not knowing what the deal is with your friends

[Kandyapple]

ok so i have this one friend that i love spending time with. hes like my best friend. and we always seem to be having fun when we chill. but for some reason it always seems like a task to hang out. we do a lot but when i call it always feels like its such a strain on him or something. he doesnt call back a lot just waits for me to cuz he know i will. i hate it call me and for fuck sakes sound a little more inthusiastic when i call. when he picks me up he is totaly the opposite friendly and talkative. i just dont know what to think. i feel like a pest on the phone but when we are together we are best friends. blah i dont know.

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he wants you.

[Sammy Skillz]

i know exactly what you mean

i was kinda experiencing the same thing with this one guy

friendship shouldn't have to feel like a chore! it shouldn't need much effort...it should just...BE!!

hope everything works out!

-s.

[Kandyapple]

yah well its been like this on and off too. and as for the he wants you comment its not the first time i have heard that well even from him but that was a long time back. we are still friends it just seems to fluxuate. he is ither realy into chilling or seems totaly uninterested till we are chilling. blah it leaves me so confused.
thanks sammy, for sure cuz chores suck and friends shouldn't. wait yes they should too! lol ;)

[Short-ee]

Awww i know how you feel!! I have a friend just like that!! Dont worry he will come around. Maybe he doesnt mean to act the way he does on the phone.

[Kandyapple]

yah probably i dont realy think he is much of a phone person i just hate feeling like a neusance when somone is supposed to be my best friend. it makes it hard for me to call him. i feel like i always have to have an excuse or something. its realy lame. i dont call to talk long just to see what he is up to. he picks up the phone happy but gets progressively more uninterested it seems. its also tough cuz although he is my first pic of people to call i call him a lot more now because most of my friend have moved away. blah oh well.

[Short-ee]

Why dont you try and tell him in an indirect way?? Dont make it too obvious...

[Short-ee]

Either that or come straight out and tell him whats bothering you, if hes your best friend hell understand and things will get better!! :)

[Kandyapple]

yah i usualy just come straight out when i dont feel like i can stay in the dark any longer there is only so far i can let my mind give me reasons untill i cant take it and just have to bite the bullet and ask. other wise it will drive me nuts. blah just finished typing out a letter to him. not sure if i'm gona send it or not yet.

[c.tard]

maybe ask him about it. he might not just be a phone person. i know i'm not really. i tend to go through phases. sometimes i'm okay, and it doesn't matter. but sometimes i just hate being on the phone. it also depends who i'm on the phone with. like my bf.. sometimes on the phone it's soo good, and we totally get along. othertimes (for a week or so) he'll just annoy me to no end. it's just weird, but we're totally cool in person.

i've never been much of a phone person, i usually wait for someone to call me since i always feel like one big annoyance when i call someone.

either way, talk to the guy.. he might have an explanation for it all =) good luck!

[justa~gurl]

i'm actually kind of like that with my friends on the phone....i don't mean to be and i don't realize it sometimes.. but i am..

i just.. i don't even know why i do it, but i don't mean anything bad by it