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Nov 20, 02
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Obsessive ex boyfriends...
ok.
i went out with this guy over a year ago. i liked him A LOT!!!! possibly more then any other guy. although he never said he loved me or anything, i knew he did. he was 7 years older then me... thats fine. everything started off fine......and i knew he totally cared for me, and would protect me and everything...but here's the thing: he was: -very homophobic -very racist -drank waaaaay too much -smoked weed waaaaaay too much i dunno...things just started to fall apart. he would get mad when i couldnt sleep over because i had to be home..... and i dunno....we never really broke up...we just kinda stopped calling each other....well he stopped calling me (he didnt have a phone so i could never call him)..... i stopped visiting. he calls me every couple of months. last time i told him i had a b/f....he was upset about that. this time he calls me....he tells me that he saw me at metrotown a week or two ago driving in my car with some guy (my friend dave)....and he got all jealous...like really jealous and hasnt been able to stop thinking about me. i dunno, the whole conversation was weird. he said he wanted to do something with me on friday and i told him i couldnt cause i was going to a house party...he said he could come with me...i tell him no..he tells me to think about it....again i tell him no. he tells me to come out to his place tonite....i tell him no....again he asks and asks and i tell him no. i dont know what to do. i cared for him so much, but im afraid of falling into the same old thing again. grrrrrr. i dont know if this should be in the punching bag or the paths of life... but ya... i just needed to get that out. 
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Nov 20, 02
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the guy sounds like a fucking loser. He is ur ex for a reason and dont forget ur reason(s)
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Nov 20, 02
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Ah, shit.
I hate hearing stuff like this because I know what it feels like...it's like you hate him, you want him to be gone (which he was for a while), and then just when you get your life together properly, he comes back and fucks things up. I guess I can't really give you good advice because in my case, after telling him so many times that I didn't want anything to do with him and then he'd come back and I'd fall into the cycle again, he FINALLY moved away from Vancouver... I guess all I can say is that I understand your predicament and your mixed emotions. If things get scarier, please get a restraining order or at least get one of your guy friends to talk to him. Probably the best thing for you to do is let him know (this is the best thing for you, not necessarily what you want to do) that you don't want to talk to him ever again. I know that seems so impossible, because it's not entirely true (that you don't want to talk to him), but honestly, after I did it the last time...it just felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. No matter how much it hurt or how much I really cared for him. *Jen*
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Nov 20, 02
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hun i think you should stay far away, sounds like such a creep on so many levels, definitley not good for a great person like u
especially the whole part about him inviting himself to your arrangements for friday, then begging you to come over and not taking no for an answer? sounds like the potential to be the abusive stalkerish type... blech
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Nov 20, 02
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p.s. I am SO serious about this, from what you described about his personality, his opinions, and the entire situation, especially how you lost contact, being almost identical to mine. It is not a pleasant situation to be in...but it will be once you get out. The way I saw it, near the end, was that he would NEVER change...no matter how much I wanted him to and no matter how much I wanted a future with him. There was no future. Think to yourself... how will I benefit from this? From him? If he is jealous and obsessive now...what will happen in the future? It's not going to go away. You will probably always care for him...well, okay...you WILL always care for him, and wonder where he is and what he's doing...but sometimes the best thing to do is the hardest.
Err...this is just my opinion. Don't feel obligated to listen to me....=) *Jen*
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Nov 20, 02
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no its not ppcock
i know i should stay away from him. but i dunno...besides being a really good lay (muahahhaha i mean ummmm.......) he was sweet when it was me and him.... fuck i feel like i should give him another chance...but maybe not get into a relationship with him
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Nov 20, 02
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Bury him in your neighbour's yard, act as if nothing happened. Repeat if neccessary.
I know, that's my solution for everything.... I've had a few obsessive ex bfs. The thing is, don't return their calls, messages or whatever, if he calls you ignore it. Don't call him, it'll just lead him into thinking you still want to be with him. OR, you can do what he's doing to you, and call him all the time, message him all the time and request to take all his time from him, eventually it'll wear him out so bad he'll lose it. He might quit his job so he can spend every waking moment with you, and basically put his life away for you. Then crush him like a bug and laugh about it... sure he might kill you after that in your sleep but it's well worth a try.
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Nov 21, 02
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What is the problem with being honest? He doesn't even sound like someone who you have anything in common with anymore and quite frankly seem like a fucking pathetic loser.
There's no rule that you _have_ to be friends with your ex years later. Just because you shared something once, it doesn't mean you have to be friends based on that. People change.
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Nov 21, 02
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^^^^ i dont know...
usually i can be totally honest with people...and i dont shy up but with him...i shy up....i dont know why...i cant help it. we are almost starting to have stuff in common because he's changed himself a lot.... fuck i dont know. i think im gonna take leslie's suggestions. if u guys hear that im dead you'll knowwhat happened.
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Nov 21, 02
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Well thats wut you get for hookin up with scary glowstick boy.. HAHA..
j/k but yeah.. I hate boys that become obessive.. seriuosly.. they desever a kick in the junk.. and sometimes when your honets with them.. that makes them like you more.. *shivers* so it doesnt always work.. well it didnt work in my case.. GAH. butyeah.. seriously.. tell the guy wuts up or take leslies advice.. but if I have to put up with him.. he bettah get use to the back set.. HAHA.. sorry.. but yeah.. this guy is kinda wierd from wut you told me.. and if he dont lay off fromyou telling him.. I will.. cause sometimes that makes them realize.. you mean business!! if you decide to wear himout.. can I throw glowsticks at him? *giggles*
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Nov 21, 02
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oh no!...glow stick boy?! hrmmm... you better think long and hard about this before you make your decision. i can't think of anythign right now but i will come up with some advice
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Nov 21, 02
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posessive/obsessive x-boyfriends are super-duper? especially when they call and threaten a HOT boy that you made out w/ and scare them away?
ps, they're also super-duper when they throw your clothes in the bath tub and cover them w/ whipping cream because they do not want you going out w/ your friends to a party?
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