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seriously!! what is wrong with people?!?
OK!!! can someone please explain to me what is wrong with people? i just spent the past 2 days to hell and back!
Some guy @ my work who likes me (ryland) went and made up a rumor that he slept with me. My b/f's (Alex) friend Geoff heard this and of course went around and told everyone in a group of friends....so they were all talking about it and noone came up to me and asked me what was going on..they just kept talking about what the had heard from geoff. So it finally got around to my b/f on friday night and of course he lost it! and said he was gonna break up with me among other things (name calling) i tired to tell him it was all a lie and but he wouldnt belive me for the life of him. So i had to go to work yesterday all tired and puffy faced because i had been up all night crying and trying to tell my b/f this was a lie....i called ryland to ask him what the fuck was going on and tell him to tell people the truth..and seeing as how fucked up this kid is and how obsessed he is...hes all like "are you sure thats what you want me to do?..."(implying that he knew if he didnt tell the truth then my b/f would break up with me and he would get to finally go out with me..(which would never happen)) Anyways...so my b/f calls me at work and says i should come get my shit and how he never wants to see me..so im all crying at work and they send me home. I went staight to my b/f's and tryed talking to him..and he still wouldnt belive me..i even told him i would get a lie detector test! and he didnt belive me. So...we set ryland up. we called him at work, i was on one phone and alex was on the other...(ryland didnt know this)..and by talking to himgot him to admit it never happened...while my b/f was listening in. SO now he finally belives me. I went to work today and ryland showed up and man did i give that kid shit. He still denies the fact that he said anything (lying piece of shit), but everyone just thinks he is a loser now (which he is)...HOW COULD ANYONE DO A THING LIKE THAT??!! he wanted to look like a cool guy saying he scored....but he just looks like the biggest loser now!!! :finger: heres to you cool guy! ~V |
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^ I agree - management and then write your MP
It's amazing how even after highschool we can all fall so quickly into dramam, believing what other people say - passing it on and no one thinks to check with those involved trust and truth go hand in hand - you tell your boy you did not do something, and yet he is so lost in the drama, so caught up in the idea that you could have done something that he doesn't listen to his girl of 5 years You did not cheat on him - he did not listen there is a problem - and it's one that needs to be addressed Sometimes our word is all we have - and I expect those that know and love me to believe what I tell them (and you should too) Becasue I have never given them any reason not to - and I suspect if you have been with your boy this amount of time that he should know you and take your word over that of the gossip folks. |
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^^^i fully agree with jingles.
he should have believed you. if you've been together for that long you would think that he would know you well enough to believe you. he's living in insecurity. which is an unhealthy state if you ever want your relationship to grow and mature. good luck. |
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^^^ how about explaining the situation...
and isn't lieing about having SEX with someone a form of SEXUAL harrassment? i would mention that... tell him especially now you feel uncomfortable around this other person and he's brought your personal life into the workplace. a personal life that he isn't even a part of to start with. and because of all this he's caused you to miss work.?.... |
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^^^^ i actually wouldn't do anything to him physically...that way he can't turn around and charge you with assault...jackass.
especially if you do successfully get this guy fired. oh. and your bf...i was thinking about it. you've been together for 5 years? have either of you been with anyone else? i mean, not sexually, but in any other kind of significant relationship? because...if not, then his auto. turn on you could be him [consciously or subconsciously] finding a way to end things...why he would do this.?...because he's possibly feeling like he might* be missing out on something that he hasn't experienced with you yet... not to be a huge cow...and stur the pot. but i would really sit down and talk to him. |
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i was thinking about it today trying to figure out what i would say to my boss and i am stumped. I dont know if telling my boss what happened would get him fired. he'll think its all just girly stuff and mabie wont do anything about it?
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^Who cares if the boss thinks it's "girlie stuff"? If he takes no action, go over his head. Tht's what a chain of command is for.
The Canada Labour Code says: "Division XV.1 Sexual Harassment 247.1 In this Division, "sexual harassment" means any conduct, comment, gesture or contact of a sexual nature (a) that is likely to cause offence or humiliation to any employee; or (b) that might, on reasonable grounds, be perceived by that employee as placing a condition of a sexual nature on employment or on any opportunity for training or promotion. 247.2 Every employee is entitled to employment free of sexual harassment. 247.3 Every employer shall make every reasonable effort to ensure that no employee is subjected to sexual harassment. 247.4 (1) Every employer shall, after consulting with the employees or their representatives, if any, issue a policy statement concerning sexual harassment. (2) The policy statement required by subsection (1) may contain any term consistent with the tenor of this Division the employer considers appropriate but must contain the following: a) a definition of sexual harassment that is substantially the same as the definition in s.247.1; (b) a statement to the effect that every employee is entitled to employment free of sexual harassment; (c) a statement to the effect that the employer will make every reasonable effort to ensure that no employee is subjected to sexual harassment; (d) a statement to the effect that the employer will take such disciplinary measures as the employer deems appropriate against any person under the employer's direction who subjects any employee to sexual harassment; (e) a statement explaining how complaints of sexual harassment may be brought to the attention of the employer; (f) a statement to the effect that the employer will not disclose the name of a complainant or the circumstances related to the complaint to any person except where disclosure is necessary for the purposes of investigating the complaint or taking disciplinary measures in relation thereto; and (g) a statement informing employees of the discriminatory practices provisions of the Canadian Human Rights Act that pertain to rights of persons to seek redress under that Act in respect of sexual harassment. (3) Every employer shall make each person under the employer's direction aware of the policy statement required by subsection (1). " http://www.mun.ca/sexualharassment/Legality.html |
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sooo...i called the labour relations...employement standards and everyone else i could..and told them the situation...and they all said theres nothing really i can do about filling a sexual harassment complaint. the only thing they said i could do is talk to my boss about arranging not to work the same time as him, or sue him for slander. i dont know if i should even bother telling my boss now...i dont want her to think its just stupid gossip then i get in trouble. I think its just time for me to royally kick the shit outta him!!!!
~V |
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