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Jul 28, 03
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immature bitch
kay...
i was just wondering who here under 18 pays their parents rent? My mom doesn't make that much money... however she spends tonnes of money on weed & wine daily, and clothes every time she goes out on a date... and she just bought a brand new pair of k2 rollerblades when her old ones are perfectly fine. Now shes crying her eyes out about how far into debt she is and that she wishes i would get a full time job at age 17 and help her pay rent. I have told her i will be getting a full time job and helping pay rent starting in september as i will not be going to college until january. This isn't good enough. I told her she should cut down on such luxuries and she started screaming about how she needs to enjoy her life cuz she has no friends. My question to her was.... well if you can barely pay your rent and you have to beg your 17 yr old who JUST graduated, to pay rent... can you really afford to be buying all this shit for yourself all the time? i dont know... what are your guys opinions on this... am i being selfish? or is she being an imature parent with no budgeting skills? Last edited by baby_bluez; Jul 28, 03 at 05:16 PM. 
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Jul 28, 03
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your mom sucks ;*(
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Jul 28, 03
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your mom has a substance abuse problem and is blaming it on you. in fact, she's seeking you to help aid the issue.
you've got to get her to see that she does have a problem, and that you want to help. but that you won't support her addictions. dicey situation... good luck.
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Jul 28, 03
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As soon as I get a job I have to pay rent...So I will probably start paying rent as of 16...Yah I know what it is like my mum was telling me she was going to make me pay rent and it fuckin pissed me off...
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Jul 28, 03
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paige sweety... u dont have to pay rent until your 18.. if your just doing it out of your heart to help your mom cuz shes struggling then thats cool! but she can't MAKE you pay rent... shes legally obligated by federal law to support you until your the age of majority (18) which im turning in august
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Jul 28, 03
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She said she is making me fuckin pay rent stupid bitch...She told me to go get a job because at 16 I should start paying rent...Otherwise she is kicking me out! :finger: She is a big bitch!
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Jul 28, 03
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excuse me are you calling me a stupid bitch... i hope not!!!!!
If thats the case with your mom... my advice to you is let her kick you out... then call social services and they will provide you with an allowance for rent, food, transportation etc... and you can have your own job, go to school and live on your own, beats paying her rent and living by her rules. Its an alternative to foster homes. Still she legally has to support you till you're 18... thats why she gets a family allowance check in the mail! She can kick you out.. but she has to support you still. Its the law.
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Jul 28, 03
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Move out...that's what I did when I was 17 and life became soooo much easier...
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Jul 28, 03
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Jul 28, 03
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i guess it all comes down to love. do u love ur mom enuff to get her in trouble with social services? does she love u enuff to kick u out? do u love each other enuff to have this escalate to a point where it never should?
paying rent at 16 is bullshit, i agree. but if she really needs the money, then it is for ur own benefit to pay, as it will affect your quality of living. as to the alcoholic mom, i say u steal all her alcohol, sell it at profit to underage kids, and use the money to pay rent. ironic? aye :kam:
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Jul 29, 03
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you have a tough situation...
the rent at 16 is bullshit...and i mean, crackjoy...how do you know it actually WILL improve the quality of her living...it might only include the quality of her mothers... i know what it's like to have a selfish mother...and i no longer live with her...so that's how i dealt with it. my advice...find a roommate in the summer, get a job and pay your own rent!
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Jul 29, 03
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holy shit..your mom needs to grow the fuck up. she has some serious problems that need to be dealt with, i can now understand why you wanted to move out so bad earlier.
i think that it owuld be wise for you to find a room mate and get a place of your own.
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Jul 29, 03
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if you are gonna help pay rent and you don't mind doing this...make sure she doesnt see the money...give it right to the landlord...
although this is a very tough situation...because if you pay...say $100 for rent...even if u do give it to the landlord...well now your mom has an extra $100 to spend on booze and other shit. i think you need to talk to your mom, try to tell her to get some help...i dont know your mom so i dont know if she is into substance abuse as someone mentioned... but if she is...just try and get her to join AA hopefully she'll listen.
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Jul 29, 03
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what? she has a substance abuse problem and it is affecting her financial situation, and her relationship with her daughter. are you saying that the status quo should continue since the short period of instability isn't worth it? that the long term goals aren't worth the short term strife? if so, this is a cowardly take on things. Quote:
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and i'm mainly joking about the selling alcohol to underage kids.
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Jul 29, 03
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Holy cow...
Your mom needs help. And I wouldn't pay her a dime unless she got some. You need a full time job and your own place. Find someone that wants to move out. Then take your mom to see someone. Let her get some help and help her through this. Giving her money isn't going to help her or you.
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Jul 29, 03
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if your parents want to to pay a substantial amount of rent move out and pay rent for a place of your own.
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Jul 29, 03
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Hayley...I think you really need to sit down and talk 1 on 1 with your Mom...
I mean like you said...She's not a millionaire...She has to pay rent...Supply food and take care of you...She owes bills mnthly...Your Mom needs to really look at what her NEEDS are and limit her WANTS... If you really are gonna help her out in the house with rent and what not that's already AWSOME on your part...You ALREADY do a lot of choirs and do what you can to make things easier for her so really what more can she want/expect from you?  If I could be 1/2 as GOOD as you are to your Mom as I am with my Mom & Dad that would be a MIRACLE...I don't pay rent...I don't do much choirs around the house...etc! I know I have it easy...*sigh* :(
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Jul 29, 03
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As everyone has said, your mom needs serious help, but if she's freaking at you when you mention that she needs to watch her spending, than do you really think she's going to take it well when you tell her you think she has substance abuse problem and needs help?
My advice would be to go to Alanon or Alateen at least by yourself. Then there would be a support network other than your friends/the rest of your family, who KNOW about those types of situations. And maybe it's not (just) substance abuse...maybe there are bigger issues at hand here. Regardless, talk to someone who's "been there". Good luck.
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Jul 30, 03
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Someone should remind her that her childhood is long over and that she needs to start acting like a responsible adult. She's way out of line.
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Jul 30, 03
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from: http://www.qp.gov.bc.ca/statreg/stat/E/96113_01.htm "No hiring of children under 15 without director's permission 9 (1) A person must not employ a child under age 15 without the director's permission. (2) A parent or guardian must not consent to a person employing a child under age 15 unless the person has obtained the director's permission. (3) On permitting the employment of a child under age 15, the director may set the conditions of employment for the child. (4) An employer must comply with the conditions of employment set under subsection (3)."
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Jul 30, 03
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Haylez hun i know exactly what u mean my moms the exact same way. All you can do for now is smile and nod and hope they change their mind if worst comes to worst you can move into a box in an alley with me n kimmy! :c-tard: it'll be fun!
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