what's up with all the rudeness??

[Joanne]

I always make an effort to be on time. I don't sell people out. I listen when a friend has problems. and for the most part, I call people when I say I will call.

but lately I haven't been getting the same respect that I've been giving.

I've been sold out 3 times by a single person. I've had people change plans without even calling to tell me what the changes were, with not even a single apology when I finally got a hold of them. I've had friends who have had problems that I've listened to every little thing they've had to say, but when I bring up one of my concerns, it's like they never heard it and the only person we should be talking about is THEM. oh and let's not even start with the tardyness.

I've come to the conclusion that I have been hanging out with some pretty fucking selfish people. I am going to start being selfish from now on! :P

--Joanne :P

[krisamata]

i know exactly how you feel

i still won't talk to one friend right now because of the absolutel disgusting way she treated me...and stood me up etc etc



but dont get too selfish...get selfish enough that you're getting what YOU want and YOU'RE happy...but not so selfish that the friends who are really your friends don't even wanna be around you!!!


good luck..

[fadedsignal]

Originally Posted by bananasinpjs

I always make an effort to be on time. I don't sell people out. I listen when a friend has problems. and for the most part, I call people when I say I will call.

but lately I haven't been getting the same respect that I've been giving.

I've been sold out 3 times by a single person. I've had people change plans without even calling to tell me what the changes were, with not even a single apology when I finally got a hold of them. I've had friends who have had problems that I've listened to every little thing they've had to say, but when I bring up one of my concerns, it's like they never heard it and the only person we should be talking about is THEM. oh and let's not even start with the tardyness.

I've come to the conclusion that I have been hanging out with some pretty fucking selfish people. I am going to start being selfish from now on! :P

--Joanne :P

you shouldn't be friends with those who have no respect for you...

[G-Style]

this seems to be a growing problem these days for many people. People have little or no respect for other people and their property. Some of the people on this board are prime examples of this.

[decypher]

man u need to search for some new friends.. i hate self centered people like that.. i got a couple friends like that so i distance myself from them.. and just recently found a whole bunch of new people to hang out with who aren't jews...

[krisamata]

^^^ so you dont like having jewish friends??!?!?

[~lazee_grrl~]

Jo....CALL ME..we should hang out..=)

[Joanne]

Originally Posted by fadedsignal

you shouldn't be friends with those who have no respect for you...

well, there's a little more to it than that.

some of these friends I've been friends with for over 10 years. for the most part, they're good to me... they've been there when I've needed them and I have a lot of fun with them. it just seems to be 'let's-screw-Joanne-week" lately :P

I'd like to think that I have enough respect for myself to not bother being friends with people who really have no respect or regard for me.

one big thing I'd really like to add is I really hate people who are constantly tardy or unreliable and people just pass it off as just being who they are! ie. 'oh, don't worry, so and so is ALWAYS late! you know what they're like!'. I'm sorry, but that is really no excuse. I really think constant tardyness is a sign of selfishness. do they believe that my time is so disposable that you can waste my time waiting for you? sheesh.

--Joanne :P

[Liqwid]

check yer pm's jonanne!!!

`Dalyn

[penguinabc123]

i had a bunch of freinds of five years through high school, decided they were all asses who didnt give a rats ass about anyone but themselves and said screw them. had a small period with aobut two friends but ive met more now, people who are real people with a normal brain, either make them figure out there asses or they will never learn.

[jomama]

Originally Posted by bananasinpjs

I always make an effort to be on time. I don't sell people out. I listen when a friend has problems. and for the most part, I call people when I say I will call.

but lately I haven't been getting the same respect that I've been giving.

I've been sold out 3 times by a single person. I've had people change plans without even calling to tell me what the changes were, with not even a single apology when I finally got a hold of them. I've had friends who have had problems that I've listened to every little thing they've had to say, but when I bring up one of my concerns, it's like they never heard it and the only person we should be talking about is THEM. oh and let's not even start with the tardyness.

I've come to the conclusion that I have been hanging out with some pretty fucking selfish people. I am going to start being selfish from now on! :P

--Joanne :P

welcome to the real world.... nice guys finished last

[miss.myra]

I know what you mean Joanne...

I mean we realize that our friends aren't perfect and that life can totally get hectic at times and I can totally understand that...its when these things get to a point where I feel someone is taking advantage of my time and energy that I feel pretty let down...in those cases, I find that a simple apology or a raincheck usually helps. Selling out or being late for no valid reason without a 'sorry' is pretty fing rude.

[Jingles]

i think this is one of the joys of being a nice person...sometimes we are so nice, or have been so understanding in the past that peeps step on us from time to time
make sure that you let them know that they hurt you, and that you would not do the same to them
friendships are a relationship ..and like any relationship, they involve two peeps giving and taking
sometimes friends don't realize they are taking their pals for granted or that they are just taking and fogetting to give