Issues

thumper · #1 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

hey gang,

this goes out to the psychology majors or just the chicks who are smarter about this. i don't usually post something like this on the net, but here goes... about 2 hours ago i was eating dinner with the family. my older brother who is sitting with us has been acting shitty the moment he got home like throwing his weight around and giving flippant sarcastic remarks whenever my parents asked him something. anyway, i'm fixing a salad and my mom goes, Can i sit down with you guys? and basically the brat decides to grab the chair next to him and drags actually flings it to where she's standing. my dad asks him what's his fucking problem and he just goes, 'I was settled'

the rest of dinner goes off without a hitch except to say he's giving everyone the evil eye and is eating as fast as possible. i get up to do some shit and my mom asks him to wash his own dish. suffice to say, he starts freaking out saying that it's my turn to do the dishes and that he has to do homework. and even though i never say anything usually i just had call him on his shit and told him that he was disrespecting the whole family and he basically threatens to leave the house and not come back. fuking drama queen i know. i dunno if that's enough detail, but my question is.. what the fuck?

Discuss.

TipSy · #2 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

wow 3 threads about the same thing?

thumper · #3 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

oops, computer jammed. i'll get on it.

Scarface · #4 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

Tell him to "quit being a bitch and c'mon" .

Maybe he is on his man rag?

SquiLa · #5 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

emotional teenage angst (hormones) and/or stress combined. even if he doesnt have something that's stressing him out specifically (or can't recognize it) he has stress cuz even the smallest things seem much heavier and intense when youre a moody teenager. also could be drugs. emotional fluctuations from the drugs from the weekend - if he does them. certain kinds more than others

if not, then could be something that happened to him out in th real world. or at worst a mental disorder (bipolar or schizophrenia) i know someone who was schizo, for a while - it just developed over time then at 22 they had to be admitted. but they had a bad temper a lot.

thumper · #6 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

^^we're a bit older than that. i'm 20 he's 23. i guess i should also say that my family isn't very expressive. we rarely call someone on their shit, for example i have an aunt who's absolute hell to be around and no one has ever told her to clean up her act but instead makes concessions. he acts like he's too much of a scholar (because he goes to badass SFU, oOooh) that he's beyond the work of commoners (washing dishes). i dunno, some kind of centric type behavior.

thumper · #7 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

so my sobstory isn't very fascinating then. goodbye cruel word... :293:

Ms.Chop · #8 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

u cant say for sure wuts the deal if u only post about one situation thats happened... no background on ur brother was made.. 'cept for the fact that he goes to SFU.. which could possibly lead to him being stressed out from school..

it could be various things... jus think about things in his past, present and maybe wut he might be thinking bout for his future (i.e career etc.) put urself in his shoes and try to understand it..

if u cant figure it out and ur his own brother.. then wut makes u think people that have no idea who ur brother is or how he usually acts will be able to analyze the situation.. especially over jus one little incident...

my advice is jus to put urself in his shoes.. or at least try... add up all the information u gather and try to pin point wut may be the problem.

galaxie · #9 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

How old is he?
My bro can be a bitch like that, too!

Gusto · #10 (**permalink**) Oct 26, 04

23? he should move out anyway.

thumper · #11 (**permalink**) Oct 27, 04

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Originally Posted by Ms.Chop

u cant say for sure wuts the deal if u only post about one situation thats happened... no background on ur brother was made.. 'cept for the fact that he goes to SFU.. which could possibly lead to him being stressed out from school..

it could be various things... jus think about things in his past, present and maybe wut he might be thinking bout for his future (i.e career etc.) put urself in his shoes and try to understand it..

if u cant figure it out and ur his own brother.. then wut makes u think people that have no idea who ur brother is or how he usually acts will be able to analyze the situation.. especially over jus one little incident...

my advice is jus to put urself in his shoes.. or at least try... add up all the information u gather and try to pin point wut may be the problem.

we all have bad days, but he was totally disrespectful to my parents. he thinks he's so clever to come up with his sarcastic shit all the time and i wanna kick his ass. it's like he's a chick. he can't compartmentalize, ya know? i mean when i have a long shitty day i usually chill out, watch tv, or do something. like most men. instead he comes home and goes on a rant about how no one appreciates him taking it out on everyone else and all this shit. sorry if this isn't very coherent

stringbeans · #12 (**permalink**) Oct 27, 04

your brother is a little bitch on his period.

discuss.

SquiLa · #13 (**permalink**) Oct 27, 04

Hmm. Well, in this case then, I would say it's stress (from school or anything really). Maybe he realized that he doesn't like what he's taken at SFU after however many years (happens to a lot of people) and now he's dealing with it with whatever defence mechanisms (<-- look up).

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Originally Posted by thumper

^^we're a bit older than that. i'm 20 he's 23. i guess i should also say that my family isn't very expressive. we rarely call someone on their shit, for example i have an aunt who's absolute hell to be around and no one has ever told her to clean up her act but instead makes concessions. he acts like he's too much of a scholar (because he goes to badass SFU, oOooh) that he's beyond the work of commoners (washing dishes). i dunno, some kind of centric type behavior.

SquiLa · #14 (**permalink**) Oct 27, 04

Werd, mad werd. Wow, do your parents pay for his tuition too? Must be nice.

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Originally Posted by gusto

23? he should move out anyway.

.muffy. · #15 (**permalink**) Oct 27, 04

Maybe there's something else going on in his life that he wouldn't feel comfortable talking about with you and your family. Some people turn really inward and dont even realize that their behaviour is unacceptable or even that they're the one in the wrong. I'm not condoning this behaviour at all just saying that maybe its just a phase and he just might just not know how to deal with it in any other way other than being a prick.
However.

If he treats your parents with such disrepect then why does he still live at home? Maybe its time your parents kicked him from the nest.
Lots of university students live away from their parents, it's called getting a student loan and dealing with it.