work drama..mind your own business

[Courtney]

so today i got in a fight with a guy at work who was very disrespectful, I got really upset and cried......my co-worker came in so I told her what happened. I was really pissed off but i would NEVER rat on someone ever its just not who i am..i just vented to my coworker and said what i needed to say and thought it would be over (i told her not to say anything)
so anyways she just called me...and she told this other woman we work with who then went and told a manager and they told her they are going to write him up because they are in a union so its policy or soemthing...
I AM SO PISSED OFf. The guy i got in an argument is now goign to think it wsa me who went to the manager (I WOULD NEVER DO THAT) and now its become a big ordeal. I wanted it to be dropped righ tafter it happened and now t his guy is going to get in trouble and that is not what i wanted...it should be up to me and i'm over it so how the hell can they get involved this is so not fair
i feel so bad and im really mad at my coworker for saying something to anyone

[b0ld]

umm they are most likely writing him up because they already have an existing bounty on his head.

Besides when it comes down to union type stuff... Ya they don't fuck around at all. Especially due to the fact that you essentially cried.... I leave my personal life and personal opinion outside of the workplace and all to avoid any types of conflicts. Work is a place of business... When it comes down to the point where something is so disrespectful and you get to the point of crying there is obviously a reason behind it and it does require attention by what ever management at your work..

I dont think the guy can get mad at you. Its union politics and when a hard core union rep hears stuff like that they wont back down. My current work place didnt have a union rep this year and sometimes its a good thing because a lot of ppl dont want EVERY single detail to be reported and fought for.

He should understand that word got out, but really he was an ass and is getting what he deserved.

[Kandyapple]

Don't they generally have to confirm the story with the party involved as well? I mean you could try to play it down a bit if they question you about it. I've never been in this situation though so I don't know if you can keep it from going on the record.

[Courtney]

i just feel bad because he was obviously just having a bad day and now hes gonna get in shit and its my fault

[b0ld]

Originally Posted by Courtney

i just feel bad because he was obviously just having a bad day and now hes gonna get in shit and its my fault

if he was having a bad day then he should of a. either not come into work b. notify management (hopfully they would be able to assign him something else lightly) c. notify people around him politely that today is "not the day"...

[Webber]

^
lol what a call into work that would be

"hey I'm having a bad day I wont being coming in"

[b0ld]

Originally Posted by Webber

^
lol what a call into work that would be

"hey I'm having a bad day I wont being coming in"

thats why you use "I am not feeling well".... its all in the wording...

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by Courtney

i just feel bad because he was obviously just having a bad day and now hes gonna get in shit and its my fault

No, it's not your fault. It's still him that said something that was disrespectful enough that it pissed you off.

[matéo]

so what did he say?

[galaxie]

A lot of companies have a policy that states if you know certain types of information you HAVE to report it to a manager. The company I work for has that type of a policy, and I think it's a good thing. He needs to learn how to deal with having a bad day, and what is acceptable vs. unacceptable in the workplace. No one should EVER be reduced to tears at work, I don't care WHAT the circumstance.

[lildonkey]

Originally Posted by b0ld

if he was having a bad day then he should of a. either not come into work b. notify management (hopfully they would be able to assign him something else lightly) c. notify people around him politely that today is "not the day"...

Whatever man.. stop acting like you have never snapped on someone just because you were having a bad day.

Get off it.

[tiedye]

Employers tend to want to deal with this stuff for their own reasons. It's not necessarily about you; more so it's about making sure it will not happen to others.

[b0ld]

Originally Posted by lildonkey

Whatever man.. stop acting like you have never snapped on someone just because you were having a bad day.

Get off it.

How can you even make a comment like this when you don't even know me???

[*SunShyne*]

^^^ Maybe he's basing it off your avatar?

Anyway, you should never be reduced to tears at work. I was once a few years ago... except I ratted the girl out to the manager because what she said was so mean and uncalled for it was either take it up with the manager, or key her car.... little did I know the manager and her were best friends... I handed in my letter of resignation and did not leave on good terms...

