shawn she's on the formula now ;)
so don't feel too upset :P

~Sc@ndelu$~ · #15 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

Funny... same thing happened to me on Friday night. I made plans to go out to the comedy thing on granville island but couldnt make it because Blaze and i went to see my Nana. She's been really sick and everyone is worried about her... in and out of the hospital, blood tests and x-rays but my friend doesn't seem to want to beleive me. That and the fact we must have bad luck cus my bf's car died at the end of my Nana's street and is still sitting there... so whatever..

Christy friends that do that... aren't really friends I'd say.

Tea · #16 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

True friends = Someone who supports you in your life decissions, shows complete understanding (through both desired and undesired circumstances) and has unconditional love. Time apart doesn't change the connection, and everytime you see them you are happy and feel like you haven't missed a beat.

It is pretty selfish to be mad @ your friend because they are no longer around for such reasons. She's busy being a good mom. I wonder what these people would think if you were out partying every night, supporting every show you desire to go to and negelcting your daughter. They probably have plently other single friends who can "be a good friend" by showing up. Personally, if ii knew i was raising a child in this lifetime, i'd much rather miss out on a few shows (which will come back) then miss out on the cruical years of early childhood development.

baby-phat · #17 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

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True friends = Someone who supports you in your life decissions, shows complete understanding (through both desired and undesired circumstances) and has unconditional love. Time apart doesn't change the connection, and everytime you see them you are happy and feel like you haven't missed a beat.

This is so very and undeniabley true. :) Tea, you're such a smart gal. <3

miss.myra · #18 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

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This is so very and undeniabley true. :) Tea, you're such a smart gal. <3

yuh, and a good friend too!

:cake:

miSsy_chriSsy · #19 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

Margie - it's such a change - you *really really* learn who your friends are by the 30th week lol <3

Tea - very very well said <3

Tea · #20 (**permalink**) Oct 11, 06

You girls are sweet + made my night...it's been a looooong day.

Mizzy women : now i'm craving cupcakes, weiiiird.

~Sc@ndelu$~ · #21 (**permalink**) Oct 12, 06

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Margie - it's such a change - you *really really* learn who your friends are by the 30th week lol <3

Tea - very very well said <3

Yeah I've already lost a few... whatever.... just goes to show who your friends really are.

miSsy_chriSsy · #22 (**permalink**) Oct 12, 06

^ our kids will be best friends too ;) <3