I guess that's what I get for working for the city?

[lildonkey]

Originally Posted by b0ld

How can you even make a comment like this when you don't even know me???

Because it's human.

You have never taken something a little too seriously and snapped on somebody in your entire life, just because you were having a bad day?

If so i congratulate you... and let me know if i can come visit your planet sme time

[miss.myra]

haha Donkey is right, I'm sure we've all had days where we took out our shit on somebody else, maybe not to the extreme that this guy did, but still.

Courtney, I used to feel the same way you did, I didn't want to rock the boat or get anybody in trouble even if something really affected me. Now I'm not as shy to say things because if it really wasn't right, then somebody ought to know about it. Getting written up in most work places is just a way to document certain incidences as they occur and won't necessarily mean trouble, however, if someone is written up on multiple occasions, especially regarding the same issue, then it will certainly lead to their termination which is their own problem. Workplaces these days need to have a way like this to document everything so that labour standards are respected and if this dude is normally a hard and respectful worker, then he probably doesn't have much to worry about.

If he's going to make a huge deal about this to you, that is still not your problem, and it's going to become more of an issue to him if anything. It is not okay under any circumstances to upset a coworker to the point of tears and even if you're over it, that kind of behavor needs to be documented and corrected.

[Courtney]

Originally Posted by matéo

so what did he say?

i just paged him to set up nets on the ice...
adn then 5 mins later he came up
"WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU SAYING on the godamn thing your talking jibberish how the fuck am i suppose to know what you want, be more clear etc."
(the guy in the lobby at the time said i sounded pretty clear)
so anyways hes swearing and yelling and i'm tearing up...i told him to go away and come back when he would talk to me like a normal person.......
and then 5 mins later over the radio he says something to the other maintenance guy and goes "now maybe the girl at the front desk will hear this see that i dont hear a godamn thing unless its said clearly"

so i took the radio and said "Im sorry you seem to be the only person whos ever commented on my clarity so maybe you have a hearing problem, you have no right to talk to me the way u did etc'

[matéo]

Fuck that! You have every right to snitch on a pile shit like that. I would never put up with that kind of crap from a co worker. There is no excuse for anyone to talk to you like that.

[Kandyapple]

That seems a little out of line to me.

I worked with someone last year that would flip out on me and then try to patch it up by being really nice afterwards. The problem was he just kept doing it and one day he lost it on me for something I didn't even do. (He said I broke one of his tools, but really he was just a dumb ass and couldn't use it properly.)
I walked off the job and reported it, but unfortunately in this situation the guy was contracted by my father to get a project done, and he didn't have time to hire someone else to lead the team.

It sucks because as a result of this guy’s behavior two other people walked off the job for at least 2 weeks and set the whole job back. People that act out like that need consequences.

It sounds like he lashed out pretty irrationally. Sure it happens when someone is having a bad day, but sometimes they still need a warning.

[b0ld]

Originally Posted by lildonkey

Because it's human.

You have never taken something a little too seriously and snapped on somebody in your entire life, just because you were having a bad day?

If so i congratulate you... and let me know if i can come visit your planet sme time

I've been pissed off about things and shit. But I've never gotten to the point where I take that situation and then try and take it out and snap on others.... Not my ball game at all...

[lildonkey]

Originally Posted by b0ld

I've been pissed off about things and shit. But I've never gotten to the point where I take that situation and then try and take it out and snap on others.... Not my ball game at all...

I'm sorry, but i have a VERY hard time believing you.

How can you say that you have never snapped on someone for something small, because you were having a bad day?

Comon man... not once in your life?

[galaxie]

^ I haven't. I can honestly say that.
I don't snap at my staff. I am a manager, it's my JOB to always be professional, to take everything in stride, and to CHECK IT AT THE DOOR. Your personal life should not come with you to work - it's a tough thing to learn, but once you do it makes your work life SO much better.